Jordane Giuly is a 3x co-founder having started French Fintech unicorn Spendesk and most recently SMB financing company Defacto. As a French entrepreneur he brings an interesting, international perspective to parenting and company building. He’s a loving husband and the father of two kids. In our conversation today we discussed:

* Comparing California cuisine to French cuisine

* The differences in parenting support between France and the U.S.

* Deciding how many kids to have

* Raising kids internationally while starting a company

* Paternity leave for startup founders

* Doing diaper changes while talking to investors

* Watching your own parents become grandparents

* How becoming a Dad has influenced his leadership style

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Where to find Jordane Giuly

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jordane-giuly/

* X: https://x.com/jordanegiuly

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:28] Welcome

[1:55] Jordane’s professional life

[3:46] How does CA cuisine compare to France?

[4:41] Jordane’s childhood

[6:44] His sister as a co-founder

[7:33] Support structures in France for parents

[10:32] Startup founder support system

[12:28] His family now

[15:19] Starting a company & raising a kid at the same time

[16:38] Changing diapers during investing calls

[18:41] His wife’s career

[19:54] Amount of kids discussion

[20:49] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[22:37] Having a “super hairy kid"

[24:25] Most surprising thing about being a dad

[26:09] Young grandparents

[26:32] Advice for younger Jordane and what to ignore

[29:30] Fav book to read to his kids?

[30:45] Parenting frameworks

[32:45] Grandparents for childcare

[32:53] How has Jordane’s parenting style changed from one to two kids?

[35:30] Has being a dad changed his leadership style?

[37:47] What do Jordane and his wife not agree on?

[39:47] Relationship he wants his kids to have with tech?

[40:55] Recharge batteries

[41:54] Will he be running in the streets during the Olympics?

[42:43] Mistakes made as a dad

[43:37] What did he give up to become a dad?

[44:01] Where to follow along

[44:36] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Spendesk: https://www.spendesk.com/

DeFacto:https://www.getdefacto.com/

Stanford: https://www.stanford.edu/

Open Classrooms: https://openclassrooms.com/en/

Daft Punk: https://www.daftpunk.com/

Queen: https://queenonline.com/

Where the Wild Things Are: https://www.amazon.com/Where-Wild-Things-Maurice-Sendak/dp/0064431789Paris Olympics: https://olympics.com/en/paris-2024

Seine River: https://www.britannica.com/place/Seine-River

Birkenstocks:https://www.birkenstock.com/us

Stupid rabbit show: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Simon_(French_TV_series)

Star Wars: https://www.starwars.com/

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Dave Boyce is a successful five-time exited founder, a GTM expert and owner of the newsletter ProductLedGTM.com. He sits on the board of Forrester and has just completed the final manuscript for his book on GTM strategy which comes out in 2025. He’s a loving husband and the father of six kids, ages 16 to 28. In our conversation today we discussed:

* How to raise a family of incredibly successful kids

* Competition in the family when you’ve got PhD students, applied math majors, ML scientists and accomplished athletes

* The importance of play-based childhood

* The value of hard work

* How to reframe achievement so it’s not about getting the ‘A’

* The importance of noticing your kids differences

* Being home when you’re home

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Where to find Dave Boyce

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/boycedave/

* Newsletter: productledgtm.com

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:37] Welcome

[2:11] Professional background

[3:20] Childhood

[6:22] Dave’s family

[10:12] Wife’s decision to go back to work

[12:12] Play-based childhood

[14:49] Instilling the value of hard work

[17:02] Most surprising thing you discovered as a dad

[19:14] Advice for younger Dave

[20:50] Manufacturing unprogrammed time

[22:39] Advice to ignore

[24:01] Defining achievement

[26:23] How has being a dad changed you professionally?

[29:39] An area where you and partner don’t align

[31:12] Establishing roles

[32:25] Being home when you’re home

[34:32] Something you gave up to be a dad?

[36:57] Fav music experience with a kid?

