Self Centered™ with Katie and Allie

It's a Valentine's Day Special! In this episode, Katie and Allie break down the concept of "verb love" and what it means for love to be a signal vs what it means for love to be noise. Allie recounts a recent personal experience that illustrates the differences between love and verb love within a friendship. This episode is beneficial for anyone looking to create deeper relationships with themselves and others and those looking to better understand how love and compatibility coexist in relationships without being mutually exclusive.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:

• What is the difference between "love" and "verb love" and how does it present itself in our relationships
• How to distinguish love as a "signal" vs love as "noise"
• Why ignoring the warning signs that love may be noise breaks down relationships and takes you away from yourself
• Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) and Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) as therapy tools
• Using "verb love" as a tool to gauge compatibility in relationships
• When to let go of someone you "love" in order to stay self centered

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RESOURCES:

• Brené Brown "The Power of Vulnerability"
• 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 NIV
• DBT Self Help: Checking the Facts of Your Emotions

DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

The information provided on this podcast does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals.

Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of licensed healthcare providers, mental health practitioners, coaches, or other appropriate professionals regarding their individual circumstances.

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In this episode, Katie and Allie discuss the emotion of anger, both when you're feeling and expressing it and when other people are angry with you. This episode is helpful for people who feel uncomfortable with their or others' anger, don't know how to communicate it in a healthy way, and want to create a better relationship with their anger others' anger.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:

• When anger is truly legitimate vs. when it's subconsciously covering up the REAL (and uncomfortable) emotions.
• What anger is trying to tell you and what to do with that message.
• Why anger can be so triggering to feel or receive, even when it's valid.
• How to deal with the uncomfortable feelings that come up when people are angry at you.
• How not allowing yourself to acknowledge, feel, and respond to your anger is actually disempowering you.
• How to communicate your anger and respond to others' anger in a healthy way.
• Why conflict can actually lead to better, closer relationships if you know how to handle it properly.
• Standards for how people should treat you when they're angry, even if you truly messed up.
• How to remember you're still a good person even when you understandably make others' angry!

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SOURCES:

DBT Check the Facts Skill

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES:

• The National (USA) Domestic Violence Hotline Website
• The Hotline call number: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
• The Hotline text number: Text "BEGIN" to 88788
• The Hotline online chat
• Click to find local resources

DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

The information provided on this podcast does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals.

Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of licensed healthcare providers, mental health practitioners, coaches, or other appropriate professionals regarding their individual circumstances.

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When faced with the life changing process of becoming more self centered, you might ask yourself "Do people ACTUALLY say and do these things? What does life REALLY look like in the midst of carving out this path?"

In this episode, we share with you our personal experience of what life felt and looked like as we learned to set boundaries, sit with challenging emotions, redefine vales, and stay in our seats. It's not always a pretty path, but the life you create is worth it.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:

• Tools and strategies to support you on your journey to becoming more self centered
• Approaches to visualizing emotions
• Distinguishing between distraction and avoidance tactics
• When might therapy make sense
• What therapy modalities should you look for in a mental health professional to assist with becoming more self centered
• How to love yourself through the pendulum swings of growth

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DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

The information provided on this podcast does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals.

Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of licensed healthcare providers, mental health practitioners, coaches, or other appropriate professionals regarding their individual circumstances.

The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and any related content is at your own risk.

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How do you maintain your self-esteem when people have negative perceptions of you and, even worse, spread gossip and make other people see you negatively, too?

In this episode, we cover strategies for dealing with negative perceptions, smear campaigns, family conflicts, and the importance of setting healthy boundaries so you can stay true to and feel good about yourself amidst it all.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:

• How to cope when others judge you negatively or convince others that you're bad/selfish/crazy, etc.
• That people might misunderstand you because of their own insecurities and psychological state.
• How unconsciously (unintentionally) reacting to conflict and disagreements with a victim mindset keeps you stuck in the "Drama Triangle", and how to respond more effectively to stop drama in its tracks.
• About the complexities of narcissism and that you can have empathy for narcissists, emotionally immature, and toxic people while also protecting yourself with boundaries.
• The difference between constructive feedback and disempowering judgment.
• How to give yourself grace and remember that being imperfect is part of being human.

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SOURCES:

Website of Psychiatrist and Creator of the "Drama Triangle" Framework, Stephen Karpman, MD

"'We Can Bury Anyone': Inside a Hollywood Smear Machine" by the New York Times

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES:

"Escaping the Drama Triangle" by University of South Carolina Human Resources

"Justin Baldoni Sues Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds for Defamation" by The New York Times

Disclaimer: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

The information provided on this podcast does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals.

Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of licensed healthcare providers, mental health practitioners, coaches, or other appropriate professionals regarding their individual circumstances.

The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and any related content is at your own risk.

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We all aspire to live a life with no regrets. So what exactly DO people regret when they've come face to face with the end? And how can we avoid experiencing these regrets ourselves?

