Dire Straights

S*x guides for tradwives


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We dive headfirst into the sex column at the alt-right women’s magazine, Evie, which journalist EJ Dickson called a “Gen Z ‘Cosmo’ for the Far Right.”

As we dig into Evie’s surprisingly graphic how-to-please-your-husband guides, we explore what the magazine tells us about conservative sexual politics today, including how the right frames their messages as empowering, educational, scientific, and even liberating, while actually selling young women strict, unequal, and objectifying models of sex and love.

After the paywall, we talk about how we once internalized the demand to perform for men during sex, and explore our own brushes with topics that show up in the magazine’s sex column—like riding cowgirl and grieving, as one Evie writer puts it, through our vaginas.

Show highlights include…

02:45 Evie imagery as Victoria Secret circa 1995

05:35 Amanda’s affair with Evie

10:00 Milk + cow + man with lasso as American Dream

11:40 Tracy on not being able to stomach the sour milk of trad discourse

14:30 White supremacist frontierism

17:15 Mr. Darcy teaches tradwives how to date in Evie’s relationships column—brace yourself

24:05 Reactionary feminists selling women crap instead of liberation

29:02 Evie loves vanilla sex

31:55 Tracy’s experience with cowgirl lol

35:58 The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives and “sex positivity”

39:11 Tips for using the “backturn” to show off your “bum” in… the lap dances you give your husband

43:59 Disciplining women into straightness

46:45 Evie’s advice for women who avoid sex with their husbands “like the plague”

49:05 P.S. to future husbands

52:36 The “painful treatment” that “led to the most pleasurable sex”

55:45 The politics of the “familiar erection”

59:00 Sex ed for conservatives

59:19 Making marriage spicy again

1:00:00 Bunk science

1:01:45 Single reader discretion advised

1:03:43 Grief and spiritual sex

1:07:45 Anti-kink conservatives appropriating kink terms

How did you learn about sex? Was it condoms on bananas, reading Cosmo, watching MTV Spring Break specials, or something else entirely? Drop a comment below. And come join us in our subscriber chat!

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Dire StraightsBy Tracy Clark-Flory & Amanda Montei

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