The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast

Betrayal shakes us to our core. It doesn't just damage trust in a relationship ... it can leave us questioning who we are, what we believe, and whether we'll ever feel like ourselves again.

In this special episode of the Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast, Kris Rocha shares a conversation from the Choose Connection Summit, hosted by Dr. Jake Porter. Interviewed by Kathy Reynolds, Kris explores one of the most meaningful aspects of betrayal recovery: rediscovering our God-given identity.

When betrayal becomes part of our story, it's easy to allow the pain, confusion, and trauma to define us. But betrayal is something that happened to you. It is not who you are.

Drawing from her personal healing journey and her work as a betrayal recovery coach, Kris shares how understanding our unique personalities, strengths, gifts, and values can help us rebuild confidence, reclaim our sense of self, and begin living intentionally again.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why betrayal can leave us feeling disconnected from our identity.
• The difference between what has happened to us and who we truly are.
• How understanding our God-given design can support healing and personal growth.
• The importance of identifying our personality, strengths, gifts, and core values.
• Why rediscovering ourselves is about more than simply returning to who we were before betrayal.
• How we can move beyond survival and begin living with greater purpose, confidence, and intention.

Healing isn't about erasing our story. It's about learning that our pain doesn't get to author who we become.

You are more than what happened to you. You are uniquely designed, deeply valuable, and worthy of a life filled with meaning and purpose.

Connect with Kris & Watermark Coaching

Watermark Coaching: Individual betrayal recovery coaching and identity-focused personal development. https://www.watermarkcoach.com

Afternoon Tea with Kris: Looking for connection with other women who understand the complexities of betrayal recovery? Join Kris for Afternoon Tea, a supportive weekly gathering where women can find encouragement, meaningful conversation, and community.

Learn more at https://www.watermarkcoach.com

Instagram: @watermarkcoaching

About the Choose Connection Summit

Special thanks to Dr. Jake Porter and Kathy Reynolds for the opportunity to share this important conversation as part of the Choose Connection Summit.

Production Credits

Edited and produced by Cory Gonzalez.

What if, instead of fighting the parts of ourselves we wish would go away, we learned to move toward them with curiosity and compassion? In this episode, we welcome Jenna Riemersma back to the podcast to explore a simpler, practical approach to Internal Family Systems (IFS) through her new book, Move Toward: A Simplified IFS Therapy Tool to Welcome All Parts of You. Jenna shares how this accessible framework can help us understand what is happening inside of us during moments of activation, respond to ourselves with less shame, and move toward greater healing and connection.

Jenna Riemersma is a bestselling author, therapist, Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist Supervisor (CSAT-S), and nationally recognized speaker whose work makes Internal Family Systems accessible and applicable to everyday life. She specializes in helping people heal from trauma, shame, relational wounds, and internal conflict through IFS. Her newest book, Move Toward, distills the heart of IFS into three simple steps—Notice, Know, Need—that can be used in real time when difficult emotions or protective parts show up.

Key Takeaways from the Episode

• A simple introduction to Internal Family Systems (IFS)
• Why Jenna created Move Toward
• The three steps: Notice, Know, Need
• Using Move Toward during betrayal triggers
• Responding to our parts with curiosity instead of shame
• How inner healing can change our relationships
• Practical ways to use Move Toward in everyday life

Connect with Jenna Riemersma

Learn more about Jenna, explore her free resources and guided Move Toward meditations, and find information about her books on her website.

Book: Move Toward: A Simplified IFS Therapy Tool to Welcome All Parts of You

Find Move Toward on Amazon

You can also visit MoveToward.com for resources related specifically to the Move Toward approach. Jenna offers free guided experiences for areas including anxiety, depression, betrayal trauma, triggers, and compulsive sexual behavior.

Continue Your Healing Journey

Visit Watermark Coaching for resources on betrayal recovery and identity coaching.

Afternoon Tea — Join our confidential weekly online support group for women healing from betrayal trauma. We meet every Thursday at 4:30 PM Pacific. Learn more and register through Watermark Coaching.

Instagram: @watermarkcoaching Email: [email protected]

Thank you for listening to The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast! If today's conversation encouraged you, we'd be grateful if you subscribed, rated, and reviewed the show. Your support helps us reach more individuals and couples searching for hope, healing, and transformation after betrayal.

Edited and produced by Cory Gonzalez.