[38:38] Recharge batteries

[40:38] Mistake you made as a dad

[42:47] More challenging things as a dad/large family

[45:56] Follow along

[47:23] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Forrester: https://www.forrester.com/

Oklahoma State University: https://go.okstate.edu/

Nike: https://www.nike.com/

Cheaper by the Dozen: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0349205/

Punk Rock Bowling: https://punkrockbowling.com/

Madness: https://www.madness.co.uk/

Fenway Park: https://www.mlb.com/redsox/ballpark

Oracle: https://www.oracle.com/

Fundly: https://fundly.com/

Dough cutter: https://www.amazon.com/Scraper-Stainless-Polished-Measuring-Multipurpose/dp/B01D1GE1KE

iPad: https://www.apple.com/

Teletubbies: https://us.teletubbies.com/Swiss Family Robinson: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0054357/

Dumb and Dumber: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0109686/

Tommy Boy: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0114694/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

Nacho Libre: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0457510/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

Napoleon Dynamite: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0374900/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_3_tt_6_nm_2_in_0_q_napol

Planes, Trains and Automobiles: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0093748/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

GMC Yukon XL: https://www.gmc.com/suvs/yukon

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For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Darby Saxbe is a professor at USC and holds a PhD in Clinical Psychology. Her research includes studying the effects of stress hormones in couples and most importantly the changes that the male brain undergoes after becoming a parent. She has scientifically discovered slight gray matter loss in men following fatherhood and termed it Dad Brain. She is currently writing a book about her research. She’s also a wife, musician in a Mom Band and mother of two kids! In our conversation today we discussed:

* Early influences on her scientific research

* What it was like having two kids while getting your post doc

* The neuroplasticity of the brain

* Stress hormones in couples

* How fatherhood reshapes men’s brains to make them more efficient

* Changes in the ‘default mode network’ and the visual network in new Dads

* How brain changes are different in new Dads vs. new Moms

* The implications of her research for public policy, paid family leave and the support for new parents

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Where to find Darby Saxbe

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/darbysaxbe/

* X: https://twitter.com/Darbysaxbe

* USC: https://dornsife.usc.edu/nestlab/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:52] Welcome

[2:25] Professional background

[5:18] What was the spark for the research?

[8:26] Did having children during postdoc help shape research?

[10:08] Cortisol

[13:57] Dad brain

[25:55] Should we worry about brain shrinkage after becoming a parent?

[29:55] Brain efficiency in parenting

[31:33] Default mode and visual network for Dads

[35:43] Enhancement in social cognition

[38:06] Indifference

[40:35] Parental leave

[44:48] Darby’s book/ future research

[48:35] Advice to new parents/dads

[51:10] Follow along

[52:05] Darby’s Mom band

[54:55] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Darby’s Research: https://dornsife.usc.edu/nestlab/publications/

Prenatal prolactin predicts postnatal parenting attitudes and brain structure remodeling in first-time fathers: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0306453023003104

Darby on Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.com/citations?hl=en&user=q676bXMAAAAJ

Dad Brain is Real: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/06/16/opinion/dad-brain-fatherhood-parenting.html?unlocked_article_code=1.0E0.biCq.04uwT7G2QN-x&smid=url-share

More on Dad Brain: https://theconversation.com/brain-study-identifies-a-cost-of-caregiving-for-new-fathers-227319

Cortical volume reductions in men transitioning to first-time fatherhood: https://academic.oup.com/cercor/article-abstract/34/4/bhae126/7645338?redirectedFrom=fulltext&login=false

USC: https://www.usc.edu/

Fulbright: https://us.fulbrightonline.org/

UK Biobank: https://www.ukbiobank.ac.uk/

Scrooge McDuck: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scrooge_McDuck

Super Why: https://pbskids.org/superwhy/

Inside Out: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2096673/

Inside Out 2: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt22022452/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

Beetlejuice: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0094721/

Throwing Muses: https://throwingmuses.com/

The Killers: https://www.thekillersmusic.com/

Breeders: https://www.thebreedersmusic.com/

Seven Up!: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0058578/

Rushmore: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0128445/

A Hard Day’s Night: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0058182/

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For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Eric Bahn is the co-founder and a GP at Hustle Fund—a pre-seed venture fund that invests in very early stage founders. He has also been a founder himself as well as a product leader at companies like Intuit and Instagram. Most importantly, he’s a husband and the father of two kids. In our conversation today we discussed:

* What it means to feel joy in coming home to your family

* His decision with his wife to have children

* How to prioritize your spouse

* Life integration rather than balance

* Some non-traditional methods of recharging his batteries

* A hilarious tangent about home projects including a recent plumbing success

* What emerging companies he has seen that could have a significant impact on kids and future generations

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Where to find Eric Bahn

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericbahn/

* X: https://twitter.com/ericbahn

* Website: https://www.hustlefund.vc/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:54] Welcome

[2:30] Professional background

[3:06] Explaining career to his kids

[4:16] Grew up in Detroit

[5:12] Childhood

[7:14] Immigrant family/being Korean in Detroit

[11:03] Talking to kids about how Eric’s parents culturally assimilated

[13:00] How did you meet wife/what does she do?

