Self-Leadership Group

In this powerful and engaging workshop, professional rugby player and trainee sports psychologist Sebastian De Chaves shares the practical application of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) for high performance and everyday mental resilience.

Drawing from his experience in elite sport and psychology, Sebastian walks you through the CBT model of thoughts, feelings, and behaviours—highlighting how our internal responses drive external outcomes. You’ll explore the concept of “mind the gap”, which introduces a moment of conscious awareness between stimulus and response, helping you to make more empowered choices under pressure.

Expect a blend of theory, humour, real-life examples, and interactive exercises designed to help you:

• Build awareness of unhelpful thought patterns
• Challenge and reframe limiting beliefs
• Understand the feedback loop between thoughts, feelings, and actions
• Develop simple tools for better emotional regulation
• Strengthen consistent habits through behavioural reinforcement

This session offers clear, usable strategies you can apply immediately.

In this workshop we dive into something that affects every part of your life—boundaries. Boundaries relate to several of the 7 pillars from the confidence workshop, notably, knowing your values and your why, self-trust, and who you surround yourself with. 

Most of us weren’t taught how to set boundaries. Boundaries are not about pushing people away. They’re about protecting yourself and what matters to you. And, as the endless studies and evidence shows us; this is closely related to building and maintaining confidence. 

 (Consider this the 8th pillar of confidence if you like!) - but it has many more benefits than just confidence, and that's why it absolutely deserves a module in itself. In this workshop we are focusing on boundaries around relationships. 

At their core, boundaries are all about who we give power to. They force us to analyse why we may not be giving ourselves permission to work and live in the way that we feel is best for our well-being. If we’re not deciding our lives, schedules, and workloads, who is? Boundaries allow us to decide when, how, and if we give this power away.

This is a new and specific hypnosis centred on consolidating this psychological anchor so you can use it to your advantage when you need to. 

As you know it's a technique for immediately changing your state, your energy. And it's very much a practice. And with practice it gets better. It gets stronger. And unlike other mental skills and techniques, this is very fast and easy to implement. 

It's a really powerful and very effective proven technique for immediate state change to the mind and body. 

When the trigger is fired, the state change happens immediately. 

In this workshop we reinforce the NLP anchor from last the Part 1 workshop and follow this with a new and specific hypnosis centred on consolidating this psychological anchor so you can use it to your advantage when you need to. 

As you know it's a technique for immediately changing your state, your energy. And it's very much a practice. And with practice it gets better. It gets stronger. And unlike other mental skills and techniques, this is very fast and easy to implement. 

It's a really powerful and very effective proven technique for immediate state change to the mind and body. 

When the trigger is fired, the state change happens immediately. 

There are thousands of papers published on self-confidence or self-esteem, and many of these papers connect self-confidence with success in life.

In this workshop you will:

 - Understand Confidence 

 - Learn how to build confidence (Through 7 Key Pillars)

 - Come away with a Powerful NLP Anchoring technique for immediate state change, trigger confidence when you need it! This is not to be missed. 

Anchors are used widely at the highest levels of sport, business & performance. 

NEW: Hypnosis - Achieve Your Goal

Powerful Visualisation Exercise for Achieving your goals. 

Visualization is a skill that can be trained and improved with consistent practice, just like any other skill.

So if you say you're no good at visualising, then you're probably right, if you haven't been practicing it. 

People often think of skill development as a physical thing. 

There are significant opportunities for mental skill development too, and this is one of them. 

Visualising what we want is a mental skills, that can be easily overlooked in today's world as society, the news, social media, all of these things are out to hijack that amygdala, to grip your emotional centre, and keep us locked in worry.

Visualisation takes work, time and effort, but the results are profound on mental wellbeing and performance. Visualisation is a key skill we will continue to develop. 

Visualisation promotes neuroplasticity.

In this workshop you will understand Visualisation and it's profound impact on performance. You will practice a visualisation exercise followed by a new hypnosis.

This isn’t about ‘feeling better.’ It’s about having an internal support system when life gets tough. In this Part 2 workshop you'll understand what self-compassion is, and you'll learn to develop your own internal support system. Create your personal self-compassionate affirmation to keep and revisit when times inevitably get tough. 

Self-compassion. That might not be something you hear often, especially when we talk about being a man. But self-compassion isn't about being soft—it’s about having your own back. It’s about resilience, emotional strength, and long-term mental health and mental and emotional strength.

Self-compassion means treating yourself, just like how you would be kind to a good friend or family member who is going through a tough time. (helping them move emotions, moving that energy).

It's about being understanding and supportive to yourself, even if you made a mistake, feel not good enough, or are dealing with difficult situations.

Self-compassion integrates with a growth mindset and even Emotional Intelligence.

This isn’t about ‘feeling better.’ It’s about having an internal support system when life gets tough. In this (part 1) you'll understand what self-compassion is, and you'll learn to develop your own internal support system.