The Brendan Scholefield Show

Brendan & Mike share three ways men can think about the concept of masculine leadership in the context of marriage. They also explore the topic of how far a husbands leadership in his marriage actually extends.

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The guys review 6 popular reasons modern men are avoiding marriage and also share their thoughts on the red-pill and MGTOW men's movements.

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INTRO (00:50)

CONTENT:

Popular reasons men are avoiding marriage:

1. Men shouldn’t get married because 50% of marriages end in divorce and 80% of them are initiated by women (07:33)
2. Modern women are just not worth marrying anymore (19:33)
3. All women are hypergamous by nature & are inherently untrustworthy (27:38)
4. Until women improve and change or society undergoes massive reform, marriage is not worth it. (35:33)
5. Men are avoiding marriage because they “have to become a high value man first” (42:40)
6. “Men Going Their Own Way” Is a superior path (48:59)
    

OUTRO (52:35)

Can the average family still get by on a single income, or has that become a far-fetched dream? Can traditional gender roles still work, or are they outdated and archaic? In this episode, the guys cover the ins and outs of the "trad-life" from both the male and female perspective. Expect lots of value, insight and laughs!

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INTRO (00:50)

TRUE OR FALSE?

1. Adhering to traditional gender roles is the best relationship model for men, women, children and society as a whole (04:44)
2. Traditional gender roles are about adhering to strict rules and guidelines based on gender (09:03)
3. Due to inflation and increased costs of living, the trad life is not possible for the average couple anymore (11:25)
4. If a woman becomes a trad-wife, she becomes completely dependent on her husband (19:25)
5. Living the trad life is a one-way ticket to happiness and fulfillment (27:20)
6. It is NOT good for a woman to be the primary breadwinner in a marriage (31:39)
7. For the trad life to work, a man MUST be in a high earning career (38:07)
8. Women cannot work outside of the home under any circumstance (42:03)
9. Every task between husband and wife should be divided based on gender (46:28)
10. Living the trad life and being in a biblically based marriage are the same (49:08)
11. Living the trad life is still possible | Closing Thoughts  (55:18)

Trust is foundational to a healthy and thriving relationship. In today's episode, the guys share 8 pieces of advice on how to build and keep her trust. Listen as Brendan & Mike shed light and bring clarity on a topic that many men get confused about. This episode is full of practical advice and actionable information!

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INTRO: (00:50)

1. Be a man of your word (06:00) 
2. Learn to say no, don’t be a yes man (11:39)
3. Take extreme ownership without being a simp (18:28)
4. Be emotionally calibrated (23:20)
5. Be the man in motion (33:10)
6. Don’t be a tyrant or dictator (36:34)
7. Escape the good boy performance trap (42:55)
8. Keep her safe (46:39)

CLOSING THOUGHTS (53:20)

Helpful reminders, tips, and thoughts for the ladies looking to go from single to happily married. Whether you are single or in a relationship already, there will be takeaways for you in this episode! 

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INTRO (00:50)

1. Give your life to Christ (06:09)
2. Learn useful skills (10:25)
3. Master your mindset and attitude (18:56)
4. Don’t over romanticize about a “masculine man” (24:57)
5. Don’t treat your boyfriend like your husband (30:32)
6. Reject the ways of the world and dont get lost in worldly pursuits (35:28)
7. Don’t waste time on men who don’t want the same things as you (40:38)
8. Own your desire to be a wife, mother and homemaker (44:44)

CLOSING THOUGHTS (47:39)

This is the A-Z guide on going from single to happily married. Brendan & Mike lay out a clear path, offer essential reminders, and highlight clear do's and don'ts when dating with the intention of marriage.

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INTRO (00:55)

1. DROP THE DOOMER MINDSET. (03:32)
2. BUILD YOUR FRAME. (11:13)
3. KNOW WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR. (20:43)
4. HAVE A STANDARD, BUT HAVE GRACE TOO. (29:10)
5. BE WILLING TO LEAD HER FORWARD. (37:04)
6. ASSESS YOUR COMPATIBILITY FROM A SOBER MIND. (40:14)
7. DON’T WASTE TIME AS “BOYFRIEND AND GIRLFRIEND” (44:42)
8. GET MARRIED, BRO. (48:46)

CLOSING THOUGHTS: (52:43)

Brendan & Mike share their testimonies of how they came to faith in Christ. They explain where they were at before becoming Christians, what opened their eyes, and what they believe now.

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What’s true and what’s false about masculine/feminine dynamics? Brendan and Mike discuss the controversial topic of intersexual dynamics between men and women, shedding light on what can often be a confusing and overwhelming subject.

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INTRO: (00:55)

Masculine/feminine polarity is extremely important to the health and well-being of a marriage (True or false?) (08:39)

All people have a masculine and feminine side within them (True or false?) (12:22)

A man can make a woman more feminine (True or false?) (19:22)

A woman can make a man more masculine (True or false?) (22:30)

If a man leads well, a woman will naturally submit to him (True or false?) (25:39)

Masculine women are a result of absent fathers and weak men (True or false?) (35:10)

If gender roles have been reversed in a marriage, it can be corrected (True or false?) (40:23)

If a man isn’t occupying his masculine role, divorce is an option (True or false?) (44:40)

Women are as capable of leading a marriage as men (True or false?) (49:54)

Traditional gender roles are the best relationship model for men, women, children and society as a whole (True or false?) (51:10)

OUTRO: (53:36)

What makes a marriage succeed, and what makes a marriage fall apart? In today's episode, Brendan and Mike explore the principles that make for a thriving marriage, as well as diving into some of the things that couples do that end up undermining the strength of their most important human relationship.

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INTRO: (00:55)

• Honour your vows.  (05:20)
• Master your mindset (08:24)
• Attack the problem and not each other (15:25)
• Don’t hold a record of wrongs, extend grace and forgiveness (21:32)
• Have lots of sex (25:34)
• Understand and embrace your roles as husband and wife (30:27)
• Make Christ the foundation of your marriage (35:47)
• Give love the way your spouse most naturally receives it. (40:02)
• Don’t compare your spouse; don’t talk negatively about your spouse (44:09)
• Have a shared mission (51:37)

OUTRO: (55:08)

Brendan & Mike discuss the life changing benefits of brotherhood and how having a council of good men in a man's life is the missing piece for so many modern guys. Warning: this episode may alter your perspective on just how important and significant brotherhood is for men.

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INTRO: (00:55)

Reasons Why Every Man Needs Brotherhood:

1. Brotherhood properly calibrates you as a man (03:27)
2. Having brothers around you unburdens your woman and helps you show up as the man that you want to be. (09:33)
3. Iron Sharpens Iron and Men Need Correction & Instruction (13:50)
4. Men need brotherly love and fatherly love. (16:58)
5. Brotherhood reveals your blindspots. (20:54)
6. Through brotherhood, a man learns how to LEAD. (24:05)
7. Brotherhood is a path towards relational mastery. (27:42)
8. Chronic isolation and disconnection is both unhealthy and ungodly. (30:02)
9. Brotherhood teaches you how to both support others and be supported. (36:12)
10. Men need a space to drop the mask and be completely honest with each other. (40:08)
11. Brotherhood can help a man realize his highest potential. (44:36)

CLOSING THOUGHTS / BROTHERHOOD DOORS NOW OPEN (46:35)