[15:45] Decision to start a family

[19:53] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[21:50] Most surprising thing you discovered?

[23:44] Parenting approach helped professional life?

[26:53] Prioritizing wife over kids

[29:45] Where you and partner don’t agree?

[33:30] Eric’s home plumbing tweet

[36:10] Advice for younger Eric?

[39:41] What does it mean to “hustle” vs. family life?

[43:57] Leadership style influenced by having kids?

[47:37] What things has he seen in VC that will affect kids?

[52:18] What relationship do you want your kids to have with technology?

[55:09] Recharge batteries?

[59:38] Mistake you made as a father?

[1:00:08] Follow along

[1:01:11] Rapid fire

[1:04:52] Thank you

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Show references:

Hustle Fund: https://www.hustlefund.vc/

Instagram: instagram.com

Intuit: https://www.intuit.com/

8 Mile: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0298203/

McAllen, TX: https://www.mcallen.net/

Patrick Thompson Epidsode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qDbmT4AgizQ

“Juicy” By Notorious BIG: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_JZom_gVfuw

Sonoma Raceway: https://www.sonomaraceway.com/

F1: https://www.formula1.com/

Squatty Potty: https://www.squattypotty.com/

Cocomelon: https://cocomelon.com/

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For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Yousuf Bhaijee is a Growth Gdvisor and interim Head of Growth to companies like Brightwheel, HP, Evernow and Blackbird. Chris Lloyd is an engineer who most recently worked at AI company, Humane, and also Pinterest, Assembly and Opera. Yousuf is the father of three kids and Chris is the father of two.

Chris and his family, Yousuf and his family and five other families live in a town-home complex that they all collectively bought several years ago. There are now a total of fifteen kids at the complex! In today’s conversation we discussed:

* How this whole modern day commune experiment got started

* What it means to live in a modern day commune

* The shared rituals, benefits and drawbacks of this lifestyle

* The positive impacts on mental health

* The benefits of sharing

* How gender roles take on new meaning in communal living

* The most surprising aspects of a communal lifestyle

* Family privacy and parenting styles when you live in close proximity with others

Where to find Yousuf Bhaijee

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yousufbhaijee

* X: https://twitter.com/ybhaijee

Where to find Chris Lloyd

* X: https://twitter.com/chrislloyd

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:47] Yousuf & Chris Introduction/Welcome

[4:46] Family Life and Hottakes 

[10:42] Commune Living - What it is

[12:44] Commune Living - How it came to be

[17:50] Logistics & Agreements

[19:42] Gender Roles

[21:30] External Judgements

[23:36] Macro and Micro Rituals

[26:15] Social Media

[27:15] Functionality of Commune Living

[30:00] Family Privacy & Parenting Styles

[35:52] Changes in Mental Health

[39:22] Modern Day Sharing Economy

[42:37] Discoveries of Living in a Commune

[45:00] Vulnerability & Parenting Advice

[50:48] Technology and the Communal Impact

[57:12] Parenting Mistakes as a Dad

[1:00:25] Reaching Out

[1:00:00] Rapid Fire

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Show references:

Amazon One Medical: https://health.amazon.com/prime

Brightwheel: https://mybrightwheel.com/home-b/

HP: https://www.hp.com

Evernow: https://www.evernow.com/

Blackbird: https://www.blackbird.xyz/

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com

Assembly: https://www.joinassembly.com/

Opera: https://www.opera.com/

Eaze: https://www.eaze.com/

Zynga: https://www.zynga.com/

Humane: https://humane.com/

WWDC: https://developer.apple.com/wwdc24/

Disney: https://www.disney.com/

Paw Patrol: https://www.pawpatrol.com/

Blippi: https://blippi.com/

Nickelodeon: https://www.nick.com/

Lovevery: https://lovevery.com/

SNOO: https://www.happiestbaby.com/products/snoo-smart-bassinet

NoseFrida: https://frida.com/products/nosefrida

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For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Scott Belsky is the Chief Strategy Officer and EVP of Design and Emerging Products at Adobe. He took on this role after being Chief Product Officer for their flagship Creative Cloud products. In 2006 Scott founded a company for creative professionals called Behance which he later sold to Adobe. He is also an active angel investor having invested in companies like Pinterest, Uber, Carta, Warby Parker, Ramp, Airtable and more. He’s a loving husband and the father of three kids. In today's conversation we discussed:

