Why do avoidant men get stuck in fault finding? If you have dismissive avoidant attachment you meet a good woman, then start flaw finding over how she texts, eats, laughs.

It's not standards. It's deactivation — fear spikes when she gets close, so you scan for faults to justify leaving.

In this Avoidant Men episode I break down why you do it, the damage to you and her, the wrinkles story that exposes what your criticism means, and 5 steps to stop binning women: reflect, name it, find the need, have the conversation, add praise.

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She can't open up to you — and it's not because she's broken.

I sat across from a woman who rebuilt trust with her own body after rape, domestic violence and years of chronic pain — and what she taught me about safety changed how I coach men.

In this episode, Sarah Carter reveals why male reactivity and shame shut women down sexually, why disconnection from your body kills attunement, and what true embodied presence actually feels like.

If she goes quiet, pulls away, or says 'it's fine' — this is why.

Watch to the end for the shift that creates real sexual safety.

Sara Carter is a Dance Artist, Embodiment Coach, Therapist and Mother who supports people in reconnecting with the wisdom of their bodies- beyond intellectual understanding into direct lived experience, through movement, meditation, creativity, and somatic inquiry. Her work weaves together embodiment practices, self awareness, creative exploration, and relational intimacy to help individuals cultivate greater authenticity, presence, well being and self-trust. Sara works with artists, performers, creatives, and purpose-driven individuals seeking deeper connection to themselves, their expression, and their lives.

Sara is especially passionate about empowering woman through her transformative offerings, to move from surviving to thriving, to living with embodied confidence and self care. She helps women struggling with midlife changes, such as menopause, as well as those on a path of healing and reclamation. Her own transformational success story of surviving the impact of sexual and domestic violence and now living a life she loves, has left her passionate about inspiring others to do so themselves. Dance and somatic movement has always been her medicine, grounding her work in the trust that the body holds a profound intelligence and all we need is already within us.

Sara's intention is simple: to help people come home to themselves so they can create, lead, relate, and live from a place that feels deeply aligned, intimately connected and fully alive.

Key Topics:

⭐ Trauma Recovery, Sexual Healing & Reclaiming Intimacy ⭐ Embodiment, Somatic Awareness & Mind-Body Connection ⭐ Vulnerability, Emotional Honesty & Authentic Expression ⭐ Shame, Self-Worth & Relationship Triggers ⭐ Communication, Consent & Conscious Intimacy ⭐ Trust, Safety & Secure Relationship Building ⭐ Self-Awareness, Personal Responsibility & Pattern Breaking ⭐ Self-Trust, Inner Authority & Living in Alignment

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If you can't ask for help , it's not strength — it's hyper independence running your avoidant attachment . You go quiet, handle it alone, and she feels shut out. In this episode I break why asking felt dangerous as a kid, the 3 vague ways men ask that get rejected, and what it costs you, her, and the relationship. Then I give you my 3-sentence script to ask without feeling weak, plus 5 small bicep-curl practices to build interdependence.

Chapters

00:00 You tell her you're fine while you drown alone

01:12 Why asking for help felt dangerous as a kid

03:45 The 3 terrible ways you ask when you finally do

06:20 What it costs you — isolated, overwhelmed, no deep mates

08:10 What it costs her — no place in your life 09:30 What it costs the relationship — disconnection

10:30 Life is a team sport — interdependence + 5 bicep curls

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I sat across from a man who was nearly stabbed three times and it changed nothing — because the thing killing him was never outside him.

David Patrick Farrell spent his twenties in addiction, debt collecting and armed robbery, chasing a masculinity he'd learned from criminals instead of a father. Then, at 5am on the 18th of March 2019, everything broke open.

We talk about the moment that actually changed him, why he refuses the phrase "toxic masculinity", what real brotherhood does that a gang never could, and how men learn to feel emotion without letting it run them.

David Patrick Farrell is a global leader in men's work and transformational facilitation. With a background in Counselling & Psychotherapy, Psychosomatic Therapy, and Shadow Work, his approach bridges clinical depth, embodied practice, and grounded spiritual insight.

Over the past decade, David has guided men's circles, rites-of-passage journeys, and immersive retreats across multiple continents, working with thousands of men from all walks of life. His work creates spaces where truth can be spoken, emotional intelligence restored, and real personal responsibility reclaimed.

Known for his clarity, presence, and uncompromising integrity, David is recognised for his ability to hold deep emotional processes, catalyse profound inner breakthroughs, and lead groups through lasting, embodied change—not just insight.