The Bible teaches us that our struggles often involve more than what we can see on the surface. In this conversation, we explore the biblical foundations of spiritual warfare through Ephesians 6, discussing how truth, discernment, and the armor of God equip believers to face life's challenges with wisdom and confidence. Whether you're navigating betrayal, addiction, fear, or spiritual discouragement, this episode offers practical, Scripture-based encouragement for standing firm in your faith.

Dr. Laura Sanger is a Christian author, speaker, and researcher who specializes in biblical worldview, spiritual warfare, and the unseen realm. With a background in education and research, she is known for translating complex theological concepts into practical, accessible teaching. Her work helps Christians discern truth, recognize deception, and develop a deeper understanding of Scripture so they can walk in greater freedom and confidence in Christ.

Key Takeaways from the Episode:

• The biblical origin of spiritual warfare
• Understanding the spiritual and physical realms
• Who our adversary is—and how he works
• Spiritual forces and the importance of discernment
• Putting on the armor of God in everyday life
• Standing firm in truth, identity, and faith

Connect with Dr. Laura Sanger

Website: https://nolongerinflayed.com

Continue Your Healing Journey

Watermark Coaching www.watermarkcoach.com

Afternoon Tea: Join our confidential weekly online support group for women healing from betrayal trauma. We meet every Thursday at 4:30 PM Pacific. Learn more and register at www.watermarkcoach.com.

Instagram: @watermarkcoaching

Email: [email protected]

Thank you for listening to The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast! If today's conversation encouraged you, we'd be grateful if you subscribed, rated, and reviewed the show. Your support helps us reach more individuals and couples searching for hope, healing, and transformation after betrayal.

Edited and produced by Cory Gonzalez.

When betrayal first comes to light, it can feel as though the ground has disappeared beneath your feet. In this conversation, Lisa Archinal offers compassionate guidance on navigating those overwhelming first days, reminding listeners that while healing won't happen overnight, there are practical steps to help restore stability, hope, and direction.

Drawing from both her personal journey and her book, Betrayal Trauma: Survival Guide for the First 90 Days, Lisa shares wisdom for surviving the initial shock of betrayal, establishing healthy boundaries, caring for your emotional well-being, and finding the courage to take the next right step. Whether you're newly navigating betrayal or walking alongside someone who is, this episode offers encouragement grounded in faith and practical recovery tools.

Key Takeaways from the Episode:

• Navigating the first 90 days after betrayal
• Practical first steps for stabilizing after discovery
• Establishing healthy boundaries during the crisis
• The role of self-care and emotional regulation
• Finding hope through personal healing and faith
• Encouragement for those feeling overwhelmed or stuck

Connect with Lisa Archinal

Website: Our Relentless Pursuit

Book: Betrayal Trauma: Survival Guide for the First 90 Days Available on Amazon

Continue Your Healing Journey

Website: https://www.watermarkcoach.com

Join Afternoon Tea, our confidential weekly online support group for women healing from betrayal trauma. We meet every Thursday at 4:30 PM Pacific. Learn more and register at Watermark Coaching.

Instagram: @watermarkcoaching

Email: [email protected]

Thank you for listening! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast. Your feedback helps us reach more people searching for hope and healing after betrayal.

Edited and produced by Cory Gonzalez.

In this conversation, Jill Pool helps us put words to the often-misunderstood experience of emotional betrayal, offering clarity, validation, and hope to those who have questioned whether their pain is "real enough."

Drawing from both her personal journey and professional work, Jill introduces practical definitions that distinguish emotional displacement, emotional neglect, and emotional affairs. We also explore why emotional betrayal can cause profound trauma, how emerging technologies like AI companions are reshaping conversations about fidelity, and how biblical truth helps betrayed partners move from confusion to clarity and healing.

Key Takeaways from the Episode:

• Understanding emotional betrayal and why it hurts so deeply
• The differences between emotional displacement, emotional neglect, and emotional affairs
• Navigating AI companions and digital forms of betrayal
• Biblical perspectives on covenant, faithfulness, and marriage
• Finding hope when betrayal leads to a crisis of faith

Connect with Jill Pool:

Website: https://www.hopeinthehavoc.com/

Instagram: @hopeinthehavoc

Email: [email protected]

Resources: https://hopeinthehavoc.com/resources

Connect with Us:

Website: https://www.watermarkcoach.com

Instagram: @watermarkcoaching

Email: [email protected]

Join Afternoon Tea

Looking for a safe, confidential community of women who truly understand betrayal trauma? We'd love to have you join us for Afternoon Tea, our weekly online support group held every Thursday at 4:30 PM Pacific. Learn more and reserve your seat at https://www.watermarkcoach.com.

