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In this week’s episode Jamie and Guy discuss vulnerability in human behavior and emotions and how it differs from disclosure. Jamie describes how vulnerability involves being uncertain, at risk and emotionally exposed.  They discuss common misconceptions or myths about vulnerability (Myth #1: Vulnerability is weakness) and why they are not true.  They reference the work done by Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW on vulnerability and share her insight on the topic.  In particular, these discuss how Brené Brown has taught, "You do not measure vulnerability by the amount of disclosure - you measure vulnerability by the amount of courage it took to show up and be seen when you can not control the outcome....Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage."

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Material referenced in today's episode include the following books:
Rising Strong and Daring Greatly by Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW
 
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About  Jamie and Guy:
Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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"Sometimes we are our own worst critic" is a well-known phrase and, unfortunately, often true.  In this first episode of the new year, Jamie and Guy discuss how our inner critics or "saboteurs" often get in the way of us reaching our goals. Saboteurs are "invisible agents of self-sabotage" and represent our brain's automatic beliefs and assumptions about how to handle life's challenges.  Guy has Jamie take a "Saboteur Assessment" (or quiz) to identify her hardest-working saboteurs and then they discuss which ones they struggle with the most.  This assessment is based on the theory of Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine and his bestselling book on the subject.  More information on Positive Intelligence and a link to the free Saboteur Assessment can be found here: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/

Also in this episode, Jamie and Guy kick off the new year with a giveaway...listen to see what it is and how to enter (and check out @thedavenportpodcast on IG and FB)

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Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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It's been quite a year! 2020 will be remembered for a lot of things but one of the bright spots for us has been starting this podcast.  Sitting on the Davenport and chatting about different topics we've wanted to share as well as responding to questions asked by our listens is the highlight of every week.  We have many more topics and great guests scheduled for 2021 and are interested to know what topics you are interested in hearing about.  You can email us at [email protected] any time or message us on Instagram or Facebook with suggestions.  We will be taking this next week off and then will be back with our next episode on January 5th.  Stay safe and have Happy Holidays and Happy New Year! XO Jamie and Guy

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About  Jamie and Guy:
Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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Think of this episode as Communication 101 .  Good communication is fundamental to strong relationships between spouses, parents and children, friends, etc. In this episode Jamie and Guy lay down the basics of good communication: listening, having empathy, and getting curious about the other person's thoughts or point of view.  Oftentimes we focus on what we should say when we are talking with others. But communication is more effective if we spend  more time listening and less time talking. Like always, Jamie and Guy discuss what works and what doesn't work through personal experiences and stories.  We think you'll enjoy it:)


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Link to article by Meghan Holohan referenced in today's podcast:
https://www.today.com/parents/bullying-2020-over-masks-race-politics-school-t190132

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About  Jamie and Guy:
Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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Toxic Positivity may sound like an oxymoron - how can positivity be toxic? In this episode Jamie and Guy discuss how at times the overuse of positivity can actually be harmful or cause more pain in an already trying circumstance.  Challenges and hardships in life can not simply be "covered up" with positive phrases that dismiss the difficulty or pain that comes with them. The only way through difficulties is to go through them.  Recounting personal experiences of infertility and miscarriages to the death of loved ones, they discuss how  we often try to console others with comments like "this too shall pass" or "let's make the best of it".  Their well-meaning intention is to help the other person see the "positive" in a difficult situation but often it can backfire and make the person feel worse. 

 Here is a link to the article Toxic Positivity: The Dark Side of Positive Vibes by  Samara Quintero, LMFT, CHT and Jamie Long, PsyD referenced in todays podcast:
https://thepsychologygroup.com/toxic-positivity/

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Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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Do you ever feel like you are not enough? Not doing enough, not working hard enough, not thin enough, not being the world's most amazing parent? In this episode Jamie and Guy tackle those feelings head on.  Guy explains that to him when he settles for  "good enough" it feels like he is "giving up" or being mediocre - and he feels guilty or bad that he didn't do better. But  Jamie explains sometimes "good enough" is okay. We don't always have to strive for excellence in everything we do - instead we need to manage our expectations and accept that sometimes trying our best, even though it is not perfect, is good enough.

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About  Jamie and Guy:
Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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Have you ever had a great idea for a game and thought, "I wonder how hard it would be to make it into an actual board game?" Our guest today, Brent Peterson, can answer that. He has nine games under his belt with more ideas brewing all the time.  He has sold thousands of games in retailers across the country and on  Amazon. He describes himself as the kid who was always starting up games of "Kick the Can" or "Sardines" in the neighborhood, and that that love of games has never stopped.  This successful side business was born out of love, not necessity, and he truly loves that it brings a little fun and joy into people's lives every day.  This episode isn't all fun and games though (Brent would appreciate that pun), as a self-described extrovert, he also discusses the difficulty of feeling isolated and anxious during the early months of the pandemic and the importance of staying connected.  He discusses that as a single guy, all of his social connections were cut off and he suddenly found himself not only alone but anxious from all the events going on - Covid, earthquakes, empty store shelves, etc. - and how he got to a better place. We think his message is one everyone can relate to these days:)

To learn more about The Game Chef games, follow Brent on Facebook or IG:
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To purchase Game Chef games head to Amazon:
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About  Jamie and Guy:
Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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Feeling anxious about the upcoming holidays? You're not alone. This episode is in response to questions we received from listeners about how to navigate holiday gatherings when members of your family have different political views, opinions about Covid, or want to bring up sensitive issues like Aunt Jean's divorce. Jamie and Guy talk about how you have to "unpack" the anxiety, set boundaries and manage what you can control.  Jamie encourages you to remember your "why" - why are you getting together for the holidays? To eat? Watch football? Talk politics? Take a nap? Establishing your "why" will help you be more intentional and authentic and make the whole experience more enjoyable.  Remember that even though people may having differing opinions, if there is respect and kindness and love - the holiday gathering can result in more connection and less contention.❤️Happy Holidays!

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About   Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

Guy  Balogh  is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for story telling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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Planning to have house guests for the holidays?  2020 is creating some challenges   but if you are gathering with family or friends, Jamie and Guy offer their thoughts about how to make the most of your time together.  Having guests stay with you  adds a little more chaos and clutter to your house - but having that time to connect with loved ones is worth it.  From  stocking the  fridge, to staying up late, to avoiding spilled nail polish on the couch - Jamie and Guy talk about what has and hasn't worked for them.  They both agree that above everything, the goal is to make lasting  good memories for both you and your guest:)

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About   Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

Guy  Balogh  is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for story telling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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In this week's episode Jamie and Guy sit down on the Davenport and chat with Tubby Todd  head mama, Andrea Faulkner Williams.  Andrea shares her story about starting  Tubby Todd Bath Co., an all-natural bath products company, with her husband Brian  and  looks back on how far they've come.  She talks about her love of work and of  being a mother to her four kids - and how grateful she is that she's been able to  balance both.  By the end of the episode, we felt  enlightened, inspired and a little sore from laughing - and we think you will too:)
(P.S. We recommend pairing this episode with a Diet Coke over pebble ice and a Tubby Todd Bubble Bath for ultimate enjoyment:)

Get to  know Tubby Todd Bath Co. and Andrea better at:
https://www.instagram.com/tubbytodd/
https://www.instagram.com/andreafaulknerwilliams/

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About   Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

Guy  Balogh  is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for story telling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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