You may not have seen this coming, but we're saying it: Positive thinking ain't all it's cracked up to be.

If this sounds suspicious for a couple of life coaches to be saying, you're going to want to listen (or watch!) this month's side chat. We're diving in to the compulsion that SO many of us feel to stay positive at all times, and why that is NOT necessarily a good thing.

We talked about:

• Why so many people feel guilty or ashamed for having thoughts that aren't positive
• How pretending you're upbeat and positive, when you're definitely not, does a lot of emotional damage
• Why the ugly emotions—rage, anger, grief, sadness, frustration, jealousy—are totally acceptable, and not scary
• How to stop "faking it" and let yourself feel everything
• How to tell the difference between fake positivity and real positivity within yourself

After you've listened, leave a comment to let us know if you've been glossing things over with false positivity, and how this conversation sits with you!

WANT HELP PROCESSING EVERYTHING?

When you give yourself permission to feel ALL the things—positive, negative, and everything in between—there's a LOT to sort through. How do you tell what's important? What do you focus on first? And how to do you figure out what the end goal is?

Those are questions you don't have to answer on your own! If you'd like to get out of your own way, make more progress in months than you've likely made in years, and have an expert take the responsibility for guiding you through the ups and downs, then that's what 1-on-1 coaching is for:

Fill out the quick form on this page and we'll talk it out.

IF YOU LIKED THIS, YOU SHOULD ALSO LISTEN TO:

Emotional constipation with Joanna Platt (April, 2018)

Side Chat: Curing your people-pleasing disease (May, 2018)

Side Chat: We are not the crazy ones (how to tell if you're a highly sensitive person) (April, 2018)

Side Chat: When you want to fix someone, but can't (March, 2019)

Bonus Book Club! Outrageous Openness by Tosha Silver (November, 2018)

Bonus Book Club! It's Not Your Money by Tosha Silver (March, 2019)

LINKS

Mari Andrew's Instagram: @bymariandrew

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