So … I was in a therapy session and my therapist said something that filled me with, as I told Kristen during this episode, "The wrath of hell."

Why? Because she, unintentionally, broke one of the cardinal rules of anyone who's in a therapy/coaching/healing profession: Make the person in front of you feel seen and heard.

I brought her my very raw, tender emotions about something that was deeply troubling me, and in her attempt to help, she used an analogy that made me feel very unseen and unheard–and worse than that, almost made me feel gaslit and belittled. Cue rage erupting from me akin to the fires of hell.

But, in classic fashion, my rage gave me an opportunity to coach myself (it turns out, of the two of us I'm probably the better coach for me anyway). And in getting to the bottom of why I was so triggered, I made a HUGE realization:

I was angry because she had treated one of my needs as if it was a want. So, I decided we definitely need to have a Side Chat about this! Listen in as Kristen and I talk about…

• The analogy she used that made me feel like she was diminishing my needs.
• How, in an attempt to be evolved, we often end up gaslighting ourselves out of having needs.
• Why treating needs as needs, rather than wants, makes room for you to have ALL the uncomfortable emotions, without feeling guilty about it.
• Why it's totally normal to be attached to your needs, and how you definitely don't have to worry that being attached will mess up your ability to receive what you want.

After you listen, come leave a comment to share something you've been treating as a want, that might actually be a need!

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