How do you handle rejection?

Worse yet, how do you handle rejection from people you hoped to be able to trust?

How do you recover from feeling unwanted or unneeded? How do you keep it from becoming part of your beliefs and identity?

This week on the podcast I have a powerful on-air session with Alexandra Hoover, and we start putting together the pieces of the puzzle of what caused her to have a vulnerability towards rejection.

I help her identify where this came from, and how it might be impacting other parts of her life and ministry. It’s a powerful and emotional conversation, and I believe it will really challenge and bless you in your personal life as well as in your ministry.

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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What do you do when you feel like you don’t fit in?

What do you do when you don’t even feel like you belong in your own family?

How can you take that feeling that you don’t belong, and turn it into something good… Something healthy… Something purposeful and meaningful?

This is exactly the subject we dive into today in this on-air counseling session with Brian Tome. He felt out of place in his own life— and for good reason.

We talk about some of his hurts from the past, and how they impacted & informed his calling in the present.

Let me just tell you, this man is a character… And it was a joy to chat with him and process some of these things out loud.

Let me know what you think of this conversation!!

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How do you date after the deep loss of a marriage? Is it possible to love again?

Today I talk with Diane who is a widow that is trying to heal her heart after the death of her husband. She’s having a hard time navigating the dating world now that she’s single in her 60s, yet hasn’t dated since her 20s!!

We talk about her grief, how to heal, and when to know you’re ready to date!

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Today on the podcast, I have a couples counseling session with two of my favorite people… Dave and Ann Wilson!

I met them when I was invited to be on their program, family life today, and I immediately fell in love with their authenticity. I knew they would be a perfect fit for couples counseling session to dig into some of the hard things from their past and how their past has impacted their marriage relationship over the years.

Their relationship didn’t start healthy, in fact — it was rather dysfunctional— and they really had to learn the hard way.

You are going to love this open, honest conversation with them about their marriage… and where they are today.

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Are you good at sharing your needs with others? Most people aren’t.

Today on the podcast, Erin from Texas called in to talk to me about the fact that she has a really hard time opening up with others and being vulnerable about what she really needs and how she feels.

She’s seen patterns in her life of putting others first and staying silent about her own needs…until it’s become problematic.

We unpack some of the relationships where she struggles the most, and then I ask her some questions to help her get to the root of WHY — so she can begin making changes! If you have a hard time sharing your needs, listening to this conversation will get you processing your own story and give you some steps you can take to begin making changes in this really important area of your life!!

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Today on the podcast, I have a favorite friend back on for a SECOND on-air session, JP Pokluda!!

In our initial conversation, JP and I talk through some of his challenges with having too much on his plate and moving into a season of burnout (listen to the conversation here).

In that conversation, I asked if he had ever dug into his past history— and how it might be impacting what he does in the present.

Today on the podcast, we jump into part two of the conversation and I ask him a few questions to consider from his past, and specifically his relationship with his dad and how that may have shaped his beliefs.

Does he have father wounds that he needs to deal with? What could that look like? How may have his relationship with his father shaped his beliefs and motivations?

No matter what type of past we come from, it’s important for us to look back and assess exactly how our past has influenced & shaped our beliefs and our identity.

Tune in to my conversation with JP Pokluda!

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Today on the podcast, I chat with Rebecca from Tennessee! She’s wanting to know how to deal with past trauma, and especially how to keep it from spilling into present relationships!

Relationships are like a mirror to our wounds and weaknesses…. And as much as they reveal past woundings, they also invite us to heal!

When people get close enough, we can start to feel some of that relationship trauma coming back up — but that is also the best opportunity to begin the work of healing. We talk through what that looks like and exactly how to do it in today’s episode!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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Today on the podcast, I am talking to the amazing Katherine Wolf.

In her 20s, after the birth of her first child, Katherine experienced a devastating massive stroke that left her paralyzed and turned her life completely upside down.

In this on-air counseling session, we talk through this horrific season in her life and what it means to look for hope when there seems to be no hope. We talk about medical trauma, and how she has processed these things moving forward. We talk about her childhood, and how God was preparing her for suffering, even from a young age.

It is one of the most encouraging episodes, so go give it a listen!

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Today on the podcast, I talk with Faith from Georgia!

She’s 37 and single so she really wants to know how to know when you are trusting God with your dating life — versus when you are taking control of the situation yourself.

Do you have to sit back and wait for things to happen, or can you take initiative?

And what if you are a woman, where does that leave you in the equation of making a dating relationship happen – considering some people think it’s wrong for a woman to take an initiative.

We talked about what waiting on God actually means and what it doesn’t mean… And how to be proactive with your love life in the meantime!!

It’s an episode every single who is wanting to date should listen to!!!!

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Connect with Faith on Instagram: @ugafaith09

Tune in now!

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In honor of my good friend – Mandisa, and to honor her life and legacy, I am re-airing this powerful episode on singleness.

Do you feel like you’re struggling with singleness? Struggling with singleness does not make you strange, or crazy, or lacking in faith. It makes you human. 

If you are struggling with singleness, this episode is for you.

Tune in now!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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