The Boundaries.me Podcast

Pat Lencioni shares with us his story of creating a boundary around prioritizing his family. He’s discovered that it all starts with his family, and that if work, or other relationships begin to take precedent, he suffers. Ironically, he’s found that by keeping his time with his family sacred he’s more efficient at work, has higher productivity, and has better secondary relationships.

Christine Caine explains how she realized she was taking personal offense far too often. It was undermining her working relationships and taking a toll on the rest of her life. She took some growth steps to understand that if she started to take criticism personally, she was really being triggered by something else. When the offense-alarm went off, rather than getting defensive, she goes to a place of observation. This practice has led her to peace and healthier relationships.

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s Boundaries.Me podcast, Liz Bohannon, co-founder and CEO of Sseko Designs, shares with us the importance of establishing work-life boundaries with her husband and Co-CEO. They have a rule: they have to ask each other for permission to talk about work outside of work. It seems like it should be common sense to share our boundaries, but it takes time and attention, and it’s made a big difference in Liz’s life.

Lysa TerKeurst shares a very personal story about how setting a boundary around her spiritual capacity changed her life. She realized that there were limits to how much she can give, and that when she gave too much, she couldn't function. It's a form of people-pleasing that caring people will have to confront. Setting this boundary allowed her to shift from a place of trying to have control over how other people feel, to a place of compassion, and it ultimately helped save her marriage.

We create an emotional tone within our lives and relationships. What does the voice in your head sound like? Do you like what you hear? How aware are you of the emotional tone that you create in your communications with others? Is your tone bringing people closer, or pushing them away?

Dr. Henry Cloud breaks down how you can begin to take control of the emotional tone that you're living inside.

Your boundaries will help push you toward what you want to happen and protect you from drifting of course. The boundaries that Anthony set around money and relationships have enabled him to make the choices that build the future he wants.

New Year's resolutions usually fail. Setting goals is easy and meeting them is hard, but it doesn't have to be impossible. If you can learn how to do this, you'll thrive in any situation where you're trying to accomplish something. This system is what I use in my own life, and it's what I use with a lot of people that I work with. It's going to work for you too.

Comparing yourself to others can be a recipe for heartache.

This episode of the podcast features a story by Rachel Cruze. Rachel's story focuses on a boundary that she has set around comparing herself with other people.

Bob Goff has a question for listeners of Dr. Henry Cloud's podcast: how can I be helpful to you?

This episode of the podcast focuses on the boundary that Bob sets when he asks this question. Put another way, the question is, "What do you want?"

Bob tells us how this clarifying question enables him to be incredibly available to help people, while also setting a condition that must be met in order to begin.

The first episode of Dr. Henry Cloud's Boundaries.me Podcast features Henry discussing the most important boundary in his life -- the boundary of love. Henry tells listeners why loving God with his heart and soul and to love others as himself is a centering, anchoring form of accountability and relationship.