Rooted in devotion, purpose, and faith, his work calls men to rise to a higher standard of leadership, courage, and authenticity - within themselves, their families, and the wider world. His authority is earned through lived experience, deep inner work, and a lifelong commitment to walking his own path first.

Key Topics:

⭐ Brotherhood, Community & Men's Work

⭐ Intergenerational Trauma & Breaking Patterns

⭐ Masculinity, Identity & Male Role Models

⭐ Emotional Expression, Vulnerability & Healing

⭐ Accountability, Integrity & Personal Growth

⭐ Addiction Recovery & Life Transformation

⭐ Relationships, Communication & Conflict Repair

⭐ Purpose, Self-Leadership & Lasting Change

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👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page

👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page

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If your marriage feels sexless or stuck in a dead bedroom, you're not broken and she's not cold — you've become flatmates not lovers. For avoidant men, sex doesn't die in the bedroom, it dies long before, when emotional safety collapses. In this episode of The Authentic Man Podcast, David Chambers breaks down 3 invisible reasons intimacy shuts down — shutdown, pursuit-withdrawal, and performance pressure — and why fixing technique never works. Understand where you disappeared and how to bring desire back. Plus the one shift that restores safety so she reaches for you again. ____________

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👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes

👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page

👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page

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You've never lied to her. You've never cheated. So why does she still not feel safe with you?

I sat down with former rabbi turned intimacy coach Ted Riter, and his answer hit hard: honesty is only level one of trust. Most men stop there.

We unpack the 4 levels of trust — Words, Body, Heart, Soul — and why your emotional shutdown reads as dishonesty, even when you're telling the truth. Plus: how to fight with kindness, why 'curated vulnerability' kills intimacy, and the perimenopause conversation every man needs to hear.

If you want to be truly trustable, start here.

Ted Riter is a relationship and intimacy teacher, coach, and guide helping men, women, and couples build trust, repair conflict, and create deeper connection … with themselves, with others, and with the Divine.

Especially for high-functioning people who look "fine" on paper … and quietly feel lonely, disconnected, or stuck at home.

Key Topics:

⭐ Trust & Emotional Safety ⭐ Masculinity & Men's Growth ⭐ Vulnerability & Emotional Expression ⭐ Intimacy, Connection & Relationships ⭐ Conflict, Communication & Trust Building ⭐ Desire, Sexuality & Lasting Attraction ⭐ Long-Term Love & Relationship Dynamics ⭐ Menopause, Partnership & Life Transitions

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👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes

👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page

👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page

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If you can't express what you feel without guilt, shutting down, or going numb — this is why.

So many avoidant men want to say what they actually want, but in the moment the words disappear.

You people-please, keep the peace, then secretly resent her for not knowing what you never said.

In this episode I break down why communication in relationships feels so unsafe when you learned to hide need — and the 5 shifts to speak up, set boundaries, and be assertive without the guilt or the blow-up.

Chapters:

00:00 Why you go blank when she asks how you feel

02:28 What this episode will cover (Ep 4 - Avoidant Man Series)

05:50 The 3 hidden beliefs that keep you silent

07:50 Why speaking up felt dangerous as a boy

09:50 Why the world taught you your feelings don't matter

11:20 What silence is really costing you, her & the relationship

14:20 How to shift the belief and build capacity to stay

16:30 What happens when you actually get vulnerable

17:50 5 steps to say what you actually want (without guilt)

22:50 Bonus: How to repair after you shut down

24:00 Where to go from here

This is episode 4 of the Avoidant Man series. —

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Is low testosterone really killing your sex drive — or is something deeper going on?

In this episode, I sit down with Ben Davis to unpack the testosterone industry, what the numbers actually mean, and why so many men are chasing a hormonal fix for a psychological problem. We cover:

• When low testosterone actually needs medical treatment (and what levels to look for)

• Why "more is better" thinking backfires

• The sponge analogy that explains why extra testosterone does nothing

• How sexual shame hijacks your sex drive — and what to do about it

• Natural ways to support healthy testosterone without TRT

If you've ever worried your testosterone is too low or felt like something is "off" with your sex drive, this conversation is for you.

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Dr Ben Davis is a private men's health GP in central London, with over 15 years of clinical experience and dual training in both men's health and psychosexual therapy.

His approach is focused on helping men understand not just what is happening, but why — and supporting them in finding their way back to feeling like themselves again.

Many of the men Dr Davis sees are busy, high-functioning, and accustomed to performing well in other areas of their lives.

