Do you talk about the role technology plays in your relationships — for better or worse? This week, we discuss some of the ways in which technology interferes with connection and explore an important conversation all couples (and singles!) can use to minimize technoference. We also discuss anxiety related to tech and the pandemic, share strategies to change the way we use technology, and answer a listener question about how to respond to a sticky situation with a new beau.

Consider these prompts to start this important conversation:

Technology 

1. How do you feel the use of tech devices affects your relationship? Be specific.

2. How do you feel about electronics in the bedroom or at the table (or elsewhere)?

3. How often do you want to be connected/disconnected?

4. Why are you drawn to your phone/device?

5. Would you like to reduce your use of technology when you’re together? If so, why?

6. How do you feel when your partner is on their phone in different scenarios/environments (e.g. in bed, at the table, while watching TV, in the car etc.)?

7. What commitments can you make to minimize technoference?

8. How can you use technology to enhance your relationship?

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Rough Transcript:

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Technoference: How to Talk About Tech & Ditch Bad Habits

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You're listening to the sacs with dr jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight Welcome to the sex with dr. Just podcast i'm your co host brandon. Wear here with my lovely other. Half dr jess. How are you hanging in there. Ready to talk some techno fearance. Always it's a buzzword but it's a real thing you had something that i've struggled with. I think that we've we've had lots of discussions about yeah. I think you're a lot more patient with me around tech use than maybe i am with you. I'm a little bit more reactive. I would agree. I think that. I also tend to just assume that whenever you're working on your phone or your laptop or whatever device it is it's urgent or it's pressing so i'm okay with it whereas on the opposite and look if you're on your phone you're just ignoring me. I have felt that way at times but Generally speaking over the years been trying to make an effort to try and find some boundaries. And well we're gonna be talking about technical because last night we hosted a session called conversations for couples via good for her which is a local shop. Sex positive independently owned boutique in toronto. That has been you know. Providing toys and educational materials and online courses as well as been an important support in in the queer community here in toronto They're called good for her any. We hosted this online session for a group of couples and in the session we worked through ten. Actually it was really like twelve but it was supposed to be ten essential conversations ranging from ...