The Connected Life

Relationships have a way of bringing out the best and the worst of our humanity. Giving ourselves to others in these relationships can be scary. Behind some of the most difficult messes we make, with the people we care about the most, are wounds that have evolved out of the way that we learned how to attach as children. These wounds can create cycles of disconnection that loop repeatedly throughout our lives if they go unaddressed.

In this episode Justin sits down with his therapist Barry McGarrah. Barry is an Emotionally Focused Therapist that has given his life to understanding how the relational attachment styles we have affect the way we experience connection. Barry shares insights on formative wounds that perpetuate disconnection while bringing clarity to the ways we can have healthy attachments.

If you're wanting to have a better understanding of how you connect to the people you care about the most, this episode will be a beacon of hope that will shine a light on how you relate, while giving you a sense of relief knowing there's reasons for why you are the way you are.

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Being able to connect to our emotions is vital to the healing process, but what if not all disconnection is bad? In fact, what if balanced disconnection is actually part of a healthy lifestyle?

In this episode Abi and Justin investigate the power of healthily dissociating from the intensity life can often create. They look at many different options to disconnect without perpetuating destruction. Together they discuss how dissociating into these alternate activities can actually restore the balance necessary to repair broken connections and pain.

If you've been looking for a reason to justify pushing pause on aspects of life, in hopes of catching your breath, this episode will help you navigate the process and get as refreshed as you need!

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Not every person has an official position as a leader, but every person is an influencer. Whether we like to admit it or not, we are influencing one another every day through our emotions and actions. The results can often be creative or destructive, depending on the vision we have for who we want to be.

In this episode Justin and Abi explore the ways we influence the world around us through our passive or proactive approach to the life right in front of us. Together they tackle practical ways to evolve from being a passive influencer to a proactive influencer that has embraced leadership as a role.

If you're wanting to expand the reaches of your influence and make a positive impact to world right in front of you, this episode is a MUST!

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Romantic relationships are rooted in attraction. For many couples it's easy to find themselves slipping in and out of attraction for each other. It's easy to feel scared of connection if we believe attraction is just an emotion you have or don't have, but what if it's much more than that.

In this episode Justin and Abi shatter some of the mystery that shrouds romantic attraction. They break down reasons why people fall in and out of attraction and highlight simple, yet powerful solutions to make yourself more attractive to a partner, while igniting attraction for them.

If you're wanting a more connected and passionate relationship, this episode will give you the opportunity to create the romantic partnership you've always desired!

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Tragedy, trauma, and loss can leave us feeling like we're living a life of deficit. It's easy to feel broken beyond repair and living a "normal" existence feels like nothing more than a dream for another lifetime. But what if it was possible to redeem what was lost while creating a thriving lifestyle that replicates your success?

In this episode Justin is joined by his friend and fellow Life Consultant Tyler Leifeste. Tyler opens up about the death of his dad at an early age and the debilitating affects of that loss on his life. Together they discuss the intimate three and half year journey they shared and the challenges they faced as Justin dug in and supported Tyler through the healing process. With hope and joy, Tyler shares about his way out of his darkness into vibrant life and how he turned his tragedy into triumph as a consultant helping others find the restoration they long for.

If you want a dose of hope for life beyond healing, this episode will inspire you to dream for possibilities that far outreach just getting better!

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Disconnection can be rough, especially in relationships with years of history. For a lot of people it seems easier to sweep all the messiness under a rug. Eventually, however, the rug isn't big enough to hide the things we would rather ignore. When it comes time to get honest with ourselves, and the ones we love, it can feel impossible to clean up years of denying the reality of our circumstances. But, what if there is a foundation to rebuild a relationship better than before?

In part two of this two part episode, Jonny and Pietze share about their attachment styles and how their lack of understanding of each other built barriers throughout the years. They expose some of their deepest fears that led to a chasm of disconnection. Jonny talks about his new found capacity to be a rock in the relationship, and together they describe how the humility of taking ownership was the bedrock for restoring connection better than ever before.

If you've had a long term relationship, or friendship, this conversation will ignite hope, care, love, and understanding for areas in you connection that you didn't know you needed.

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Life can have a way of of bogging us down and leaving us feeling like the best of who we are is buried in the past. Through the messiness we experience, pain and loss have a way of causing us to forget the innocence, joy, and limitless perspective we once held in our youth. But what if there was a map that could not only restore us to our most authentic self, but it could show us a way to becoming who we were designed to be?

In part one of this two part episode Pietze and Jonny, Abi's life-long bestie and her husband, join the conversation. Jonny shares his life changing epiphany about how he had lost the best parts of himself in the past. Through healthy introspection Jonny breaks down how this moment of enlightenment catapulted himself and his marriage into a new trajectory. In part 2 of this two part series you'll hear how Jonny's journey not only led to a more authentic expression of who he is, but how this altered their sex life in the best ways possible.

If you're looking to get inspired about what life and relationships could really be like, this episode is for you!

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Conflict in relationships can be really messy. Sometimes it can be so difficult that circumstances leave the relationship beyond repair. But, what if conflict was an invitation to heal your past as much as the present?

In this episode Abi sits down with her life-long best friend Pietze. Together they openly discuss a recent conflict they had that could've escalated to epic proportions without the proper tools. Fortunately for them it didn't. Through self-awareness, an understanding of shame and emotions paved the way for emotional repair that resolved the present while healing the past.

If you've ever been hesitant about having conflict in your life, this episode will not only give you confidence to face difficulties head on, but it will give you hope for unresolved pain from your past. Don't miss this must listen to episode!

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One of the most common messages a man can inadvertently take from their father is the belief that we're only valuable when we perform well. Through even the best intentions this lopsided message can leave a child confused about love even into adulthood. Confronting our pain with a father can feel crippling and paralyzing. But what if the mere acknowledgement of a problem could catapult a willing person into the freedom they always hoped for?

In this episode Justin and Abi are joined by Life Consulting Master Class student Dave. Dave opens up about the trials and tribulations he's faced walking away from the family business and the explosion of emotions that have followed. He shares about the expectations he couldn't live up to and the eye opening season that left him facing emotions he never knew he had. Dave bravely drops his guard and allows the Stumvolls to join him in a healing journey, reframing the way he sees himself and his father forever.

If you've ever wondered what it looks like to practically heal from wounds in your past, you won't want to miss this LIVE healing experience.

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Confrontation with people we deeply care about can feel high stakes to say the least. In our anxiety it's easy to unintentionally communicate in ways that suck the sense of love right out the room. But what if the love we have for others can be felt and leave a lasting impact in the midst of incredibly honest conversations?

In part two of this mini series Abi and Pietze continue the conversation with Pietze's parents, Doug and Janice. Together they talk about the powerful affects of creating an atmosphere of love free from blame and accusation. They share how acknowledging their triggers, and taking ownership for their own emotions turned the tide in how they relate. Through vulnerability they paint a picture of how they love one another and what their relationship looks like moving forward.

If you're wanting hope for deeper connections and strength to live a lifestyle of honesty, this episode will leave you inspired to take brave leaps like never before!

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