In this episode Nicky gives you five tips to help you become more confident in your conversations. Perhaps you struggle to be heard in meetings or at home, or do you struggle to get your message across in meetings.

Actions for you to take:

1. Practice

2. Listen to what other people say and then reflect back what you have heard.

3. Quietening your inner dialogue

4. Being present

5. Make it about the other person

In this episode Nicky looks at how we can negotiate with our kids especially in during lockdown.

She gives 3 tips; remember our conversation comes from our own point of view, being present, listening.

She also shares the plane Please Listen by Leo Buscaglia

As we enter the second month of this current lockdown, relationships are beginning to breakdown as people struggle with home schooling and working from home. Families have forgotten to make quality and fun time for each other as this way of life becomes the new normal. In this episode Nicky gives us four tips on how to communicate with our families during lockdown.

Part 5 of this mini course where Nicky gets you to reflect on how you communicate. Listening is at the heart of building relationships, being fully present with someone with no judgement or trying to problem solve is incredibly powerful when it comes to building relationships and gaining trust. Without trust relationships fail, without listening and spending time with someone it's hard to build trust.

In this episode we look at the think, feel, do cognitive behaviour model and how this affects the way we behave and communicate with each other.

Nicky shares some of her own stories in how this works for her and how reflection is the key to change.

Sometimes we don't know what we don't know, understanding how we work as individuals helps us to be able to change and grow.

In this episode Nicky looks at how fear drives us and causes emotional conversations rather than logical ones. She discusses how your inner critic is there to protect you and comes from the part of the primitive brain which causes fight, flight or freeze.

Nicky also discusses how being control can have an affect on how we communicate with others and when control is taken from us it causes fear.This fear is often about loss or perceived loss.

She gives you tips on how you become more aware of how you are behaving and how you can speak from a more logical perspective rather than an emotional one. Self reflection is the key to change.

This episode is part 2 from a 5 part mini series about self reflection and how to build relationships through communication.

In this episode we loo at our own values and belief and what we believe to be true and how it drives our behaviour. Nicky gives you a challenge at the end of each session to help you become more reflective and consciously aware about how you communicate with other people.

This mini series is a 5 day course where Nicky helps you to become more self aware about how you behave and why. Today is all about self reflection and the challenge is to make your behaviour and communication more conscious. It is difficult to change if you are unaware of how you behave int he first place.

Welcome to our conversations from the coffee shop where we meet and talk to people about their lives and their stories.

In this episode we meet Jess who shares her story of how she lost her partner to heart disease at an incredibly early age, how she dealt with this by in her words "running away" and how she fell into an abusive relationship and eventually escaped. Jess shares with us the lessons she learnt along the way and of course we focus and reflect not he communication and behaviour aspect of it all.

Thank you Jess for sharing your story.

In this episode we look at one of the ways we listen to other people, the "problem solving" way. This means we focus on how we can solve the other persons problem rather than how they might be feeling, or what might be going on for them. We also discuss the poem Please Listen by Leo Buscaglia. Leo's poem shows the effect telling someone what to do can have on them.