Julie Peters, author of Want: 8 Steps to Recovering Desire, Passion, and Pleasure After Sexual Assault, shares her insights regarding recovery and the return to desire, sexuality, trust, and pleasure after assault. Her approach is grounded in gratitude, mindfulness and pleasure and is relevant to survivors of all genders as well as the general population.

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Sex & Pleasure After Sexual Assault

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You're listening to the SAX with Dr Jess podcast sacks and relationship advice. You can use tonight . Welcome to the sex with Dr Jess podcast. I'm your co host Brandon wear and I'm just so Riley your friendly neighborhood sexologist before four we get started. I want to say a big. Thank you desire resorts and cruises for their ongoing support of our little podcast here you can find out more about desire and their clothing optional cruises and resorts at Desire Experience joining us today is Julie Peters the author of want eight steps to recovering desire passion and pleasure after sexual assault. Thank you for being here. Thank you so much for having me. Can you tell us a little bit about your journey that led to in writing this book absolutely yes so I was assaulted quite a few years ago now in a sort of a date rape kind of context it with someone that that I knew really well entrusted a good friend and I just kind of went through this journey afterwards where I've found that my like my life had just sorta lost its color and it took me a long time to kind of recognize what was happening and that I had experienced trauma essentially really and one of the questions that I really had as I was going through that was like where is my sexual desire like what happened to my body. Why don't I feel like I want to feel connected with anybody in that way and so you know I did some research late night google? What do you do like you've been assaulted and you know what is it and the best advice I could get at? The time was just don't until you want to which I thought was really. I mean sure fair enough but like there's so much more the Matt and so I kind of figure it out on my own and this book is really everything that I learned during that time using my yoga meditation practices and all kinds of other things to kind of find my way not only back to sexual desire but really to in new way of understanding outstanding my sexuality and a new way of feeling connected in my body and feeling like I was kind of having color not only again but sort of in new it's interesting because after trauma we often talk about connecting to your body and has a yoga instructor and a Yoga Practitioner. You probably are very much connected to your body but that doesn't always mean that it's sexual or Roddick yeah absolutely and sort of depending on who you ask there are lots of spiritual traditions that really see sex as dangerous as sort of like an energy that could disrupt your spiritual path and one of the things that really helped me as I was kind of going on this journey was I'm learning about Tom Tra- as sort of a different perspective on that so you know a lot of the one of the ethical precepts of Yoga is Brahmachari which is usually translated celibacy...