This episode is for the following people:

• someone who wants to unlearn toxic beliefs & mindsets they’ve been taught (by family, the church, or even just general societal norms that are harmful)

• someone who wants to re-establish their overall mindset on themselves and the world; establish their true values

• someone who feels lost after leaving the church (wants to fill the gaps)

• advice for those who have different beliefs to their friends & family + how to manage these relationships

Disclaimer: This episode is not here to encourage you that this is the path YOU should take but to educate on deconstructing and how to even begin this process. I hope that the conclusions you may come to after listening to this episode speaks to YOU and gives you the framework to explore YOUR truth. I do not wish to offend anyone and know that this is just my personal journey, as I hope to encourage and help others in this process.

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Resources/Creators to Follow

Values Quiz

The Courage to Be Disliked - Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga (Book)

God is Grey - Youtube

God is Grey - Instagram

The Naked Pastor - Website

The Naked Pastor - Instagram

Do you have questions about bisexuality? Maybe you're bisexual or thinking you might be. Maybe you're in a relationship with somebody who identifies as bi and you simply want to educate yourself. In this episode, we discuss the reality of being bisexual: why it's something to be proud of, coming out, common mental health struggles, intersectionality, threesomes and more!

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Resources

Bi by Julia Shaw

Greedy by Jen Winston

Joining us is Sex and Relationship Coach, Alyssa Ljub, answering the super juicy anonymous questions sent in by you guys! In this episode, we touch on: exploring your sexual self & sexuality without shame exploring relationships with women for the first time (as a woman) open relationships/non-monogamy religious beliefs and sex ethical porn  how to stop having pain during sex enthusiastic consent & communicating your wants/needs in the bedroom 

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Have you felt like you're never the one to initiate? Do you want to have sex more, but you don't want to wait around to be asked? Has your partner asked you to initiate more but you don't know how? If you said yes to ANY of these questions: this episode is for you!

We all want our partners to feel wanted, but being the one to initiate sex can be challenging if you're not used to doing it. You might think it needs to be a grand gesture, but it doesn't! In this episode, I explain the different types of desire and how to apply it to your relationship (understanding this changed my sex life)! Plus, I give you 10 different ways to initiate sex, whether you're confident in this area or not. It's time to try something new and prioritize your pleasure!

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Want to know all my secrets? Not related to me? Great! Because in this episode, you'll get to know me a little better (or a lot better) and hear my advice on the messages you guys sent in! Enjoy hearing me overshare for an hour. Buckle up.

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Resources:

Fight The New Drug

Greedy by Jen Winston

God is Grey

Naked Pastor

Kosas - Deodorant

Aveda Hair

Dermalogica

Max Black Sex Shop

Have you ever tried to do it all at once? Have you ever been overwhelmed by the layers of everything you're trying to accomplish? This episode is about acknowledging the current season you're living in so that you can get the most out of your every day life. In this episode, you will get a step-by-step journalling practice that will help change the way you manage your goals and passions. 

This space will provide additional resources based on the weekly episodes. PLUS, a Book Club focused around self growth, sexual wellness and feminism (more info to come)! This is a chance for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod.

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Have you ever not gone for something because you "just can't picture yourself doing it"? So many of our daily choices come back to visualization and the lens we see ourselves through. It's time we wipe the smudge off that lens and see the potential that truly lies within us. In this episode, we discuss the science behind WHY visualization actually works and how you can incorporate it into your life to create the life you've always wanted. We discuss automatic negative thoughts and how to change the narrative because you deserve a live filled with decisions made out of self confidence, not fear. 

This space will provide additional resources based on the weekly episodes. PLUS, a Book Club focused around self growth, sexual wellness and feminism (more info to come)! This is a chance for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod.

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Sources:

The Powerful Connection Between Your Hips and Your Emotions

The Anti Anxiety Notebook

The Body Keeps The Score

Have you ever wondered... What even is an orgasm? Does it just feel good or are there other benefits? Why do I sometimes feel sad after sex? Well, today you get the answers! In this episode, we also cover how your pelvic floor, your hormones and even your self-confidence can affect your orgasms. Get ready to enhance your sex life!

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Links 

Ways to Give and Donate to Planned Parenthood

The Three Biggest Implications For Black Women From Roe V. Wade's Fall

This episode is all the inspiration you need to shift your mindset from "ugh I'm useless on period" to "my period is an opportunity to connect with myself". We talk about how to break out of the mindset of being in constant harvest and how to accept and even appreciate our cyclical ways of being. I share with with you all of the best foods to eat to support your hormones, the best exercise to do on your period, how to journal & reflect in this phase and how to create a work/school schedule that doesn't leave you feeling drained. It's time to shift our patriarchal beliefs around our periods and begin to lean into all the beautiful benefits they give us!

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This space will provide additional resources based on the weekly episodes. PLUS, a Book Club focused around self growth, sexual wellness and feminism (more info to come)! This is a chance for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod.

Resources:

In The Flo - Alissa Vitti

Why Does The FDA Recommend 2000 Calories

Being in a healthy long-term relationship is a beautiful thing. But sometimes, after things are comfortable and consistent, we can start to lose the excitement towards the sex life we share with our partner. This is often when people start questioning if the relationship is as good as they thought it was. It can be hurtful to not feel wanted and frustrating to see this spiral. But instead of assuming that a change in the sex life means the relationship has to end, why don't we talk about some alternatives. In this episode I give you an understanding of WHY this can happen and WHAT you can do to spice things up and get that feeling of novelty back.

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Resources:

Where Do Kinks Come From?

Frenchie - My fave condoms (hyaluronic acid ones are amazing) & lube!

Dame - great toy selection (US & Canada)

Max Black - all things sexual wellness (Australia)

Normal - Australia, US, UK, Canada, New Zealand