One person in a relationship sitting back and expecting the other do all the work is never okay. And that goes double in a stepfamily.

I can't believe how many stories I've heard from stepparents who are accused of not doing 'enough' by their partners… and yet their partner, the actual parent, REFUSES TO PARENT.

This is some serious bullshit, folks. Stepparents should not be expected to parent more than their stepkid's actual parent!!

I mean if you want to and you're happy doing that and you being in that role works for everyone, terrific. But if you're worn out and resentful and frustrated and STILL your partner expects you to step in and handle the lion's share of the adulting and parenting... that is not okay, and you are WAY overdue to disengage.

Start by reading the Disengaging Essay. xo

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