* How his perspective on building now incorporates his family

* Advice to founders who are starting a family

* Supporting his wife as a co-founder

* Fostering creativity in kids and observing where creativity comes from

* Support systems necessary for maintaining busy lives

* How AI has already changed the world for kids

* What AI is going to do for education

* The philosophy behind his wife’s company, Good Inside

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Where to find Scott Belsky

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/scottbelsky/

* X: https://twitter.com/scottbelsky

* Scott’s newsletter: https://www.implications.com

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:48] Welcome

[2:14] Has your business perspective changed since having a family?

[3:51] Advice to founders starting a family

[5:16] Family

[6:04] Wife’s co-founder role

[8:15] Decision to start a family

[10:05] Fostering creativity in kids

[12:00] Favorite picture 

[13:18] Most surprising thing as a dad

[14:35] Support systems in busy lives

[17:12] How has AI changed the world for kids?

[19:26] What is AI going to do for Education?

[22:20] Advice for pre-kid Scott about becoming a dad

[24:28] Advice to ignore

[26:49] Good Inside philosophy

[28:36] Mistake you mad as a dad?

[29:41] Where do him and wife not align?

[30:38] Follow along

[32:16] Rapid fire

[34:56] Thank you

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Show references:

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/

Uber: https://www.uber.com/

Carta: https://carta.com/

Warby Parker: https://www.warbyparker.com/

Ramp: https://ramp.com/

Airtable: https://www.airtable.com/

Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/

Behance: https://www.behance.net/

Columbia: https://www.columbia.edu/

Good Inside: https://www.goodinside.com/

Harriet Tubman: https://www.womenshistory.org/education-resources/biographies/harriet-tubman

Michael’s: https://www.michaels.com/

North Fork River, CO: https://northforkranchguideservice.com/north-fork-of-the-south-platte-river/

Frida Baby: https://frida.com/collections/baby

Crib camera: https://www.amazon.com/Monitor-5Display-Pan-Tilt-Zoom-Temperature-Lullabies/dp/B09GM8JZM9/

Emirates: https://www.emirates.com

Blues Clues: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0163929/

Forrest Gump: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0109830/

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For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Patrick Thompson is a three-time founder, starting a company right after college and then founding and selling his second company, Iteratively, to Amplitude in 2019. He stayed on as a Director of Product until leaving recently to co-found his third company, Clarify, a next generation CRM platform. He’s a loving husband and the father of one kid. In today's conversation we discussed:

* How to manage a young family with starting a company

* The differences between his last startup when he wasn’t yet a parent and this one

* Having the conversation with your partner about getting back to building

* Investing in your relationship with your partner

* The concept of “first team” and applying that at work and home

* Rituals for quality time with your kids

* Recharging his batteries as both a parent and founder

* Top tips for airplane travel with an infant

* A potty training disaster story

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Where to find Patrick Thompson

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrickt010/

* X: https://twitter.com/patrickt010

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:36] Welcome

[1:48] Shout out to his co-founder Austin

[2:18] Why start a company while having a toddler?

[3:26] How has being a dad changed your company-building approach?

[5:11] Childhood

[7:44] Athletics compared to startups

[10:16] How did you meet your wife?

[11:40] Decision to start a family

[12:52] Decision to leave Amplitude and start a company

[16:45] Investing in your relationship with your partner

[18:58] Applying “first team” at home

[20:05] Taking an 18 month old on an airplane and top toddler travel tips

[22:42] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[24:48] Most surprising aspect of fatherhood

[25:55] Mistake you made as a dad

[28:30] Advice for pre-kid era Patrick

[30:15] Advice to ignore

[31:32] Rituals in a busy life

[33:19] How to manage weekends as a founder

[34:20] Frameworks for parenting

[36:34] An area Patrick and his wife don’t agree on in parenting

[38:46] Relationship Patrick wants his son to have with technology

[40:51] What he’s given up to become a dad

[42:18] How to recharge your batteries

[43:32] Family favorite trip

[44:59] Follow along Patrick’s journey

[45:45] Rapid Fire

[51:41] Thank you

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Show references:

