Been ghosted by your Dom? Did a kinky relationship end abruptly and you're left pining? Breakups are always tough – in BDSM, they're tougher. Trust and consent are such fundamental components of any dynamic that a rupturing of these things can feel devastating. It's abandonment, but without the play. Don't fret, though, co-hosts Anna and Gregor are here to walk you through the healing process, so you can get back to indulging the kinks you love. 

Timestamps:

• Intro [00:00:00] 
• When your kinky partner breaks it off [00:05:07] 
• Ghosting – forget the idea of closure [00:07:09] 
• When a breach of trust ruins a dynamic [00:10:26]
• Do the impossible: forgive [00:13:17] 

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 Today, BDSM podcast royalty is in the studio with co-hosts Anna and Gregor. Tina Horn’s podcast ‘Why are people into that?!’ – where she has candid, thoughtful and steamy conversations with people about sex, kink, gender and love – is a go-to audio bible for fetishists everywhere. Horn found the kink community through sex work and Domming and is now a world-renowned author and creator of sci-fi sex work comics, a diehard queer punk, and an “educatrix”. Don’t miss this one. 

Timestamps:

• Intro [00:00:00] 
• Exploring BDSM and sex work for the first time [00:04:33]  
• 'Why are people into that?! Podcast' about sex and kink [00:05:38] 
• Sexual subcultures in the San Francisco Bay Area [00:11:28]
• Acing consent and communication in kink [00:19:17] 
• Learning from each other and having fun [00:29:23] 
• On why sex and gender expression is important [00:33:47] 
• Supporting sex workers and the sex work community [00:38:02] 
• Finding community in kink and BDSM [00:43:09] 

Listen to Why are people into that?! on Apple, Spotify, Google or wherever you get your podcasts.

Check out Tina's website here. Her Twitter is @tinahornsass. And find her on Instragram here.

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"The butt is the new pussy", says co-host and anal aficionado Gregor. In this new episode of BDSM Basics, he gives Anna the lowdown on all things anal, prostate stimulation and the gateway to new forms of pleasure. Expect expert anal-ysis on preparation and practice, how to try butt play for the first time, and why everyone should be using lube. Straight, gay, bi or anything in-between, the bum is for everyone. Welcome to anal 101.  

Timestamps: 

• Knowledge is power in anal play [00:01:47] 
• Be open and understand your limits [00:09:50]  
• Try on yourself before experimenting with other people [00:14:59] 
• Relax, breathe – and lube! [00:15:15]
• Fisting [00:15:25]

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On the perks of being a bisexual boyslut!! New York columnist, author, and sex expert Zachary Zane is in the studio with hosts Anna and Gregor to talk about his bisexual journey and how the community has got stronger over the last ten years. They talk ethical non-monogamy, struggling to exist in both queer and straight culture, and why being slutty is the best way.

Timestamps:

00:00:00 Intro
00:04:44 Bisexuals need acceptance and support.
00:09:09 Men need sex positivity too.
00:10:41 Create inclusive sexual communities.
00:16:18 Bi people are valid and accepted.
00:21:27 Embrace and love each other.
00:29:10 Straight people welcome in queer spaces.
00:33:53 Kink community is tolerant.
00:35:00 Rejecting people is tough.
00:40:38 Explore your kinks freely.

Check out Zachary's website here. His new book is called Boyslut and you can buy it wherever books are sold.

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BDSM contracts: what are they, who needs them, and why? That's what hosts Anna and Gregor are discussing in the newest episode of BDSM Basics. Forget what you learnt in Fifty Shades of Grey – get a real education here.

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Spank U, Next: A Fetish & BDSM Podcast is back and bigger than ever! To kick off season 3, hosts Anna and Gregor are joined by entrepreneur, businesswoman and social sex activist Cindy Gallop to talk real sex  – not porn. Cindy learned about the negative effects of porn on IRL sex by exclusively dating younger men, and as a result founded her company MakeLoveNotPorn in 2009. In this episode, Cindy talks real sex for real people, Big Tech's big problem with adult content and how she's changing the future of sex tech for women. 

Timestamps: 

• Intro [00:00:00] 
• How MakeLoveNotPorn was born [00:08:41]  
• Real world sex vs. porn fantasy [00:13:20] 
• Why female founders struggle to get funding [00:15:12]
• Advertising sex tech: The big white male problem [00:19:33] 
• A new ad tech for banned sex-positive businesses [00:24:41] 
• Sexual safety concerns on social media [00:28:23] 
• De-kinkifying sex [00:33:51] 
• A new kind of sex education for children and adults [00:38:19] 
• Lessons in pleasure [00:42:53] 

Check out Cindy's website MakeLoveNotPorn here. Watch her TED talk here. 

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Join the revolution of pleasure. Spank U, Next: A Fetish & BDSM Podcast is back for a third season with hosts Anna & Gregor from Fetish.com. Look out for the first episode of season 3 dropping this week! 

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Listen to an old fan favourite while the hosts plan more spicy content for season 3.  Enjoy a walk down pegging memory lane and listen to the first – and by far most popular – episode ever while you wait.

Here, Anna and Gregor sit down with no-frills sex educator Lola Jean to talk first-time pegging, anal communication & squirting like a pro. Get the low-down on straight men embracing prostate stimulation as they dive deep into the greatest tool for self-exploration: the bum. You'll also hear from the squirting world-record holder about how to reclaim female ejaculation from the male gaze. Lola Jean talks about her own journey and answers the question: can all women squirt? 

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Enjoy a very special Spank U, Next bonus episode that takes a microscopic view of kinks in the British royal family, celebrity culture, and the hottest fetish trends of the last year. Think of it as a retrospective on the BDSM cultural zeitgeist. 2022 may be over, but better late than never... right? Expect conversations on Prince Harry's first sexual experience, as detailed in his explosive memoir, Spare, and his brother Prince William's rumoured love of pegging. Hugh Grant has also been into S&M for twenty years (he says) and the internet is awash with #hot new kinks to try. 

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'Tis the season for festive cheer. And multiple orgasms. Carve out some time for yourself over Christmas and settle down by the fire with a special Fetish-phone. It's Christmas Eve. She should be stuffing her turkey, but instead, she's getting stuffed by 3 hot guys. What greater gift could anyone ask for? As always, this episode is NSFW or appropriate for families. Please listen with discretion. 

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