What's wrong with the church?

A lot..

But should it have as much control over us or our emotions as it does?

Why are some church cultures so toxic and what can we do about it to make change and also show up powerfully?

Sammi and Spencer talk about the church hurt that they've processed through and some of the observations they've made about the christian church and what they believe could be better.

This is part 1 of this dialogue...

Hope it blesses you.

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Either "focus on what you want, relentlessly, and confidently expect it until you step into it...be obsessive and go after your dreams."

Or...

"Just be content...desire for nothing- in fact kill you desires and just be okay with no pleasure or desires fulfilled and definitely don't dream..."

Is balance between the two what's healthy?

Or is there another way to look at it?

Sammi and Spencer talk about their journey around maintaining a relationship with their hearts desires, submitting to God, wrestling with contentment and dreaming, and all the questions that come with it.

If you want to find fulfilment in your life, this is an episode you don't want to miss!

And PEOPLE...if you got any value out of this episode...please rate and leave a review. You have no idea how valuable that is. This content is free and that is a quick and easy way to give back.

Spencer and Sammi Interview Kait Warman, author of Thank You For Rejecting Me and Host of Heart of Dating Podcast.

Kait has been a dating coach, author, and speaker to christian singles for years now and has hosted several Heart of Dating Conferences for thousands of singles.

In this episode, we have a dialogue about what a healthy dating process actually looks like and Kait gets vulnerable about her recent journey up until her recent engagement.

This episode is one you don't want to miss!

To see Kait's book and resources and her dating community, go to www.heartofdating.com

Triggers can either destroy relationships or be the doorway to your personal freedom.

Triggers reveal past pain and past wounds and if left unresolved can control your relationships...especially your closest ones.

Sammi and Spencer discuss their own triggers as well as the most common triggers in relationships and what to do when you experience yours.

To download our triggers course for only $19, go to compassionfortriggers.com

If you liked this episode and found it valuable, please take 20 seconds to rate and leave a review.

If you are a woman and want to join us on a luxury retreat in Tennessee, email [email protected] for details!

It is rare these days for men to choose into confronting pain and hard emotions...

The world tells us to suck it up and just get over it while women are begging men to have a heart and connect.

Men's emotions run deep and there is a fight for our childlikeness and health.

In this episode, Spencer and Tyler tackle questions araound masculinity, performance anxiety, depression, and being a believer in a high performance, professional athletics world.

It was Sammi's birthday last week and if you wanted to give her a gift for her birthday, please take 60 seconds to rate and review the podcast- it would mean a lot.

If you liked this conversation, share it with a man you love or anyone else you think might benefit from it.

[Min 2:30-5:30]. What's it like to be a professional athlete?

[Min 5:30-6:30] Is it hard to be a believer in professional baseball?

[Min 7:00-9:00] How did you meet/find God?

[Min 9:00-12:00] Performance anxiety, depression, turning down $2.5 million]

[Min 13:00] Emotional Health

Sammi and Spencer talk about the pain of community, the difficulty of trusting people, and the struggle of building friendships with people.

It's not easy to put yourself out there with new people.

It's particularly scary to get close and intimate with people.

To let them see you- see the real you.

And even scarier to feel misunderstood, betrayed, unseen, unloved, abandoned, or rejected.

And It is SO HARD to risk hurt again...but life is bland and meaningless without people to share it with.

We hope this conversation blesses you!

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It's an easy way to help rank the podcast and get the word out.

Love y'all.

It can be scary to own your needs and desires.

Many of us have been trained growing up in family to not trust ourselves or to believe that our hearts don't matter.

This can destroy connection and intimacy in relationships.

If you have ever had a tendency to lose yourself in relationships, this podcast episode is for YOU!

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We have so many clients that have had painful dating scenarios...

A guy ghosts them on a date or after texting for awhile...

They find out a guy is nothing like how they thought...

Spencer has been verbally shamed for the way he has dated...

Sammi has been secretly dated behind her back and we've heard so many other painful experiences from other women.

In dating, we have all different belief systems and styles and we wanted to unpack some of those experiences and how to be powerful in the midst of them.

We also wanted to give practical tools and process for healing from breakups because we know so many of you are trying to stay open while also making sure to not end up devastated.

If you loved this episode or any other, please take 20 seconds to rate and review the podcast.

And if you are a woman and you'd like to apply for our 100 Days to Come Alive Program to heal and prepare for a thriving relationship, go to: https://www.yourheartfree.com/book-a-call

You can apply and if you qualify, you can have a free call with one of our enrollment coaches.

Timestamps

[3:53] Podcast content starts-banter is all done

[7:09] Spencer's dating fail story

[17:00] Rest of episode

Do you find yourself endlessly scrolling on instagram or tick-toc, or facebook? Do you ever feel like you're having out of body experiences? Do you feel like it's hard to stay present and feel pain or process disappointment and connect to the people right in front of you?

If so, you're not alone.

In this episode, Sammi and Spencer break down dissociation in relationships and when it becomes damaging and destructive and how to deal with it.

They share vulnerable stories of their own lives as well as client stories.

This is an episode you don't want to miss!

If this episode was helpful, please take 20 seconds to rate and review the podcast. This is free content and it would be an easy way for you to give back. Hope it blesses you!

How many of us experience fear in relationships? Or fear in general…

Fear makes us do all kinds of crazy things…

Especially if we are scared we won't have our needs met.

So what do we do? We control.

I think if most of us admitted, we would say we all have dealt with control in one way, shape, or form.

And not all control is bad, but in relationships, control destroys our connection.

Control takes all of our safety away and makes us feel trapped.

But what if you're the one controlling?

In this episode, Sammi and Spencer break down control and how to relinquish it so your relationships can have better connection.

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