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Do you want to know how to turn your sex life around in 10 days?!  We talk to our very sexy guest, Layla London, from The Curious Girl Diaries who invites you as a voyeur into her diary of sexual encounters.  Layla also opens up about her past experiences with crappy encounters and offers valuable insights on how to turn things around and create great sexual experiences through a vetting process. You will also want to hear how we discuss shame in the lifestyle and the importance of addressing it a social setting. 

Be sure to check out the time stamps below:

Layla's Sex Party Experience [0:32:37]

Phoebe Fingered it Out with a Woman [1:03:03]

How to Address Being Shamed in a Social Setting [0:44:34]

TAGS (Episode):  sexualfreedom sexpositive saynotoshame sexualconfidence swingeruniversity curiousdiaries sexualpotential normalizingsexuality enm cnm openrelationship

GUEST LINKS:

https://www.thecuriousgirldiaries.com

https://www.instagram.com/the_curiousgirldiaries/

https://www.facebook.com/TheCuriousGirlLayla

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Compersion is learning to grow through other feelings, in order to get to that one. Join us as we speak with the actors and play writes from "Compersion". Nik and Mik use their autobiographical stories to create an intimate and steamy theatrical experience.

 "Compersion" is an adult-only play that celebrates a healthy lifestyle in ethical nonmonogamy, where the characters explore real-life scenarios and participate in erotic intimacy scenes. 

The guests get to enjoy a meet and greet with the cast and crew, and the  opportunity to participate in the play, making it a truly interactive and immersive experience. For those who are curious about swinging, "Compersion" provides a real-life look into what one might expect in a swinger event or encounter.

 GUEST BIO:

Nikki began her performing career with a dance-in-education company touring Australia before further training at Broadway Dance Studios, New York. On her return she ran the company for another 10 years whilst appearing in theatre, film and television. She works as a youth theatre director, specializing in disability arts and ASD, and is a social advocate for cultural diversity and recidivism projects with theatre companies and local government organizations. 

Mik is a Doctor of cultural anthropology, an actor, award-winning director, published playwright, and has toured in the UK, USA and Australia. In 2016 he broadcast the first ‘livestream performance’ from an Adelaide Fringe, based on his MPhil about an autistic theatre company for which he has presented findings at the Royal Anthropological Institute (UK). He is a freelance Creative Director for governments, commercial enterprises, and arts festivals, creating large-scale immersive art events.

SHOW NOTES: 

• About The Play 
• The Concept - How it Began
• 20 year Marriage - Getting Started - Experiences
• Deciding on Content
• Real Sex? - Yes!
• Audience Participation/Engagement
• Reciting Lines from the Play
• Tour Dates
• How to Support - Patreon

 LINKS:

Website:  www.steamyromantics.com

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SteamyRomantics

IG: @steamyromantics  https://www.instagram.com/steamyromantics/

TW: @steamyromantics  https://twitter.com/steamyromantics

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In this episode of our podcast, we delve into the world of BDSM and Dominance and Submission (DS) relationships with Dr. Tiffany "K". We explore the basics of BDSM and the different practices that fall under this umbrella term, including kink and fetish.
You will find out how to get started in BDSM and hear us emphasize the need for open and honest communication (even if it's uncomfortable) when discovering new things together. 
Join us in this episode as we learn and explore more about the world of BDSM, Dominance and Submission relationships, and hear some sexy experiences from your favorite hot couple, Ed and Phoebe.  Sex nerds unite!

SHOW NOTES:  

• 00:00:24:23        Who is Dr. Tiffany "K"?
• 00:02:43:20        What is BDSM? 
• 00:06:59:10        Dominance and Submission A Relationship Practice
• 00:10:59:18        50 Shades of Grey - How bad was it?
• 00:15:53:08        DS Maintaining Balance in a Relationship
• 00:21:12:07        Establishing Healthy Dynamics
• 00:23:14:07        Kink, BDSM, Fetish... the Venn Diagram of it all
• 00:24:21:01        Is the Swing Lifestyle a Fetish?
• 00:25:25:23        Safety and Consent
• 00:30:30:17        Scene Dynamics - How Does it Work?
• 00:32:54:19        How Often Do Playtimes Happen?
• 00:34:26:10        Jealousy in DS
• 00:35:46:15        Communication is so Important
• 00:37:07:12        Rituals
• 00:39:58:09        Flogging Rituals, and a Hot Couple Ed & Phoebe Watched
• 00:42:26:11        Communication in the Lifestyle
• 00:44:58:09        Drinking and Partying in Both Lifestyles
• 00:47:39:03        BDSM, Psychology, Knife Play
• 00:50:45:05        Practice and Progression in DS and Fetish play
• 00:51:17:06        Uncomfortable Communication...or is it?
• 00:53:39:01        Discovering New Things Together
• 00:54:13:16     Ideas on How to Get Started in DS
• 01:00:11:22        Sex Nerds Unite
• 01:00:37:20        How Can Dr. K help You?
• 01:02:53:09        Wrap Up

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Welcome to this episode of our podcast where we have the pleasure of interviewing Jackie Golob, a sex therapist, coach, and holistic healer. Jackie is the proud owner of Shameless Therapy & Consulting Services, LLC, a practice that incorporates sexual self-care into therapy and coaching sessions with individuals and couples.

 During our conversation, we delve into the world of sex therapy and explore the stigma surrounding therapy for couples. Jackie provides us with insights into the common anxiety and shame that couples may experience around sex and how they can overcome these issues. She also shares tips on how to deal with jealousy in relationships, emphasizing that comprehension is key.

