Do little annoyances keep piling up until you feel overwhelmed and reactive? In this episode, Diana Hill explores why annoyance isn’t just about what’s happening—it’s shaped by your capacity (stress, heat, hunger, sleep) and the story you tell about the incident. Diana shares how noticing her own story with an airline agent, Wade, helped her soften, connect, and respond differently—ultimately increasing her ability to be with what is.

Listen and learn:

• How stressors like heat, hunger, and poor sleep reduce your capacity and increase irritation
• Why the “story” you tell can turn a small incident into a bigger threat.
• How separating from others fuels annoyance—and connection can shift it

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