When something changes — whether it's energy, libido, erections, mood or confidence — it can feel confusing, frustrating, and difficult to talk about. Sometimes there is a clear symptom. Often, there isn't. Instead, there may simply be a persistent sense that something isn't quite right.

Dr Davis believes that feeling is worth taking seriously — and that it is usually worth understanding properly.

His role is to help men make sense of what is happening, clearly and thoughtfully, without oversimplifying the situation or jumping to quick fixes.

Key Topics:

⭐ Testosterone, Hormones & Men's Health ⭐ Modern Masculinity & Male Identity ⭐ Sexual Desire, Libido & Attraction ⭐ Erectile Dysfunction & Sexual Performance ⭐ Sexual Shame & Male Vulnerability ⭐ Trauma, Anxiety & Emotional Health ⭐ Relationships, Intimacy & Connection ⭐ Communication & Sexual Expression ⭐ Healthy Masculinity & Self-Acceptance ⭐ Healing, Growth & Sexual Wellbeing

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She asks how you feel about something that matters — and your mind goes blank. Completely empty. You've got a hundred things you want to say, and you tell yourself it's fine, you don't need to say any of it. So you give her nothing.

In this episode I break down what's actually happening in your nervous system when you shut down. It isn't weakness, and it isn't a lack of feeling — it's a protection strategy you built long before this relationship.

You'll learn the belief that keeps you numb, why your silence reads as abandonment to her, and the five steps I used to come back out — catch it, ground it, name it, say it, and build the capacity.

This is episode 3 of the Avoidant Men series.

chapters:

00:00 Why You Go Quiet When It Matters Most

00:54 The Deer In The Headlights Moment

01:29 I Lost My Voice — How I Destroyed 3 Relationships

02:49 The Belief That Keeps You Numb: "Your Feelings Are Too Much"

05:11 Where It Comes From — Emotional Neglect

07:37 The Damage: To You, To Her, To The Relationship

09:00 The New Belief: Your Feelings Do Matter

10:00 I Used To Lie To Avoid Her Tears

12:22 1. Catch It — Notice The Shutdown

12:50 2. Ground & Breathe — Regulate Your System

13:25 3. Name It — "I Feel Numb / Tight Chest"

14:10 4. Say What's Happening — Speak The Struggle

15:15 5. Build Capacity Daily — Like Learning A Language

16:00 6 & 7. Safe Spaces & Why Mistakes Are The Practice

17:06 Where To Go From Here

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👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway

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👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page

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36% of young men believe no one will ever love them. Dating app usage is falling. Synthetic relationships with AI are on the rise. This isn't just a cultural shift — it's a full-scale dating recession, and most men don't know why it's happening to them.

In this episode of The Authentic Man Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Madeleine Mason-Rountree — chartered counselling psychologist and relationship expert — to unpack the real psychology behind why modern men are struggling to connect, date, and find lasting love.

We cover:

• The data behind the dating recession and why it's worse than headlines suggest

• Why anxiety is the single biggest barrier men face in dating

• The rise of "synthetic relationships" and what AI companionship is doing to real connection

• The "centre of health" framework — how self-perception shapes who you attract

• Why vulnerability is your greatest dating asset, not a weakness

• Practical tools from relational life therapy to help you show up authentically

If dating feels harder, more confusing, or just exhausting — this conversation is for you.

Dr Madeleine Roantree is a Chartered Counselling Psychologist registered with both the BPS and HCPC, with over 20 years' experience in mental health.

Her clinical background includes extensive experience within the NHS, where she has supported individuals experiencing complex and enduring psychological difficulties. This work has provided her with a depth of experience in understanding not only psychological distress, but also what is required to facilitate meaningful and sustained change.

Her training spans multiple evidence-based modalities, including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Dynamic Interpersonal Therapy (DIT), Relational Life Therapy (RLT), Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT), Trauma-Focused Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (TF-ACT), and ILF Neurofeedback. She integrates these approaches within a cohesive framework, tailoring her work to the unique needs of each individual or couple she supports.

Key Topics:

⭐ The Dating Recession & Modern Dating Challenges ⭐ Dating App Fatigue & Changing Relationship Trends ⭐ Anxiety, Rejection & Fear of Dating ⭐ Self-Worth, Confidence & Desirability ⭐ Victim Mindset vs Personal Accountability ⭐ Emotional Resilience & Managing Rejection ⭐ Vulnerability as the Foundation of Connection ⭐ Communication Skills & Building Attraction ⭐ Attachment, Intimacy & Healthy Relationships ⭐ Intentional Dating & Long-Term Relationship Success

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