Stop Overthinking

By Kristen OdegaardEducation Self-Improvement

Stop Overthinking episodes

May 16, 2024 57. Overcoming Jealousy & Insecurity in Relationships with Shanenn Bryant
Jealousy is an emotion pushed away and not often discussed.
But, its real. It doesn't feel good. It can strain or ruin relationships - so we dive into how to overcome it, build confidence and actually improve your relationships.
This episode includes:
The differences between envy and jealousy
Signals of jealousy (Protection, Projection & Competion)
Building trust in partnerships
Not reacting from fear
Boundaries
Shanenn Bryant, Relationship Confidence Coach, is the founder and CEO of Top Self, a self-development company offering coaching, courses, and community to those with feelings of low-self-worth, insecurity, and jealousy in their relationship.

As a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast, Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits.
https://www.topself.com/

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42 min
May 09, 2024 56. "Let Them"
Let them... Let others be, do, act, think, feel- all on their own.
When we release the illusion of control over other people, it’s really not about the other people it’s about us. I know I’m in a better place when I’m not trying to figure out what in the world is going on in the brains of other people and trying to anticipate their wants and their needs and what they’re going to say, and then trying to fix it.

"Let Them" is a strategy popularized by coach/author/speaker Mel Robbins. I talk about how this has been used in my life, why its helpful and how you can incorporate "let them" into your daily life and relationships too.
Referenced in this episode:
#54- People Pleasing and the Illusion of Conrol
#55- Perfectionism & Overcontrol
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May 02, 2024 55. Perfectionism & Overcontrol with Erica Curry, LMFT
Erica Curry and I discuss how perfectionists and overachievers can learn to live presently through skills to cultivate an open mind based on tools from Radically Open Dialectial Behavior Therapy (RO-DBT).
You will also hear about three states of mind- fixed, flexible, and fatalistic. Listen in to learn why its beneficial to be more flexible and strategies you can implement right now.
Erica Curry, LMFT is an RO-DBT therapist treating over achievers, perfectionists, overthinkers and tackles diagnoses like Anorexia Nervosa, OCD, Chronic Depression and treatment resistant Anxiety.
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33 min
April 25, 2024 54. People Pleasing & the Illusion of Control
If you’re a people-pleaser or overthinker it’s likely your relationship to control needs some attention. Most likely it’s backwards: you probably expend too much time & energy trying to control other people, and too little energy taking responsibility for yourself.
As (recovering) people pleasers, perfectionists or over-thinkers we have to learn what is in our control and what is not.
Because when your relationship to control is backwards, you constantly feel like you’re the victim of others’ behavior. But instead of taking action to change your circumstances, you might simmer in resentment and righteously fantasize about how others “should be treating you differently.”
Listen in to hear about how the illusion of controlling what you can't is disrupting peace, relationships and emotional health... and what you can do to feel empowered and in control again.
Referenced in this episode:
Boundaries Episode 10
Wanting Others to Change Episode 34

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21 min
April 16, 2024 53. Making Empowered Decisions with Dr. Sweta Chawla
It's common to overthink decisions and choices- especially if you are letting others' needs, wants and feelings guide you.
In this episode we discuss how Perfectionsists, People Pleasers and Over Performers approach decisions, common pitfalls and how to reframe the internal conversation to make empowered decisions more easily.
Sweta Chawla PharmD, MS is a Former Professor of Pharmacy and Clinical and Residency Director turned Speaker, Facilitator & Leadership Coach and Author.
She supports organizations, highly driven professionals, creatives and entrepreneurs to reinvent how they work and lead. Through her well-resourced model, she guides her clients to create personal structures that leverage their natural brilliance--resulting in more authenticity, impact and balance.
Dr. Sweta is the author of the book I Still Haven’t Found What I’m LookingFor...Now What? and contributor to the award-winning Anthology She’s Got This: Essays on Standing Strong and Moving On.
View the Decision Matrix www.drswetachawla.com
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43 min
April 11, 2024 52. Grieving the Lives You Aren't Living
Do you have a fantasy of a different life you could or might have lived? Maybe it’s moving to a different city, staying in a marriage, or having children, and those experiences aren’t going to happen. Are you grieving that version of your life?
Listen to this episode as I'm discussing how we feel and think when we’re fantasizing about the lives that we know we won’t ever have. I offer what it means to grieve at lives not lived, what prevents us from fully acknowledging the grief of the lives we’re not going to live, and how there is truly no perfect life that you’re missing out on.
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12 min
April 04, 2024 51. Radical Acceptance: Growing from Burnout & Shame with Kyira Wackett
This episode is a deep dive into the spectrum of burnout. We discuss hustle culture, the comparison traps that drive us to believe we aren't doing enough or we aren't good enough... which create internal stories of shame and low self worth.
If you have felt overwhelmed, tired, not good enough, or that you should be "more," this episode is for you!
Kyira Wackett is a licensed mental health therapist specializing in shame resilience and radical acceptance. The founder of Adversity Rising, Kyira works to empower and equip people with the insight, confidence and skills to write their own stories.
Her work ranges from 1-on-1 coaching to corporate wellness with a focus on what she calls the “anti-band-aid movement” or resisting the quick fix in favor of meaningful and sustainable change.
Central to Kyira's work is her acclaimed program, THAT LIFE / AR, a transformative 5-step therapeutic process. Guiding participants through profound introspection and actionable strategies, Kyira equips them with the tools to navigate life's inevitable challenges with grace and resilience.
Learn more: https://adversityrising.com/

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50 min
March 21, 2024 50. Boost Your Frustration Tolerance
There are many ways to deal with feeling frustrated. For some that looks like resisting or avoiding situations, or procrastination, or giving up or getting angry.

Kristen recently reflected on her own tolerance for frustration and failure, especially as it relates to perfectionist tendencies and modeling those skills for her kids.

Listen in to determine your level of frustration tolerance and how to improve it to enhance your ability to experience setbacks and disappointments.
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21 min
March 14, 2024 49. Modifying Your Money Story with Lindsey Konchar
Your money story is created from your family, your experiences and even your gender. AND- your current money story may need to evolve so you can live the way you want to live.

Your money mindset may be stuck, holding you back and not aligned with your values and priorities. Listen in as Lindsey and Kristen discuss how you can make positive changes to your money story.
Lindsey Konchar is a financial therapist, here to help you feel excited about money! Money isn't just a math problem; there is always so much more to the equation. By understanding your thoughts, feelings, and behavior plus making a goal-getting, action plan, Lindsey helps you find the root cause of your money mismanagement to make your dream life come true!

Website: https://copingwithlindsey.com/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/copingwithlindsey/
Link to free investing guide! https://financial-therapy.myflodesk.com/investing-guide

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40 min
March 06, 2024 48. Boundaries vs. Avoidance
Are you calling it a boundary, but really just avoiding a person or situation?
This episode describes three ways people often deal with challenging people or situations.
First- I’ve just decided I don’t want this person in my life. Second, I want this person in my life, I want to be able to interact with this person, but I need boundaries for myself.
The third is one is to just avoid people/situations because we don’t want to do our own work, and we end up suppressing a lot of emotional turmoil and emotional work that would ultimately benefit us in our lives.
Join me to hear the differences between boundaries and avoiding, and an exercise you can work through on your own.
Related Episodes
#22- When You Don't Like Someone
#10- Boundaries

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About Stop Overthinking

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The podcast for overthinkers, people pleasers and perfectionists... people who are hard on themselves and spend too much time and energy in stuck in their own minds.