Tell Me About Your Mother

Evan and Melissa explore how clients have been their greatest teachers. Topics also include:

• Negative attribution styles 
• Evan and Melissa discuss what they view as their greatest accomplish with a client 
• Sexual trauma response of eliciting “testing behaviors” to possible aggressors 
• The power of entertaining the clients presenting problem
• Exploring with the client: What are we contracting to do?
• Evan talks about this upcoming climbing trip 

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Evan and Melissa discuss the nature of recovering from codependency, its benefits, and challenges.

• Finding recovery from codependency or other mental health struggles 
• CODA a 12-step recovery program for people recovering from Codependency
• Recovery is not an arrival 
• Complications of personal growth journey
• The risk of outgrowing relationships 
• Stages of change 

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Evan and Melissa discuss the vagus nerve and its implications in emotional regulation and treatment.

• 3 stages of polyvagal theory
• Technology outrunning our limbic systems evolution
• Anxiety tension and fear are attempts to intellectualize feeling 
• Feeling avoidance compared to a nicotine craving
• Neurolinguistic programming 

Melissa also is gracious enough to offer her charts to any of our TMAYM supporters! Feel free to reach out to our email [email protected]

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Evan and Melissa explore the often deductive and maladaptive conceptualizations pop psychology shares on social media and its negative consequences. 

We plan to make this a series since there's a lot of material to cover. This episode focuses on social media reels that are giving advice as to what types of texts to send to your partner that has an anxious attachment style.

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Evan and Jamie Kay meet and discuss the healing, reflective, and connecting elements of songwriting with the writer and its audiences. Jamie has written over 300 songs in the course of his 50 years of songwriting. He's a gifted storyteller whose sincerity penetrates throughout our conversation. We're happy to share his energy with our listeners!

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Evan and Melissa discuss clients' perspectives that therapists have super powers, how being seen in a raw, deep, meaningful way can at times feel like voodoo magic. 

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Evan and Melissa answer an audience question regarding intellectual defenses in session. "How do I get my therapist to become aware that I am using my intellect to deflect from emotional vulnerability in our sessions?" 

We are hoping to incorporate this type of interaction with followers more often. If you have any questions about therapy, please don't hesitate to reach out!

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Evan and Melissa explore how intellectualizing stories serves as a protective distancing from emotional exploration, expression, and healing.

• Implicit memory healing
• Bilateral stimulation 
• CBT often ineffective for treating 
• Bottom up approach to client care versus top down approach 
• Emotional-relational realm being the healing quality of therapy 

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Evan and Melissa explore the ways in which clients use intellectualism as a means to conceptualize emotional memories to maintain safety. Topics also include: 

• Emotional attainment
• Maintaining an observer role when someone is dysregulated
• Maladaptive ways of creating self-protection
• Therapy is not advice-giving
• Explore emotional memories is delicate and is a process

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Evan, Melissa, and Eli share their experiences with client attunement and the ways in which such connection can promote a deep sense of understanding and meaning.

• Emotional attunement with clients informing unconventional approaches 
• Eli sifts through his  transcription grad school notes from 1913
• Emotional attunement compared to flocks of birds and musicians
• Intuition informing therapeutic path

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