 We discuss the party vs. connection lifestyle and how shame can affect a person's playtime. Jackie provides tips on how to overcome body image issues and encourages self-discovery through compassion for oneself. We also explore ways that couples can improve their communication and how emotional maturity plays a role in one's lifestyle.

 As a sex therapist, Jackie places importance on understanding pleasure zones and encourages exploring oneself and trying kink. She has also created a sexual self-help deck of cards with questions to enhance one's sexual self-care.

 Don't forget to check out Jackie's website, http://shamelesstherapy.org, where you can sign up for her newsletter and receive freebies. Follow her on YouTube @shamelessjackie and Instagram @sextherapistjackie for more insightful content. Jackie also made a  sexual self-care deck with questions to be able to use as a reflection tool to enhance your sexual self-care!

 Join us in this fascinating conversation and discover how to live your best, shameless, and sexy life!

 Show Notes:

• Intro
• Who is Jackie Golob?
• Which Couples Are Seeking Sex Therapy
• Stigma Around Therapy
• Couples Coaching
• Anxiety and Shame Around Sex
• Jealousy
• Jackie's Tips for Jealousy, Comprehension is Key!
• Lifestyle: Party vs. Connection
• How Shame Can Affect Your Play Time
• Shame Around Sex
• Tips for Overcoming Body Image Issues
• Compassion for Self, and Self-discovery
• How Can Couples Be Better Communicators
• Lifestyle and Emotional Maturity
• Pleasure Zones!
• Exploring yourself, and trying Kink
• Sexual Self-Help Cards
• Wrap Up

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Many people aren't experiencing the pleasure they want in the bedroom, simply because they don't know how to ask for it.  Do you ask for pleasure?  How do you ask for it?  You might be surprised by some of the simple techniques we discovered from Renée Yvonne, a Sex Therapy Coach from www.thegensexologist.com

SHOW NOTES:

• 00:00 - Start
• 00:02 - Introduction - Renee Yvonne
• 01:15 - Renée's Work
• 01:36 - How to ask for what you want in bed
• 03:06 - Having a voice in the bedroom
• 04:48 - Asking for what you want
• 05:36 - When to have the conversation
• 06:09 - Yes, No... Maybe
• 07:30 - Pick a playtime out of a bowl
• 08:41 - Planning a "date" night
• 10:10 - Why do women feel like they can't ask for what they want?
• 13:18 - Orgasm gap and porn
• 14:43 - How can men support women better?
• 17:40 - Women explore your sexual zones
• 20:49 - Quiet quitting
• 22:00 - Great workshops for couples
• 26:46 - Wrap up

Renée's Links:

Renée Yvonne:  www.thegensexologist.com

Genexypodcast:  https://anchor.fm/gensexypodcast

Renée Yvonne IG:  @thegensexologist

How to Tell Them What You Want When in Bed…

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Have you ever thought about separate room play?  Your partner is in one room and you are in the other, each playing with your new partners.  We openly discuss the possibility of this new adventure and whether this applies to all couples or just a few.

SHOW NOTES: 

Have you ever experienced a sexual couple that play at different sexual speeds?  We did!  Our female friend is more DTF and her male counterpart is slow and sensual.  The difference between the two has made us consider separate room play; a surprising revelation for us!

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Phoebe and I did a full swap with Toronto Unicorn and had a great time! We filmed it, and recorded audio too… Oh not THAT kind of full swap, but we did have about as much fun as you can recording a podcast. Listen in as we get to know each other a little better, learn about the Toronto lifestyle and their clubs, plus a few secrets for hunting unicorns. We also discuss safety, relationship risks, and Phoebe's early insecurities and deprogramming.  It's a wild ride and we think you'll like listening in.

• Swinging is more than sex
• Evangelizing swinging
• Swinger Cruises
• Fluidity of sex
• Toronto sex clubs
• Sex positivity and body image
• Single males
• Desires and fantasies
• Dominant unicorn
• Bait and switch
• Argument for clubs
• Safety in the lifestyle
• Risks for your relationship
• Phoebe's insecurities & deprogramming

 https://twitter.com/toronto_unicorn

https://torontounicorn.com/

https://www.youtube.com/TorontoUnicorn

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Do you have a love hate relationship with condoms?  You love the safety it provides to yourself and your partner but hate the insulating feel.  The size of the condom, the material it’s made of, and how thin it is; all play an important role for safety, comfort, and increased pleasure for both sexual partners.

Show Notes

When picking a condom that feels good and doesn't slip off, you want to know the following 4 important details:

• The 2 different measurements are critical to a good fit. 
• The 3 different materials provide varying comfort and feel.  
• The difference between thick and thin.  
• The safety of a .001mm condom!

For more information check out the following:

How to Measure Your Penis

Condom Size Chart: Find Your Best Fit

Condom Size Chart - A Guide for Calculating the Right Size Condom

Condom Size by Thickness

Europe’s Condom King - Thinner Condoms Not Available in US

16 Types of Condoms: Pros and Cons

More Condom Brands, Description, and Sizes

Condoms are Medical Devices

What is A Polyurethane Condom?

@thotsandpodcast - Episode 10 - The Condom Episode

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Swinger University gets interviewed by the Strictly Anonymous Podcast. Come listen in as we talk about how we got started, how we like to play, and some of the fun things we have going on in our swinging lifestyle. It was a lot of fun being on the other side of the microphone.

Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/fJW1cpp9GCY

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Have you ever had a condom slip off when having sex with other partners?  We cover what you need to do when you discover you have an STI.  Your, your partner, and your sexual partner's health is important!

1. Mental emotional aspects
2. Physical aspects
   1. Know what it is
   2. Get tested
3. Social aspects

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