In my conversation with J.R. Briggs the author of The Art of Asking Better Questions:Pursuing Stronger Relationships, Healthier Leadership, and Deeper Faith.

J.R. discusses the transformative power of asking better questions and how they can lead to deeper relationships, personal growth, and a more integrated life. He emphasizes the importance of hospitality, curiosity, and the role of questions in fostering community and connection.

Through personal anecdotes and insights, J.R. illustrates how living with arrows pointing out—focusing on others—can create a more fulfilling and joyful existence. He also explores the neuroscience behind questions, the four levels of questioning, and how Jesus exemplified the art of inquiry in his ministry.

Dr. J.R. Briggs is the founder of Kairos Partnerships, a coaching and consulting firm dedicated to equipping leaders through the intersection of spiritual formation and actionable leadership. An author of 15 books and host of the Resilient Leaders podcast, he also serves as a university instructor and denominational director.

Takeaways

Asking better questions can lead to deeper relationships. Hospitality is a healing practice that benefits both the host and the guest. Living with arrows pointing out encourages selflessness and community engagement. Curiosity is essential for personal growth and understanding others. Questions can transform conversations and create connections. The four levels of questions help deepen interactions and understanding. Jesus modeled the importance of asking questions in his ministry. Celebration and joy are vital components of community and relationships. Living an integrated life requires awareness of our masks and vulnerabilities. Depth in conversations is more valuable than efficiency.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background of J.R. Briggs 02:16 Cultural Roots and the Power of Food 05:32 The Importance of Hospitality and Community 07:14 Living with Arrows Pointing Out 10:04 Celebration and Joy in Life 12:39 Transforming Self-Criticism into Curiosity 15:52 The Art of Asking Better Questions 18:11 Curiosity as an Invitation 20:49 The Impact of Questions on Our Brains 22:49 Four Levels of Questions 31:13 Vulnerability in Asking Deeper Questions 34:26 Jesus and the Power of Questions 37:33 The Power of Questions in Engagement 39:45 Jesus as a Model for Asking Questions 41:17 The Depth of Questions vs. Answers 44:16 Inefficiency vs. Effectiveness in Leadership 46:30 The Importance of Asking Questions 48:35 Rediscovering Curiosity and Playfulness 52:52 The Impact of Questions on Personal Growth 56:07 Living an Integrated Life Through Questions