Amplitude: https://amplitude.com/

Clarify: https://www.clarify.io/

Boy Scouts: https://www.scouting.org/

Atlassian: https://www.atlassian.com/

Siqi Chen’s on Startup Dad: youtube.com/watch?v=I2Nm5Mkj0s0

Immad Akhund’s on Startup Dad: youtube.com/watch?v=FR2ws9UKJ2k

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For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Ethan Austin is the founder of OutsideVC, where he invests in founders building a more equitable and just financial system. He was the Chief Strategy Officer of Gig Wag, Managing Director of Techstars Denver, and was co-founder and president of GiveForward which was acquired by GoFundMe. He’s a loving husband and the father of three kids. In today's conversation we discussed:

* The time he picked up his oldest kid from school in a taco costume

* His life with a newborn

* Teaching kids values

* Modeling behaviors with your kids

* Finding fun in the mundane

* How partners can take turns supporting one another

* Why every parent is just winging it most of the time

* Three important parenting frameworks he’s developed

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Where to find Ethan Austin

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fintech-investor/

* Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/ethanaustin

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:24] Welcome

[1:40] Professional background

[2:27] Childhood

[3:35] Parent’s career/losing father at a young age

[6:06] Family now

[7:52] What kind of values do you live by/teach your kids?

[10:28] How do you model adventure for your kids

[14:13] Tell me about your wife’s career - how do you compartmentalize?

[16:00] Decision to start a family

[18:16] Parental leave

[20:13] Experience of third child vs. others

[23:29] Finding the fun in mundane

[27:16] Surprising things about being a dad

[29:20] Advice to ignore?

[31:28] Advice for younger Ethan

[33:27] Frameworks

[35:51] Partners taking turns supporting each other

[37:52] Where partners don’t align

[39:21] kids relationship to technology

[42:10] Recharge batteries

[43:38] Getting kids to hike

[45:55] Follow along

[46:20] Rapid fire

[53:52] Thank you

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Show references:

Techstars: https://www.techstars.com/

GiveForward: https://www.giveforward.com/

Outside VC: https://outside-vc.com/

Boy Scouts: https://www.scouting.org/

NoseFrida: https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/F6682FCC-F1F9-44FE-9D89-173058B06AEF

The Happy Sleeper: The Science-Backed Guide to Helping Your Baby Get a Good Night's Sleep-Newborn to School Age by Heather Turgeon MFT: https://www.amazon.com/Happy-Sleeper-Science-Backed-Helping-Sleep-Newborn/dp/0399166025

Paw Patrol:https://www.pawpatrol.com/

Scarface:https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0086250/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Lane Shackleton is the Chief Product Officer of Coda, where he has worked for over 8 years. Prior to that he had a 9+ year career at Google and Youtube as a product manager and leader. He’s a loving husband and the father of three kids. In today's conversation we discussed:

* How to motivate and teach lessons to your kids through “quests”

* Lowering the pressure on high-stakes parenting

* Two actions that can solve most of the challenges you’ll experience with your kids

* The difference in feeling overwhelmed between a parent and a professional

* Why parenting overwhelm can be so much harder to work through

* Leveraging technology as a builder vs. a passive consumer

* Balancing being a startup executive with coaching a baseball team full of 9 year olds — and which one is harder

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Where to find Lane Shackleton

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laneshackleton/

* Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/lshackleton

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover

[1:53] Welcome

[2:23] Wine & software

[4:57] Quests with your kids

[10:30] Childhood

[11:45] How did your son get into baseball?

[13:54] Family now

[15:24] Decision to start a family?

[16:18] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[18:00] Feeling of overwhelm

[20:58] Most surprising thing about becoming a dad

[24:47] Not everything is high stakes

[28:59] Solving problems with kids

[32:35] Favorite book to read to kids

[33:58] Frameworks

[36:46] Has parenting changed your management style?

[40:17] Where do Lane and his partner not align

[41:39] Kid’s relationship to tech

[45:28] What did you give up to become a dad?

[47:07] How do you recharge your batteries?

