Do you feel thrown off balance by praise, blame, fear, or stressful news when life hits hard? In this Secret Sangha episode of The Wise Effort Show, Dr. Diana Hill continues the four-week “four immeasurables” series by focusing on equanimity—steady love—as the prior condition of balance from which pleasant and unpleasant experiences arise. She explores how the “eight worldly winds” can destabilize us, how the near enemies of equanimity show up as indifference, control, adding on stories, or acting out, and shares personal examples from her own life. Diana offers practical ways to return to steadiness through essential self-care, stillness and silence, flexible attention to what stabilizes you, remembering “enoughness,” and being the calm you seek.

1. How the “eight worldly winds” can knock you off balance
2. The near enemies of equanimity: indifference, control, adding on, and acting out
3. How stillness, silence, and essential self-care support steady love
4. Practices like flexible attention, remembering enoughness, and “being the calm” you seek

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You can also enjoy Diana's related Bonus Meditation: Equanimity

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