The Secure Husband

Stop Having 'The Talk': Why Begging for Sex Is Backfiring — and What to Do Instead


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You’ve been thinking about it.
You’re hurt.
You’re about to have “the talk” with your wife:

“We never have sex anymore.”
“Why don’t you initiate?”
“I feel unwanted.”

Sound familiar?

This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast explains why those talks often backfire — and how chasing, begging, and emotional pressure actually drive intimacy away.

This isn’t about blaming you. It’s about helping you lead.

In this episode, we walk through The Secure Husband Process — a six-step plan to:

✔ Stop the pressure and emotional chasing
✔ Understand why the need for sex runs deeper than desire
✔ Meet the part of you that feels unworthy and start healing it
✔ Lead yourself with calm, grounded strength
✔ Rebuild connection without shame or guilt
✔ Invite intimacy from a secure place, not desperation

You don’t need to beg for love.
You don’t need to perform for attention.
You need to start leading yourself — spiritually, emotionally, and physically.

When you stop chasing and start healing, the energy in your marriage begins to change.

👇 Watch or listen now. This might be the breakthrough you didn’t know you needed.

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If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.


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