[49:10] Startup hustle culture

[52:08] Rapid fire

[58:18] Thank you

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Show references:

Bruce Bolt batting gloves:https://brucebolt.us/

Napa: https://www.cityofnapa.org/

Coda: https://coda.io/

YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/

Google: google.com

Atlanta, GA: https://www.atlantaga.gov/

 CPMC: https://www.sutterhealth.org/cpmc

Field of Dreams:https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0097351/

Llama Llama: https://llamallamabook.com/books/

You Can Play Sports Board book by Nicole Stoltenberg: https://www.amazon.com/Play-Sports-Nicole-Todd-Stoltenberg/dp/0578878224

Lorax: https://www.amazon.com/Lorax-Classic-Seuss-Dr/dp/0394823370

Luca: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt12801262/

Stripe: https://stripe.com/

Sound Machine: https://www.amazon.com/Magicteam-Machine-Looping-Soothing-Function/dp/B07RWRJ4XW/ref=zg_bs_g_18746767011_d_sccl_1/143-4646178-9363038?psc=1

Cascade Falls: https://www.alltrails.com/trail/us/california/cascade-falls

Cocomelon: https://cocomelon.com/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

David Haddad is a health-tech founder and product manager turned creator. He's now on a mission to teach Dads how to cook with his new company Mister Branzino and the Meal Machine operating system. He runs a newsletter and the Dad Cook Crew community. He's a loving husband and the father of 1 son. In today's conversation we discussed:

* How David developed his passion for cooking

* Why Dads often let this important skill go by the wayside

* The PPSCE system for building a weekly meal plan

* Maximizing meals with minimal time

* How to get more Dads comfortable in the kitchen and building confidence

* Sample meal plans that you can get started with right away

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Where to find David Haddad

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidhhaddad/ 

* Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/haddadda

* The Meal Machine OS: https://misterbranzino.gumroad.com/l/mealmachine

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover

[1:44] Welcome

[1:55] Mr. Branzino mission

[4:10] Ethnicity

[7:20] Met partner/tell about son

[8:13] Epic meal for partner

[9:43] Decision to start a family

[10:17] Weaponized incompetence

[16:43] Most surprising thing about becoming a dad

[17:58] Best practice for modeling behavior

[19:13] Advice to past David

[25:09] Approach to food w/son

[30:32] What Mr. Branzino meals does son love?

[34:24] What makes dads uncomfortable in the kitchen?

[37:13] System to teach a dad how to cook

[42:13] PPSCE

[44:30] Mr. Branzino meal plan

[49:29] Where should dads get inspiration?

[54:00] Disastrous recipe 

[55:43] Follow along

[56:51] Rapid fire round

[59:52] Thank you

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Show references:

Mister Branzino Recipe Swipe File: https://www.pinterest.com/misterbranzino/recipe-swipe-file/

Mrs. Doubtfire:https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0107614/

Dumb & Dumber: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0109686/

Chef John/ Food Wishes:https://foodwishes.blogspot.com/

Ny Times Cooking: https://cooking.nytimes.com/

Blue Apron Cooking: Blueapron.com/cookbook

Thich Nhat Hanh: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Th%C3%ADch_Nh%E1%BA%A5t_H%E1%BA%A1nh

Counter stool: https://www.amazon.com/Guidecraft-Classic-Kitchen-Helper-Stool/dp/B00C18NV8C

Instacart: https://www.instacart.com/

Amazon Fresh: https://www.amazon.com/fmc/storefront?almBrandId=QW1hem9uIEZyZXNo

Ted Lasso: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ted_Lasso

Coffee Meets Bagel: https://coffeemeetsbagel.com/

Top Chef: https://www.bravotv.com/top-chef

In n Out: https://www.in-n-out.com/menu

Chick Fil A: https://www.chick-fil-a.com/

Barack Obama: https://www.whitehouse.gov/about-the-white-house/presidents/barack-obama/

Dr. Brazelton’s Books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/T.-Berry-Brazelton/author/B001I9TV4S

Neli deGrasse Tyson: https://neildegrassetyson.com/

Solid Starts: https://solidstarts.com/

Coco: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2380307/

Cocomelon: https://cocomelon.com/

Mental & Emotional Load Articles:

https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20210518-the-hidden-load-how-thinking-of-everything-holds-mums-back

https://www.happiestbaby.com/blogs/parents/mental-load

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/mom-mental-load_l_63f7a67ee4b0616708e04d9a

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a23469721/emotional-labour-mental-load/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evidence-based-living/202111/women-carry-most-the-mental-load-running-household

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/