In this episode, we discuss Bronnie Ware's The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying and how these regrets occur when your life doesn't truly center you. We also discuss connections between physical health and emotional suppression as presented in Gabor Maté's The Myth of Normal. This episode will empower you to realign your life with the priorities that matter most to you so you can live a happy and healthy life with no regrets.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:

• 5 common deathbed regrets and how you can avoid them
• the potential connection between cardiac health, chronic illness, and suppressed emotions
• the evolution of friendships as we age and the importance of nurturing aligned relationships
• how conditions of worth shape our core beliefs and thoughts
• how personal choice and an internal locus of control can help you reclaim your power and change the trajectory of your life

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SOURCES:

Bronnie Ware IG/FB: @bronnie.ware YT: Bronnieware1

Gabor Maté IG: @gabormatemd

Who Americans spend their time with, by age

Disclaimer: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

The information provided on this podcast does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals.

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This is your comprehensive masterclass on exactly how to set and follow through on boundaries, say no, and set expectations for what you want and need in relationships. This is a crucial skill you MUST learn and use in order to be self centered, especially if you have trouble being assertive or you've been made to feel bad for putting yourself first.

This episode has tons of real world examples of exactly what to say to set boundaries in the first place AND what to say when people push back on them so you can stand firm with confidence.

Tune in and then save this episode for the next time you need to set boundaries!

IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:

• A clear and concrete description of what boundaries are
• A 4 part template for what to say and how to say it
• A customizable affirmation to validate yourself so you feel confident setting boundaries
• How to deal with guilt and fear of hurting people's feelings
• What's beneath the surface when people try to manipulate you into giving up on your boundaries and how to stick with them instead of getting derailed
• How to respond when other people set boundaries with you

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Disclaimer: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

The information provided on this podcast does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals.

Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of licensed healthcare providers, mental health practitioners, coaches, or other appropriate professionals regarding their individual circumstances.

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It's New Year Resolution time! This popular annual ritual can be a valuable tool for prioritizing health, finances, and personal alignment with the start of a fresh year. But unfortunately, even with the best intentions, less than 1 in 10 individuals will achieve their new year goals.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:

• How to set goals that truly matter to YOU
• Habit stacking and tools to combat common resolution pitfalls
• Leveraging mindset and delusion
• How self awareness and emotional honesty can make or break your goals
• Letting go of perfectionism while working towards a goal

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REFERENCED STUDIES:

Kurth, F., Gaser, C., Sánchez, F. J., & Luders, E. (2022). Brain Sex in Transgender Women Is Shifted towards Gender Identity. Journal of clinical medicine, 11(6), 1582. https://doi.org/10.3390/jcm11061582

Transgender brains are more like their desired gender from an early age: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2018/05/180524112351.htm

Bastos, A.P.M., Houghton, Z.N., Naranjo, L. et al. Soundboard-trained dogs produce non-accidental, non-random and non-imitative two-button combinations. Sci Rep 14, 28771 (2024). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-024-79517-6

DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

The information provided on this podcast does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals.

Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of licensed healthcare providers, mental health practitioners, coaches, or other appropriate professionals regarding their individual circumstances.

The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and any related content is at your own risk.

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In this episode, Katie and Allie discuss the concept of finding your center across the 8 dimensions of wellness, exploring what it means to thrive versus merely survive. This episode is especially helpful for you if you feel off-balance, want to understand what it means to live authentically, or are seeking a practical framework to improve your overall well-being.

Join Katie and Allie in this deep, reflective conversation that will inspire you to align with your authentic self and create a life where you feel centered, empowered, and thriving.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL LEARN:

• A framework for finding your center

• The 8 dimensions of wellness and how they shape your well-being

• How to assess where you are thriving versus surviving in your life

• Personal stories from Katie and Allie about navigating challenges and finding balance

• How to move closer to your center

• How to trust your intuition and use it as a guide for decision-making

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DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

The information provided on this podcast does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals.

Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of licensed healthcare providers, mental health practitioners, coaches, or other appropriate professionals regarding their individual circumstances.

The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and any related content is at your own risk.

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In this episode, Katie and Allie discuss common limiting beliefs and the patterns that consciously and sub-consciously get in the way of being self-centered. This episode is helpful for people who feel "stuck" in unhealthy patterns, self sabotage, or relationships that cause you to leave your seat.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:

• Examples of limiting beliefs
• Understanding objectification and its impact on the quality of your relationships
• Common responses that signal potential relationship imbalance (J.A.D.E)
• How limiting beliefs prevent you from being self centered
• Questions to ask yourself to help work through your limiting beliefs
• How practicing self-centered builds trust

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New episodes launch every Tuesday!

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DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

The information provided on this podcast does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals.

Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of licensed healthcare providers, mental health practitioners, coaches, or other appropriate professionals regarding their individual circumstances.

The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and any related content is at your own risk.

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In this episode Allie and Katie share a practice that will put an end to overextending, abandoning, and burning yourself out, "staying in your seat". This practice is especially helpful if you have a big, empathetic heart, have difficulty setting boundaries, and tend to overfunction and do too much for others.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL LEARN:

• What it means to "stay in your seat" and 3 steps to do it
• Strategies for identifying your needs and boundaries
• How to prevent one-sided, imbalanced relationship dynamics
• How to stay true to yourself
• How to deal with the guilt and fear of saying no and putting yourself first

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New episodes launch every Tuesday!

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DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

The information provided on this podcast does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals.

Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of licensed healthcare providers, mental health practitioners, coaches, or other appropriate professionals regarding their individual circumstances.

The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and any related content is at your own risk.

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