Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better

When you put pressure on creating what you want, whether that is healing your heart, reaching the next level in your career, or finding love, not only does it make it harder, it also keeps that result further away. Let’s take a look at what it means to hit pause in healing your heart and in your dating life, how to identify when you need to pause, and how to really make the most of the time spent away from the hustle.

Before I met Larry, the love of my life, I definitely had a list of things that I would consider a no-go, and I wouldn’t even say that Larry necessarily checks all the boxes that I thought I was looking for. But now, I am in my ideal relationship, and I can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt that he is my person, and that list of checkboxes doesn’t even matter any more. So let’s look at your list and see where we can change your thoughts so that you can create the result of calling love in.

Picture this. You’re out with friends, or you’re at an event, and there’s a chance you might see your ex. If you’re like my client, you might be freaking out, wondering what you would say to him, or maybe you even want to confront him so you can get the closure you feel like you need in order to move on. But what if you didn’t? What if you didn’t need his feedback in order to stop wanting him back? Focusing on this is actually keeping your person that much further away. Let’s unpack your thoughts around closure and feedback from someone that isn’t your person, and how you can move on without it.

Should you be further along? This is a thought that comes up a lot for my clients, and it came up again for 2 clients in my group coaching program this week. When it comes to seeing what others have, or feeling pressure about where we are in life, it can be painful and cause mind drama. It is pressure like this that keeps you stuck and pushes your ideal person away. You have the ability to shift your thoughts and practice new ones that serve you! So let’s clean up the drama around where you should be, and start to love where you are.

I have such an awesome conversation to share with you today. My bestie and holistic health coach Jamie McKeowen is back! She has been a guest before where we have talked about what to eat on a broken heart, dating apps, and she has even helped me answer some of your questions. But today, we are talking about her and how she called love in.

I hope all of my listeners listen closely to this episode, even if you don’t think it’s for you! This was a theme for some of my clients and consult calls this week; women who really believed they were ready to date, and it was clear to me that they really were not. We all have human brains which have limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in mind drama, and keep our person further away. This is where the beauty of coaching comes into play! In this episode, I share how I coached one of my clients on her mind drama, what it feels like when you create and believe new thoughts that serve you, and how you can become the upleveled woman that is ready to date and find her person.

“I just keep attracting unavailable men. This is just my pattern. This is what I do.” This is something I hear from my clients quite often and I coach them to be able to identify where they are being unavailable in their own lives to themselves and those around them. However, in today’s episode I want to take a bit of a different approach. What if, instead of thinking about the unavailable partners you attract and trying to diagnose where they’re coming from, you just said no and didn’t make it a problem? Holding on to this story that it’s just who you are, isn’t serving you. So let’s unpack it so that you can find your Mr. Right.

Let’s say you have been showing up for yourself and to this work, staying committed to healing your heart, and you feel like you are ready to start dating, but you just aren’t sure. It may feel like the people around you are all in committed relationships, getting married, having children, and it can be easy to see that and think, “When is it my turn?” This question was brought up by a client in my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back And Find Someone Better. When you are in the thick of your heartbreak or maybe just not yet in the result of finding your person, it can be easy to focus on the negative. In this episode, I share with you what it really means when you are asking this question, and how to know when you are ready.

In this episode, I share with you how to light that fire for yourself and remind you why you should keep working to create the result of finding your person. We also talk about clean versus dirty urgency, the thoughts you may be thinking from a place of dirty urgency, and what it looks like when you are thinking clean urgent thoughts that inspire action, to create results.

When we are in the thick of it, thinking about Mr. or Ms. Wrong and we’re stuck in the heartbreak, it can be hard to see the possibility of what is out there. In this episode, I share with you how I created this ideal relationship and what it looks like to be in the result of my happily ever after.