Winning an Oscar triples your chances of getting divorced. And though you may not be in the running for an Academy Award, your personal and professional successes can adversely affect your relationship — but they don’t have to! Dr. Natasha Sharma joins Jess to discuss how you can ensure that your success serves to enhance — not threaten — your relationship.

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Do you want to seduce your lover with confidence and finesse? Marla Stewart can help. She joins Jess to talk about the “Seduction Learning Approach". She uses real-life examples to help you understand your own desires and your partner’s. Jess and Marla also share specific suggestions to use your words, body, actions and more to seduce your lover with confidence — and to teach them to return the favor.

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Luna Matatas joins Jess to talk about threesomes. From how to snag a unicorn to how to navigate those awkward moments, we’ve got you covered.

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Do you pee when you laugh? Is sex sometimes painful or uncomfortable? Is orgasm rather elusive? A pelvic floor therapist might be able to help with these concerns & more! Marcy Crouch, joins Jess on the podcast to chat about the science & application of pelvic floor therapy.

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Do you feel insecure with your partner at times? We all do. Brandon and Jess team up once again to share personal experiences and anecdotes about how they’ve encountered and tackled insecurity in their relationship. Jess also shares practical tips for dealing with your own insecurity and your partner’s.

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How do you prioritize sex? How do I stop myself from starting fights when I’m on my period? How can I get my partner to be more romantic? And would you leave if he cheated? Jess and Brandon (Jess’ way better half) answer listener questions and share their own stories of marriage — the good, the bad and the chocolate-chip-walnut-cookie!

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The Princess of Porn, Tasha Reign, joins Jess this week to discuss sexual confidence and reflect on her experience as an adult actress. She shares her unique insights and both Jess and Tasha share their top tips for boosting your sexual self-esteem.

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How do you get over your partner’s sexual past? What is 'Ski-Poling’? How can you ensure that your family likes your new partner? And what should I do with my hands during ‘the sex’? Jess tackles these questions and more in this week’s podcast. Tune in!

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Jess is joined by licensed psychotherapist Miyume McKinley who answers listener questions about sex and depression. Tune in for insights on how to talk to your partner, show support and prioritize self-care when dealing with depression.

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Here’s a summary of the advice offered in this podcast:

If you’re managing depression:

Give yourself permission to take care of yourself first. Your sex life and your partner can wait. I suggest you address the depression first with your mental health professional and then work on the sex itself.

But if sex is going to take a backseat and you have a partner, you need to communicate this to them so that they understand why perhaps you’re not in the mood for sex. It may seem obvious to you that it’s the depression that’s getting in the way, but it may not be obvious to them. So tell them — in no uncertain terms that you’re taking care of yourself and it’s not personal. It doesn’t mean you’re not attracted to them and it doesn’t mean that sex isn’t a priority or won’t be moving forward, but right now you’re working on something else. And this isn’t a one-time conversation; you do have to keep checking in so that sex or the absence thereof doesn’t become an elephant in the room.

Cut sex into pieces. Figure out what you like about sex most or perhaps that requires the least effort and do that — maybe you just want a quick orgasm and not the whole production. That’s fine. Do that and if you have a partner let them know. Or maybe you don’t want sex, but you’re up for making out, that’s cool too. Just because you’re not having “the sex” that you’re used to having doesn’t mean you can’t have some form of sex and all of the related benefits.

Be a little more selfish. I find that my clients tend to be givers. And though it may sound like a good thing, learning to be a taker is just as important as being a giver. As a taker, you learn to show appreciation. And as a taker, you learn to be more present and experience sex as opposed to just going through the motions as a performer. If there is one piece of sex advice I’d like to spread throughout 2018, it’s to be more selfish in bed. We’ve shifted from a culture of sexual gratification to a culture of sexual performance and it’s making sex less exciting and pleasurable in many cases. So, if you’re depressed and exhausted, sleep deprived, anxious, stressed or otherwise not in the mood, you can still ask your partner to help put you in the mood. You can ask them to service you. You can ask them to grab a toy or use their hands with lube or use their mouth and let them take care of you. You’re not a burden and you deserve a lover who helps to reinforce this reality.

If your partner is dealing with depression:

Tell them when you’re available for support and tell them when you’re not. If you’re going to be busy, away or distracted, let your partner know so that if you’re not available they won’t take it personally and feel rejected and uncared for. A simple, I love you and I want to support you, but I’m studying for a big exam this week so I won’t be around as much

Don’t give advice. Ask them what they need. And don’t wait until they’re at their lowest point to ask. It can be more helpful to chat on a good day about what they might need when they’re at a lower point. So wait for that good day and initiate the conversation. It can be hard to tell someone else what you need when you’re feeling down, unworthy, helpless and hopeless, so look for the moments when they’re not feeling like this to ask them for specific strategies you can employ when they do feel down.

Express your support in multiple ways — with words, actions, physical affection. It’s helpful to know their love language but if you can be trilingual it’s even better.

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Jess is joined by the brilliant and funny amateur porn star, Harper The Fox. Harper is a digital entrepreneur whose unedited sex tapes feature her having real, loving sex with her partner of 7 years. In this week’s episode, she shares her unique insights into the worlds of camming, porn and poetry, and she explains how to use toilet paper rolls as sex dolls. You don’t want to miss it!

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TL;DR: Real Sex Can Be Silly, Sweet, and Still So Hot

Amateur porn star and poet Harper the Fox joined us to talk real sex, real love, and toilet paper tube puppets.

She shares raw, playful, intimate videos with her real-life partner: laughter and hedgehogs included.

What makes Harper’s content stand out:

No scripts. No fake moans. No over-produced perfection.

Just real sex, in real places (35 states and counting).

She flips the script on what porn should look like, and who it’s for.

Sex isn’t always hot and heavy. Sometimes it’s:

Sweaty, silly, awkward, or deeply sweet.

Interrupted by laundry or hedgehogs.

A form of art, love, and connection, not just a performance.

Harper’s advice:

Let sex be weird and wonderful.

Don’t pedestalize it, play with it.

Treat porn workers with curiosity and kindness.

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Final takeaway:

Sex doesn’t need to look a certain way to feel good.

It can be clumsy and hot, tender and ridiculous.

Real Sex, Real Love & Toilet Paper Tube Puppets

What happens when performance meets intimacy and art meets authenticity? You get Harper the Fox, amateur porn creator, poet, and self-described sex traveler, who joined me to talk about her journey from webcam shows on stolen restaurant Wi-Fi to a site that offers unfiltered, loving, and yes, hilarious sex with her real-life partner.

Harper’s journey into adult performance started not in Hollywood, but in a sweltering, AC-less sublet in Washington State. She began camming with her long-term partner (and their hedgehog in tow) travelling the country filming real sex in real places. That’s not a metaphor. They aimed to film sex in all 50 U.S. states. They’ve checked off 35 so far.

Their raw, joyful, occasionally puppet-filled performances flipped the script on what porn “should” look like. No over-lit, soulless scenes here. Just laughter, connection, play, and the occasional paper tube stand-in when viewers got demanding.

Harper shared her insights with disarming wit: “If the camera’s more than 20 feet away, we’re probably not filming,” she laughs. And if she’s craving kisses? That POV rig gets in the way. It’s moments like these that remind us that sex can be serious, silly, intimate, and imperfect, and that’s what makes it powerful.

Amateur Porn Star Harper the Fox

Harper’s story is more than an account of sex work; it’s a love story. She met her partner, Max, during a summer of online dating flings in NYC. He was the only one she messaged first. Their first date lasted all night, and their connection endured across states, kinks,