Sex Etc.

54 | It's important to go inwards and tune in to all the messages we tell ourselves about sex. It's even more important to understand further where these messages have stemmed from; this is how we question our conditioning. Often, these messages come from external factors such as society, our upbringing-- what our parents, teachers, or anyone else who has influenced us have told us. All of these things impact how we relate to ourselves. In this episode, I want to break down and explore common messages that we have possibly received growing up about sex, pleasure, and masturbation. I explain how they could be affecting us, conditioning us, and holding us back from experiencing deep pleasure.

53 | The world of BDSM is very raw, honest and there are alot of common misconceptions. When it comes to sexual expression, I believe it can be powerful and healing. Peeling back all those layers is never a sweet and vanilla experience though, it means we have to let go of any shame, conditioning, or judgment. If you're here, you're probably curious to know more a bit more about it, and you're in luck because today's guest is going to break down the BDSM 101 for us.

52 | When I had my first astrology reading, I was absolutely blown away-- It was the beginning of a spiritual and energetic self-discovery journey. Later on, I discovered Human Design, and things started to shift dramatically for me. Understanding your unique human design gives you insight into your life's purpose. It can improve the way you make decisions, how you show up in your personal/professional life, and guide you into living a more impactful life.

51 | When we first fall in love, we have a biochemical reaction. There's an increase in dopamine, to the point we almost feel intoxicated. It's like drug addiction. We've all been there when we meet someone and suddenly feel starry-eyed and infatuated. We place that person on a pedestal, but this comes from a place of limerence. In this episode, I'll be diving into all things love, lust, and limerence. I'll be sharing all about why we experience limerence, how to recognise the signs, and how to tune into your body to understand these biochemical reactions so you can maintain healthy relationships with yourself and your lovers.

50 | Compulsory heterosexuality has been ingrained into us since we were born. Although more conversations around bisexuality and everything else outside of what society deems as 'normal' have recently begun to open up, much of our conditioning comes into play when we're even starting to question and allow ourselves to explore our sexuality.

49 | Far too often, as a result of capitalism, we measure our worth by output metrics. How much did you do today? What have you produced? What tangible things have you contributed to society? How much money have you made doing that? After spending most of my life absolutely beating myself up for being what I labeled as lazy and inconsistent and forever trying to be more productive. I'm proud to say that I no longer identify with being productive.

48 | If you're listening to this podcast, then chances are you have a vulva, or you have sex with people with vulvas. Unfortunately, for many people with vulvas, sex can tend to be more painful than pleasurable. One in three women will experience pain during sex, while up to 17% (one in ten women) will be diagnosed with a related condition called Vaginismus. Women's pain is notoriously undervalued in the medical field, and anything to do with women's sexual function is seen as unimportant.

47 | Have you ever had really delicious sex only to feel disconnected, disappointed, or even just straight up disrespected afterward? Maybe your lover got up straight away, to leave or to do something else. Perhaps they rolled over and went to sleep without saying a word to you or just grabbed their phone and started scrolling. Any of those things sound familiar? If you've experienced these feelings or had a partner behave like this, you need aftercare.

46 | For many of us, especially those who identify as women or vulva owners, our arousal doesn't get sparked simply by the visual. It's the tease, the setup, the anticipation that gets us going to be intellectually stimulated. Enter erotica, but not as you know it. I'm so excited in this episode to introduce you to Carly Pifer, founder and editor in chief of Aurore. Aurore is a modern literary erotica site that shares real sex stories written by women and queer people. Aurore is designed to turn you on and help others get turned on through sharing true stories of people's sexual experiences.

45 | Labiaplasty has been one of the fastest-growing medical procedures for about two decades now. Despite the abundance of surgeons performing this procedure, detailed clitoral anatomy has been missing from most medical textbooks. My guest today, Jessica Pin is an activist for the inclusion of detailed clitoral anatomy and medical literature and curriculum. Jessica has successfully convinced nine major medical textbooks to update their content and 11 more to consider updates. She has also published a cadaveric study with plastic surgeons, convinced OBGYNSs to publish a cadaveric study and effected changes in the OBGYN's board certification and residency curriculum in the States.

Jessica's Instagram: https://instagram.com/jessica_ann_pin