The Brendan Scholefield Show

How does a man find his purpose, and how should men approach the topic of career and work in general? Brendan & Mike do a deep dive into these questions and more, as they discuss business, entrepreneurship and finding meaningful work in our modern age.

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INTRO (00:50)

1. What do you think about the concept of work/life balance? (06:09)
2. What do you see  young men doing wrong when it comes to the topic of career and work? (10:57)
3. Is college still worth it for men? (17:20)
4. What career advice would you give to men? (21:00)
5. Is running an online business the ticket to living the trad life in this day and age? (25:30)
6. How can a man find his purpose or calling in life? (34:10)
7. Is it important for a man to be ‘living out his purpose’ when it comes to his work? (44:40)
8. What are your thoughts on “hustle culture”? (47:00)
9. Do you think that a man needs to have his career, work and finances in order before he gets married? (52:07)

How should a man relate to his mother? In this episode, Brendan & Mike discuss common mistakes men are making in relation to their mothers. They also share actionable tips and strategies for how a man can improve in this area of his life. This conversation is a deep dive into a topic that can cause a great deal of turmoil in a man’s life, and in his marriage.

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INTRO (00:50)

Mistakes that men are making in relation to their mothers:

#1. Living under the thumb of his mother. (08:29)

#2. Putting his mother before his wife. (15:00

#3. Failure to set proper boundaries with his mother. (21:25)

#4. Falling into relationship with a woman who treats him like his mother. (26:40)

#5. Continuing to allow himself to be coddled by his mother well into adulthood. (34:30)

#6. Thinking that “honoring” his mother means enabling and allowing her toxic behaviour. (41:50)

Advice for single mothers of boys…. (45:26)

Reviewing 7 common mistakes that we see wives making in their marriages! Too often we see one sided content online speaking only to the wrongs of husbands. In this episode we focus squarely on holding wives accountable for the responsibility that they have in the health and well-being of their marriages.

Note: Mike's audio got weird for the first minute and then the issue clears up for the rest of the episode.

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INTRO (00:50)

Mistake #1: Losing sight of the good in your husband. (03:00)

Mistake #2: Thinking that your husband becoming “more masculine” will solve all of your relational issues, forever and ever. (08:20)

Mistake #3: Saying you want leadership from your husband when you actually don’t. (15:50)

Mistake #4: Getting lost and confused in secular, worldly content about trauma, healing, relationships, and self-help (22:53)

Mistake #5: Believing the lie that a wife's submission is earned based on her husband's good performance. (30:14)

Mistake #6: Thinking that “traditional gender roles” apart from Christ are the solution. (37:18)

Mistake #7: Thinking that your lack of “happiness” is justification for divorce. (41:25)

Closing Thoughts (48:25)

Brendan & Mike discuss 7 common mistakes men are making in their marriages, and what they can do to fix them. Lots of tactical advice, hard hitting reminders and practical wisdom is shared in this one!

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INTRO: (00:50)

Mistake #1: Being indecisive. (05:58)

Mistake #2: Coasting and just going through the motions. (13:10)

Mistake #3: Having no backbone and not holding your wife accountable. (20:10)

Mistake #4: Believing the “happy wife, happy life” lie. (27:50)

Mistake #5: Treating her like your roommate or your bro. (36:20)

Mistake #6: Failing to spiritually shepherd your family. (41:06)

Mistake #7: Misunderstanding what it means to be a protector. (46:40)

Bonus Mistake: (54:10)

Men are being encouraged to give up on the idea of marriage. It has been said that feminism is too powerful of a force, and modern women are just too far gone to be worth marrying or building families with. Brendan & Mike discuss if modern women are indeed lost beyond hope, and how men can navigate the current cultural blackhole that we find ourselves in. Red-Pill or the Christ-Pill... Which way western man?

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INTRO: (00:50)

Can God save modern women? (05:00)

Should a man wife up the next degenerate woman he meets to save the west? (06:50)

What’s the difference between saving a woman and leading her? (13:48)

How can a man know if a woman is worth investing in and is actually wife material? (26:00)

WHAT indicates that she IS/ IS NOT wife material (30:00)

Two divergent paths…. Red Pill Vs. Christ Pill… Which way western man? (32:40)

What is the red pill? What can a man learn from it? Brendan & Mike do a deep dive into the popular red pill men’s movement, explaining what the red pill ideology is, and share why they believe men should ultimately avoid it.

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Intro (00:50)

What is the red pill? (03:40)

What are the positive aspects of the red pill? (07:00)

Reasons why men must ultimately avoid the red pill…

1. The red pill produces bad fruit. (10:30)
2. The red pill dissuades men from becoming husbands and fathers. (19:30)
3. The red pill says women aren’t worth committing to in our current society, while encouraging men to be players and extract sex from women without committing to them. (24:30)
4. The red pill teaches that women have zero ability to overcome the worst aspects of female nature. Modern women are beyond salvation. (28:45)
5. The red pill encourages men to remain victims, and leads men into further bitterness and resentment. (33:41)
6. Cheating is ok if you are a high value man. (37:05)
7. The red pill rejects God and offers no real hope (42:10)

Should men be vulnerable? How can a man learn to better control his emotions, and on the flip side, how can a man better learn to feel his emotions? Men are often confused and caught between conflicting narratives about how to relate to not only their emotions, but the emotions of their wife. In today’s episode, Brendan & Mike share what they’ve learned on the topic of emotional mastery for men.

