Ress from She Wolf Alchemy talks about the slow, messy, and beautiful process of finding pleasure again after stress or trauma. This episode explores how the nervous system holds stories of protection and how healing can sometimes mean reintroducing safety to the body before joy can return. With warmth and curiosity, Ress shares on the connection between trauma, the nervous system, and our capacity for pleasure ; especially in the pelvic and sacral spaces. Through honest and gentle practices, this episode invites listeners to befriend their own bodies, even the parts that have gone quiet.

In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress takes us on a deep dive into the quiet prisons we build in the name of safety. She unpacks how survival mode can trick us into believing that control equals security ; when in truth, it often keeps us small, tense, and disconnected.

Through real, relatable examples like overworking because we don’t trust rest, being hyper-independent to avoid disappointment, or shutting down emotionally to feel safe, Ress invites listeners to pause and reflect: Are the structures in your life protecting you, or are they caging you?

This conversation is both grounding and liberating . A reminder that emotional safety isn’t found in rigid control, but in trust, softness, and connection. Ress challenges us to audit the personal “rules” we live by and to allow those structures to evolve as we do. She closes with a soulful call to action: Trust yourself. Let your life be a living, breathing structure .One that grows with you, not against you.

In this reflective check-in episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress dives deep into the shadow side of empathy, what she calls “overstanding”: the habit of stretching your compassion so far that you lose yourself in someone else’s story. She unpacks how constantly excusing, explaining, and empathizing with others,especially at your own expense becomes a quiet form of self-abandonment.

Using personal stories, sharp metaphors, and grounded insight, Ress explores how emotional overextension can leave you drained, resentful, and far from your center. She offers empowering truths on how to recognize when you’re sacrificing your peace in the name of “being a good person” and shares practices for reclaiming your boundaries, energy, and authenticity.

In this season of sacred exhaustion, the She Wolf is pulling back. The podcast is going mini-mode while the host reclaims their energy. The She Wolf Alchemy podcast is switching gears, think less marathon and more mindful jog as your host reckons with the myth of Chiron. It’s time to alchemize the burnout, say yes to softness, and remember: you don’t have to bleed to prove you care.

In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress and Nique discuss the concept of 'perpetual freshman syndrome' where adults fail to take responsibility for their own growth and constantly rely on others for emotional labor. They explore how excusing such behavior can create codependency and normalize dysfunction. The discussion includes personal anecdotes about relationships and friendships where individuals refuse to grow and instead weaponize their incompetence. They also emphasize the importance of reciprocity, self-reflection, and setting boundaries to avoid being drained by others who refuse to do their own work.

Is "peace of mind" just you ignoring red flags in high definition? In this episode, hosts Nique and Ress take a candid dive into the emotional gymnastics we perform to keep the peace — whether it’s with bae, your bestie, your boss, or your cousin who still owes you money from 2018.

From sweeping issues under the rug (until you trip over the damn thing) to the slow drip of self-betrayal we call "keeping it together," they unpack the cost of pretending everything's fine when it’s clearly... not.

Tune in for real talk, personal stories, and tangible strategies on how to know when to speak up, when to let it ride, and how to stop betraying yourself for the sake of "vibes."

Because sometimes, "keeping the peace" is actually starting a war — with yourself.

Ress and Ashley unpack the real meaning behind “all skinfolk ain’t kinfolk,” getting into the messiness of how not everyone who looks like you is necessarily for you. They get into why some folks in marginalized communities end up caping for the very systems that hurt them — yes, Uncle Tom energy is still alive and well. From awkward work dynamics to celebrity betrayals, they dish on how peer pressure, self-interest, and clout-chasing can warp loyalty. The takeaway? Look beyond the optics, know what you believe, and uplift the people walking the walk — not just talking it on timelines.

In this episode of SheWolf Alchemy, Ress and Nique delve into the rising and complex world of house husbands! Listen as they discuss the growing number of men who trade briefcases for brooms while women climb the corporate ladder. Ress grapples with ambition versus domestic bliss, while Nique humorously tries to figure out how a house husband would work when she is trying to be a housewife. The pair talk about societal judgments, gender norms, and the occasional Xbox antics. With witty banter and personal anecdotes, they explore everything from financial dynamics to public displays of affection, striking a balance between humor and serious reflections on modern love. Don't miss out on tips for vetting house husbands and avoiding 'professional bums'—this insightful and funny look at non-traditional relationships is a must-listen!

You guys asked us to run it back on this topic so here we go again- This one's for the overachievers, emotional contortionists, and secret softies. Nique and Ress get real about the cost of being an over functioner — when vulnerability feels unsafe, and slowing down feels like failure. When being soft feels risky, and hyper-independence becomes your whole personality.From childhood pressure to adult burnout, they get vulnerable about emotional armor, grief over lost girlhood, and why slowing down feels terrifying (but necessary). If you’ve ever been praised for your independence while quietly drowning, prepare to feel seen.

This week, Ress and Gabi unpack what it feels like to be “love bombed by life”—those whirlwind moments when everything happens all at once: big wins, major curveballs, and life-altering changes that don’t exactly wait their turn. From new jobs and personal breakthroughs to emotional overload and decision fatigue, they explore how even the best things can feel like too much when they hit all at once.

Gabi opens up about her recent season of growth and transition, highlighting the unsung heroes—support systems, boundaries, and a solid cup of coffee. The duo dives into the idea of love bombing in relationships and cleverly flips it on its head to talk about how life itself can sometimes overwhelm us with "too much of everything."

They discuss the sneaky signs of burnout, the pressure to say yes to every opportunity, and why it’s okay to hit pause—even when life’s throwing glitter. With honest reflections and practical tips (think commitment audits, grounding rituals, and protecting your peace), Ress and Gabi remind us that while intense chapters are temporary, our well-being is not negotiable.