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On this week’s episode Jamie and Guy welcome back another one of their favorite guests, Mara Vernon CPCC, PCC, CDTLF to continue last week’s discussion on being triggered.  Mara shares an analogy or framework of what happens emotionally and physiologically when we are triggered. She calls this situation “being in the ring” and describes it as an emotional boxing ring.  She explains that when we are "in the ring" our brain only scans for the negative and we are on the defensive, ready to fight.  She goes on to explain that the way to get out of the ring is to recognize you are in it, learn to manage your emotions and then recover to a less triggered state where you are in service of your values.

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Get to know Mara better at: https://rippleadership.com/ and follow her https://www.instagram.com/marabvernon_rippleadership/

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Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy talk about being triggered. They share what triggers them the most, from the after-school pick-up lines to shoes that aren't put away. Jamie explains that a trigger is a stimulus (which can be a situation, person, place, or thing) that contributes to an unwanted emotional or behavioral response. They discuss the importance of being able to identify what is it that triggers you and then learning how to manage it. 

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On today's episode, Jamie and Guy welcome Michele Clifford, their #1 fan and self-appointed President of the newly formed Davenport Fan Club 🙌🏼 Michele talks about why she listens to the podcast and what she has learned from it. She discusses how it has helped her identify her core values, strengths, and inner/critics or saboteurs. She also talks about how she enjoys all the Rom-Com references, food tips, and personal stories that make her laugh.  The Davenport Podcast appreciates all their fans and it was pretty fun to hang out with, ask some questions, and get some feedback from their #1. Thanks Michele for coming on!!

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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In this week’s episode Jamie and Guy discuss four different communication styles: Aggressive, Passive, Passive-Aggressive and Assertive. They begin by explaining the differences between being Assertive and being Aggressive because they can sometimes be mistaken for each other. When someone is using Assertive communication, they clearly state their opinions and feelings and firmly advocate for their rights and needs without violating the rights of others. They are respectful of the rights of others. Aggressive communication, on the other hand, does not. An Aggressive communication style is a style of communicating in which individuals express their feelings and opinions and advocate for their needs in a way that violates the rights of others. An Aggressive communicator goes one up. They make others feel small. Jamie and Guy round out the conversation by discussing the other two communication styles - Passive  and Passive-Aggressive - and how these are also not optimal.  Everyone tends to gravitate toward one style more than another, but they agreed that the  Assertive communication style is really "where you want to land" and with increased awareness and practice anyone can become more assertive in their communication 💛

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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Ego… the word is often associated with a negative connotation, but in this week’s episode, Jamie and Guy discuss why it is so important to have a strong, healthy ego. They explain that a strong ego helps us respond to life’s challenges versus just reacting to them.  A strong ego means you have a strong sense of identity - you know who you are. A strong ego helps you develop solutions to life’s challenges. Jamie also explains that people you are drawn to in your life probably have a strong ego because they are comfortable with themselves and so they’re comfortable with you. Lastly, she cautioned that you shouldn’t let the strength of someone else’s ego make you diminish yours.

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About  Jamie and Guy:
Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt
 
Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode Jamie and Guy welcome back Dr. Katie Erreca Psy. D. to discuss teens and an important part of their development: finding their identity.  Finding their identity - or who they are - is critical to  growing up.  It can be a bumpy ride for everyone involved - teens and parents - but Dr. Erreca explains how to make the ride a little smoother:)

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About Dr. Katie Erreca:

Dr. Katie Erreca earned a doctoral degree in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology (CSPP) at Alliant International University. Dr. Erreca (PSY 25101) currently works in private practice in La Jolla, California. She works with teens, adults, and families to overcome challenges and assist with major life transitions. 

For more information about Dr. Katie Erreca visit her website:
https://drkatieerreca.com/

About  Jamie and Guy:
 Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt
 
Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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In celebration of Independence Day, Guy and Jamie are taking a break this week from their regular podcasting schedule to share some exciting news: The Davenport Podcast is partnering with Patreon to bring you more! What is Patreon? Patreon is a membership platform that connects content creators with fans and supporters. It's a way for fans of the podcast to help support the show and in return get exclusive content, opportunities and some sweet swag. Visit https://www.patreon.com/thedavenport to get all the details. Thanks again for all of your support 💛

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About  Jamie and Guy:
Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week’s episode, Jamie and Guy welcome Dr. Katie Erreca, Psy.D. to discuss the development of the teenage brain and how it relates to their sometimes unpredictable or impulsive behavior. Dr. Erreca explains that the brain of a teenager is complex and still maturing. She describes that their brain is like a brain with "spotty wifi" that sometimes leads to inconsistent or unpredictable behavior.  She also explains that an important part of the teenage brain and personality development is the teen being able to figure out who they are by exploring or trying different things. Listen to hear more insights and discussion about teens - including how to best guide and support them through their teenage years 💛

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About Dr. Katie Erreca:

Dr. Katie Erreca earned a doctoral degree in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology (CSPP) at Alliant International University. Dr. Erreca (PSY 25101) currently works in private practice in La Jolla, California. She works with teens, adults, and families to overcome challenges and assist with major life transitions. 

For more information about Dr. Katie Erreca visit her website:
https://drkatieerreca.com/

About  Jamie and Guy:
 Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt
 
Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss a question received from a listener. The question the listener asked was: "I know you both have young kids but would you consider an episode on adult children and navigating toxic relationships with parents? My age group,  older millennials,  are doing the work - therapy, self-help books, podcasts, etc. I feel like the more I know the harder it is to have a healthy relationship with my parents because they aren’t willing to do the work and often shame it. This is something most of my friends are going through as well." Listen as Jamie and Guy discuss this topic and how to address generational differences in these types of relationships. 

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About  Jamie and Guy:
Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode Jamie and Guy feel all the feelings to discuss Emotional Intelligence (EQ).  Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. Emotional intelligence helps you build stronger relationships, succeed at school and work, and achieve your career and personal goals. It can also help you to connect with your feelings, turn intention into action, and make informed decisions about what matters most to you.  Listen as Jamie and Guy discuss the importance of developing and growing your Emotional Intelligence to better improve all aspects of your life:)

For more information on Emotional Intelligence Jamie recommends the following books:
Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ  by Daniel Goleman 
https://amzn.to/2Tzguo5

Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3vqjHUq

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About  Jamie and Guy:
Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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