Thank you for listening! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast. Your feedback helps us reach more people searching for hope and healing after betrayal.

Edited and produced by Cory Gonzalez.

Hope and healing take center stage in this conversation with Clinton and Nikki Mitchell as they share their story of betrayal, disclosure, and the redemptive work God has done in their marriage. After more than 31 years together and decades in ministry, what appeared stable on the outside was hiding deep pain and long-held secrets. Their willingness to share openly offers hope to couples walking through the devastation of betrayal and the long road of restoration.

Drawing from their personal journey and their book, Glory From the Ashes: How a YES to God’s Invitation Can Transform Your Marriage, Clinton and Nikki speak candidly about the tools that accelerated healing, the role of spiritual intimacy, and why they now feel called to share their story with others.

Key Takeaways from the Episode:

• Clinton and Nikki’s story of disclosure, devastation, and redemption
• What has contributed to their healing since D-Day
• Practical recovery tools that support their healing journey
• A deeper look at spiritual intimacy in marriage restoration
• The baking soda and vinegar illustration of intimacy
• Why they chose to share their story so openly and publicly
• Hope for couples pursuing healing after betrayal

Connect with Clinton & Nikki Mitchel

Book: Glory From the Ashes: How a YES to God’s Invitation Can Transform Your Marriage

Connect with Us

Watermark Coaching: www.watermarkcoach.com

Instagram: @watermarkcoaching

Email: [email protected]

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BRT is edited by Kris Rocha & produced by THE Cory Gonzalez

This podcast is sponsored by and produced with the support of Pure Life Alliance. Visit us at https://www.purelifealliance.com

In this deeply insightful episode, we are joined by Darrell Brazell, pastor of New Hope Fellowship and Director of New Hope Recovery Ministries, for an important conversation around Dr. Omar Minwalla’s concept of The Secret Sexual Basement. Together, we explore how hidden sexual behaviors, deception, and compartmentalized thinking create profound relational harm and contribute to betrayal trauma. Darrell brings decades of experience working with men, couples, and recovery communities, helping us better understand what is happening beneath the surface and what true healing requires.

This conversation offers clarity for both betrayed partners and those seeking recovery by naming the hidden dynamics that often keep individuals stuck in secrecy, shame, and emotional disconnection. We also discuss the courageous steps required to move toward honesty, integrity, empathy, and relational restoration.

Key Takeaways from the Episode:

• Darrell helps define The Secret Sexual Basement and why this framework is so powerful in understanding betrayal trauma, deception, and reality collapse for partners.

• We discuss how this hidden “basement” develops over time through secrecy, compartmentalization, entitlement, distorted beliefs, and repeated patterns of deception.

• Darrell addresses common misunderstandings many men have about the true depth of harm caused by secret sexual behavior and why the damage extends far beyond the behavior itself.

• We explore how Dr. Minwalla’s model shifts the conversation away from shame-based labels and toward relational integrity, abuse dynamics, and the psychological impact on the betrayed partner.

• Darrell shares practical ways men can begin to truly grasp the impact of their actions, including empathy work, honesty, accountability, and listening to the lived experience of their partner.

• We also cover warning signs that someone may still be operating from secrecy and compartmentalization, even while claiming to be in recovery.

• Darrell closes with a powerful word of encouragement and hope for both individuals and couples pursuing freedom, healing, and restoration.

Connect with Darrell Brazell

New Hope Fellowship

New Hope Recovery Ministries

Author of New Hope for Sexual Integrity

Connect with Us

Watermark Coaching – www.watermarkcoach.com

Instagram – @watermarkcoaching

Thank you for listening! Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast. Your feedback helps us grow and ensures more people can find the hope and support they deserve.

This podcast is sponsored by and produced with the support of Pure Life Alliance.

In this episode of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast, we sit down with author, speaker, and betrayal-recovery coach Vicki Tiede to discuss the complex and often isolating experience of discovering a spouse’s same-sex attraction. With both professional insight and compassion, Vicki brings clarity to a topic that is frequently misunderstood and emotionally overwhelming for many women.

We explore how this type of discovery can feel both similar to and distinct from other forms of sexual betrayal. Vicki provides guidance on separating attraction from identity and behavior, identifying safe and aligned professional support, and establishing boundaries that protect a woman’s well-being. This episode offers a thoughtful perspective, practical direction, and a message of hope for those navigating this unique aspect of betrayal trauma.

