It’s a momentous day here on the pod—this is our hundredth episode. And while I won’t bore you with 100 lessons learned in 100 episodes, I did want to talk about what I think is the ultimate concern of this podcast, or the deepest, most fundamental priority of what I hope this podcast teaches you. So what’s it all for? If you’ve been around these past 100 episodes, maybe you’ll know: it’s that you have to lead yourself first, before you can lead anyone else. Today I wanted to share the best way to get yourself right first, the 5 essential elements for human flourishing, aka the PERMA model. If you can master the elements within the PERMA model, you’ll have the best chance of affecting change in the people you most want to impact.

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The great Michelangelo once said of his sculptures, “The sculpture is already complete within the marble block, before I start my work. It is already there, I just have to chisel away the superfluous material.” I think the same can be said of motivation—our clients, coworkers, and employees have innate motivation, all we need to do is tune in to the right frequency to find what works for each individual. Today, I wanted to share a more practical view to motivation, because as we all know, you can’t force someone to be motivated, they have to do it themselves. When we use the 4 motivational dials, we give people the tools to be their best, most motivated selves.

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If you know me, you know I’m obsessed with relationships of all kinds, but today I wanted to focus on the most important relationship fo my life: my marriage. My wife, Kelsey, and I have been together for 10 years now, which essentially makes us experts at relationships. I’m kidding, of course, but in 10 years, we’ve grown as individuals and as a couple and learned a lot. So today, Kels and I are sharing 10 of the most important lessons we’ve learned in the span of our relationship.

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Humans are social creatures. We’re wired to be around others, and what’s more, we’re wired to attune to the emotional states and even behaviors of the people we spend time with. Researchers call this social contagion—it’s the spread of emotions and behaviors through a group of connected social groups. Understanding and accepting the realities of this social contagion can help us see the bigger picture of our clients’ lives and turn us into not only better coaches and leaders, but kinder and more empathetic people in general. Fear and stress are highly contagious emotions, but joy and excitement can be too! If we show up happily, excitedly, and confidently, we have the opportunity to make a huge impact in the lives of our clients, employees, and anyone else we want to have a positive influence on.

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If you’ve ever listened to this podcast (or any piece of self-help media for that matter) and thought, “well that’s all great advice, but it would never work for me,” let this be the one episode you take to heart. So many of us get stuck in a rut, feeling like we have no control over our lives. Psychologists call this a low “locus of control,” where we feel like nothing we do matters, that life is just something happening *to* us. The problem with that line of thinking is that it keeps us miserable and stuck without any reason to take action—why try to make a change if you think it won’t matter? Conversely, feeling a sense of control and ownership of our lives has numerous mental and physical benefits, and can create a larger effect as we impact the people around us. Leadership doesn’t have to “start from the top,” it can begin right there, where you’re standing now.

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If you’re an avid listener of this podcast, you’re probably a newer online coach or manager looking to get better at your craft. Even if you’re not a newbie, there are always challenges that arise when you’re working with humans, so I brought on my friend and colleague, Dr. Stefania Tiveron, who I consider to be both an expert on information and on transformation. Today we’re discussing 4 of the most common challenges we’ve experienced as coaches and how to help our clients (and ourselves) overcome them.

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I’ve been challenging myself lately to listen and engage with people I don’t necessarily agree with to help fight against confirmation bias, and it’s going about as well as you might imagine. In this quest, I’ve started reading a book called Leadership BS which is all about why everything we do as leaders and coaches is nonsense, and leads to nowhere. People are as unhappy and unhealthy as ever, so what do we do? Do we give up, or do we push back? Look, coaching is hard, but that doesn’t mean its worthless. Even if you can’t help everyone, we’re helping someone, and that matters.

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It’s been a minute since we had a guest here on the pod, so I’m pumped to be able to chat with the incomparable Sara Baker. If you looked us “Renaissance woman” in the dictionary, you’d find a picture of Sara there and I’m not sure how she has enough time in the day to do it all, but somehow she does. Today Sara and I are talking about our experiences in the coaching world—what coaches get right, what they get wrong, the future of the industry, and the must-reads for anyone interested in becoming a better coach and a better person.

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One of the most common questions I get from new coaches is “How do I structure a coaching call?” It’s easy to feel the need to discuss, teach, and address everything on every single call, but this can feel overwhelming and cause our calls to lack clarity and leave our clients anxious and unaware of where to start. That’s why today I’m sharing a 3-part formula to help you organize your calls by deciding what you should (and should not!) cover. It’s been an effective process for me and all of the coaches I’ve worked with, and I know you’ll have a much easier time with your clients and get them even better results.

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There might be some debate as to who the greatest coach of all time, across any sport or discipline is, but to me, there’s no one greater than Greg Popovich. In some interviews, Popovich seems like the antithesis to what makes a great coach—he can be aggressively direct and he acts like a total asshole some of the time, but one this he does get is results and he does it all while being beloved by his players. Most coaches I know are terrified of being strict or harsh with their clients for fear of coming across like a jerk, so what is it that Popovich is doing that makes him the best in the world? He’s mastered the balance of personal connection and brutal honesty, all while integrating his coaching to the bigger picture of life.

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