The Boundaries.me Podcast

In this rebroadcast of the Dr. Cloud show:

-How do to rebuild a relationship when trust is broken on both sides

-When comes to friendships, how do you know if it's a shallow one?

-A woman is about to get divorced and wants to make sure she's making the right decision

-A newly-wed man is living with his in-laws and feels too passive

-How long should a relationship be before marriage?

Topics in this episode of the Dr. Cloud Show:

-Learning to rebuild your sense of self after abuse

-Navigating relationships with our family when they gaslight us

-Recognizing the difference between disagreement and disrespect in friendships

-Dealing with a mother that has formed completely wrong opinions about you

-When someone feels hurt by us, and we don't believe we did anything wrong, how can we respond?

Callers on this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show talked about:

-A friend being abused by both her husband and son

-Seeking more details about the gap between where we are and where we want to be (goal accomplishment).

-Confronting issues around quitting smoking, and all the emotional baggage that comes with it.

-Getting treated like a doormat by your children. 

-Feeling burned out from all the time with the kids, and managing anger. How do we replenish our energy?

This is a rebroadcast of the Live Dr. Cloud Show. This is the complete show from Friday April, 17th, 2020.

Some of the calls in this episode:

A woman in Illinois has an antagonistic husband. Dr. Cloud helps her learn how to have meaningful conversations that address the behavior.

A young caller called in about how to have a romantic relationship without having sex before marriage.

How do we deal with binge eating? Dr. Cloud helps a caller with self-control and avoiding the impulse to over-eat.

When we know our calling, it gives us clarity as to why we're doing what we're doing. Forming boundaries can start in many different ways, but getting clarity about your motives is a very natural way to form your first boundary. A good sign of a healthy boundary is that it lets us learn, and take in new information. It teaches us that every yes is a no, and every no is a yes that can either can keep us in line with our calling, or detract us from it.

Who are you going to be?

Dr. Les Carter shares with us his story about setting a boundary around staying centered on being himself. Remaining true to ourselves is incredibly hard, but by establishing a boundary around who we are, and who we're going to be to the people around us, it becomes possible. That boundary makes it easier to make adjustments and stay aware of when we diverge from our true selves.

We're still in the early stages of a crisis and you might be experiencing feelings of being a little lost and adrift right now, or maybe a little unmotivated. You lose some control when the structures of life disappear. So, what can we do individually to take a few steps back to feeling normal? In this podcast, I want to help you overcome something called 'learned helplessness.' I want to help you take control of what you can control, and come to terms with what you can't.

This podcast is about the psychology of what happens to a human in a time of big crisis. How does that affect us? What are the best things that you can be doing in the midst of that for your psyche, for your heart and for your relationships? One of the things that we know about humans is that we are unbelievably resilient. We adapt. We find ways through hard times. We come out stronger on the other end. 

So, how do we get through it? That’s what I want to discuss.

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s podcast, Danny Silk, a pastor and author, tells us about how he progressed in his relationships by setting a firm boundary around respectful communication. Between his two parents, and his wife’s two parents and step father, there have been 15 marriages. Through love and time they discovered the peace that comes from keeping calm and showing respect in all communication. When communication gets heated, their boundary becomes active and prevents things from escalating

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s podcast, Jo Saxton, an author, public speaker, and host of the Lead Stories Podcast, shares how setting a boundary around her brokenness changed her life. Pain will do all kinds of things to the mind, and our first reactions to mental pain when we’re young often exacerbate things. Through some good luck and hard work she found a way to put the past in the past and to forgive her flaws by setting a boundary. Setting the boundary freed her to start leading her life.