Key Takeaways from the Episode:

• Vicki provides a clear definition of same-sex attraction that may differ from common assumptions, helping reduce confusion and increase understanding.

• The trauma response to this discovery can mirror other forms of betrayal while also introducing unique challenges related to identity, trust, and relational security.

• Distinguishing between attraction, identity, and behavior is essential for avoiding inaccurate assumptions and making grounded decisions.

• When seeking support, it is important to find professionals who are trauma-informed, partner-sensitive, and aligned with personal values and safety needs.

• A wife can acknowledge her husband’s internal struggle without assuming responsibility for managing it or compromising her own well-being.

• Establishing clear boundaries, protective agreements, and safety structures is critical in the early stages following disclosure.

• Even in the midst of confusion and overwhelm, there is a path forward, and support is available.

Connect with Vicki Tiede Life Renovation Counseling & Coaching: https://liferenovationcc.com

Connect with Us Watermark Coaching: https://www.watermarkcoach.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/watermarkcoaching

This episode is sponsored by Pure Life Alliance Learn more at: https://www.purelifealliance.org

Healing after betrayal is hard enough—but what happens when you’re doing the work alone? In this honest and hope-filled conversation, we sit down with Lyschel Burket, founder of Hope Redefined Ministries, to explore the realities of one-sided healing.

Lyschel brings deep compassion, biblical truth, and hard-earned wisdom to a topic many women quietly carry. Together, we unpack why one-sided healing is so common in betrayal recovery, how to stay grounded when your partner isn’t doing their work, and how women can release responsibility that was never theirs to carry—without losing hope, faith, or themselves.

Key Takeaways from the Episode:

• One-sided healing occurs when a betrayed partner is pursuing growth, boundaries, and restoration while the other person remains disengaged, resistant, or unsafe.

• Many women find themselves healing alone because they cannot control another person’s willingness to change—only their own responses and choices.

• Carrying someone else’s responsibility creates exhaustion, resentment, and confusion; healthy healing requires clear emotional and spiritual boundaries.

• Staying anchored in one-sided healing often involves grounding practices such as prayer, Scripture, community support, and trauma-informed tools.

• Women frequently battle lies about their worth, responsibility, or “failure” when healing alone—truth replaces those lies with clarity, dignity, and freedom.

• Unexpected growth can emerge through one-sided healing, including deeper identity, resilience, discernment, and spiritual maturity.

• Even in the middle of unresolved circumstances, hope is not lost—God’s work in you is never wasted.

Connect with Lyschel Burket:

• Website: https://hoperedefined.org
• Podcast: Hope for Wives

Connect with Us:

• Watermark Coaching: https://www.watermarkcoach.com
• Instagram: @watermarkcoaching

Healing after betrayal is not about rushing forward or "getting over it”—it’s about courageously reclaiming yourself, one brave step at a time. In this episode, we welcome back licensed professional counselor, coach, and author Tammy Gustafson for a powerful conversation about what it truly means to move from brokenness to bravery after intimate betrayal.

Tammy shares insights from her brand-new book, Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayal. Drawing on years of clinical experience, extensive survey research, and the many voices of betrayed women she's worked with over the past 15 years, Tammy explores the stages of betrayal healing, common places where women get stuck, and why courage, curiosity, and even fun are essential to long-term recovery. This episode offers deep hope for anyone wondering if trust, joy, or dreaming again is still possible.

Key Takeaways from the Episode:

• Betrayal healing unfolds in stages, and understanding where you are can reduce shame and self-blame while increasing compassion for yourself

• Tammy shares what inspired Broken to Brave and why this book was written specifically to meet women where they actually are in healing

• Research from Tammy’s survey revealed powerful patterns in betrayal recovery, including surprising insights into what women most need to move forward

• What sets Broken to Brave apart is its integration of clinical wisdom, real-life stories, and practical tools for every stage of healing

• Many women get stuck in healing through over-functioning, hyper-vigilance, or fear of joy, and Tammy explains how “fun” can be a legitimate and healing practice

• Even after deep betrayal, it is possible to trust yourself again, reclaim hope, and begin dreaming about a future that feels meaningful and free

Connect with Tammy Gustafson

Learn more about Tammy’s work, counseling services, and upcoming book through her ministries:

• 👉 Broken to Brave on Amazon (US) — Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayal by Tammy Gustafson - Available NOW!
• LiveFree Counseling: https://www.livefreecounseling.com

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• Watermark Coaching: https://www.watermarkcoach.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/watermarkcoaching