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INTRO: (00:50)

CONTENT:

1. Should men be vulnerable? (04:45)
2. How can a man better learn to control his emotions? (11:01)
3. Is stoicism a worthy ideal for men? (16:37)
4. Is sensitivity a weakness for men? (21:03)
5. How can a man that is cut off from his emotions start to reconnect to them? (25:00)
6. How can a husband best show up for his wife in her emotions? (32:37)
7. What do women really want from men emotionally speaking? (39:50)

What do you do if your father was less than ideal? How do you forgive and move on? In this episode, Brendan & Mike dive deep into the topic of “the father wound” and provide actionable tips for how to move forward from a troubling past. Disclaimer: this episode gets very raw and real.

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Intro (00:50)

What is the father wound? (03:05)

The importance of a present and loving father. (05:45)

Our father stories. (14:17)

5 steps to healing the father wound. (46:12)

1. Turn and face your past, stop running from it….
2. Feel it all, don’t intellectually bypass it.
3. Let go of your attachments to how things could’ve or should’ve been… accept the reality.
4. Forgive!
5. Grow In your Relationship With God The Father

Closing thoughts and reflections. (59:25)

What are the right and wrong ways for men and women to use social media? Should women even be on social media in the first place? Brendan & Mike explore these questions and more in the first episode of 2024.

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INTRO: (00:55)

Should women even be on social media? (06:00)

What are the wrong ways for a woman to engage with social media? (13:40)

What are the right ways for a woman to engage with social media? (18:30)

What are the wrong ways for a man to engage with social media? (24:50)

What are the right ways for a man to engage with social media? (32:53)

In their final episode of 2023, the guys answer 34 audience questions on a broad range of topics. There will be something for everybody in this episode.

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INTRO (00:50)

1. Why do you cuss so much as Christians? (02:15)

2. Is lack of masculine guidance resulting in gender dysphoria? (06:46)

3. You guys promote homemaking and that women shouldn’t work outside of the home but Mikes wife said she worked after she had their first baby so that sounds rather contradictory? (09:00)

4. My husband is writing a book but we have no income at all. Won’t get a job at all. What can I do as a wife?  (10:40)

5. How to accept God when you are a realist through and through? A science man. (13:00)


6. Why are there so many dog moms/dads that don’t care to have a real family?

7. You made a passive remark about turning the other cheek. Jesus commanded this. You agree? (20:03)


8. Should you get married while in college? (22:52)


9. Should young men still consider joining the military, or no, due to the woke presidential administration? (24:36)  

10. Is it wise to date someone based on their potential? (26:33)


11. Can you recommend a podcast for healing and getting into full femininity? (29:42)


12. Where do you guys see yourselves in 10 years? (33:20)  

13. How do we go about studying the Bible to really grasp the meaning of it and understand it? (36:06)


14. How to spot covert narcissism earlier on in men (also in women)? (39:18)

15.  How do you handle your in-laws? (41:42)


16.  How much should attraction play into picking a spouse/person to court? (44:52)


17. Divorced mom with 2 kids, i know your “red flags” thoughts, but give us some advice/hope. (47:01)

18. Would you rather be a templar knight in the crusades, or a spartan in the brave 300? (48:57)

19. Do you go to church? How do you vet a church? And your thoughts on complementarianism? (50:04)


20. Why is the new age a red flag? (53:20)


21. How much do we need to disclose about our dating history? When to share? (54:48)


22. How do you find your mission as a man? (56:42)


23. What would you each say to young boys and girls out there who currently lack father figures? (58:25)


24. Can I buy my fiance coaching sessions for Xmas? We both love the show (01:00:00)


25. How do I know if my fiance is serious about his faith? He does all of the above except read the bible… (01:01:31)

26. Male perspective on how to be ok with his past of experienced girls/insecurity and inferiority (01:03:04)  

27. Tell us about your wives! Things they do that make you feel respected/loved/appreciated (01:05:12)


28. Tips for women on how to support their man on kindling more innate masculinity? (01:07:30)

29. What do you believe women should be doing before they are married (college, work etc) (01:08:31)


30. Thoughts on groups like boy scouts of america for kids? Theres been lots of scandals (01:10:35)

31. Is masculine revival your full-time job? (01:12:20)

32. What are you doing to encourage more men to join your courtship network? (01:12:40)

33. Did you have good examples of fathers growing up? (01:14:17)


34. How do you raise a godly masculine son? (01:15:48)  


OUTRO (01:17:00)