The Dildorks

This week we’re addressing some of your questions about boundaries, especially as they pertain to sex, friendships, and non-monogamy!
 

Inappropriate Client | Episode Name | Nervous Partner | “Good-Natured Ribbing” | Anger | Intimacy Before Sex | Gone Horribly Wrong | Seeking Approval | Threesome Aftercare

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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Setting boundaries is hard, but important! This week we’re discussing the tricky business of drawing a line in the sand, with romantic partners and in general.
 

Yelling | COVID-Era Boundaries | Boundaries vs. Rules | Why They’re Useful | Ultimatums | Complications | Checking Back In | What Makes It Easier? | Sooner is Better | Bad Reactions | Being Nice | Bullshit

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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How do you figure out whether a potential kink partner is safe enough and a good enough match with you before you do anything with them? This week we’re discussing the fine art of vetting!

Casual Slapping | What Is Vetting? | Thresholds | Slut Referral Network | Consent Cues | “One of My People” | Social Capital | Direct vs. Indirect | Safewording | Storytelling | Pre-Emptive Domming | Framing Devices | Role-Modelling | Saying No | Making Excuses | Attachment Styles | Body Language | 2nd or 3rd Date | Disclosing Gender

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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This week we’re talking with polyamory-experienced psychotherapist Jessica Fern about her excellent new book, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, & Consensual Nonmonogamy.
 

Filtering the Monogamy Out | Origin Story | Structure as Security | Take Responsibility For Your Feelings | Clementine Morrigan’s Trauma-Informed Polyamory | Self-Regulation & Auto-Regulation | Parts Work | Common Problems | Taking Breaks | Giving Up | Ideal Relationship Styles | Having Your Shit Figured Out | Empowerment & Healing | Dealing with Therapists

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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Crying is good for the soul, but did you know it can also be good for the libido? This week we’re discussing the kinky appeal of crying: cathartic sadomasochism, dacryphilia, emotional sex, and more!
 

Other Catharses | Health Benefits | Masculinity & Vulnerability | That’s a Thing?! | Sadism & Emotional Topping | Emo Aesthetic | Ruining Something Beautiful | Sensual Pleasure | Feeling Cute | Good vs. Bad Crying | Sadness | Crying-Focused Scene | Bursting Into Tears | Runny Makeup | Unicorn Tears | Mezcal Negroni | Sixth Hour | Negotiation | Therapeutic vs. Therapy | Secrets | Tears in Sex | Medical Play | What to Do | Feeling Guilty | #BirthdayBruises

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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This week Kate is joined by her partner Matt (they/them) to talk about their recent forays into chastity play!
 

Orgasm Control | Past Chastity Experiences | Cageless Experiments | CB 6000 & Other Devices | Boners | Coping Strategies | Sleeping | Handling the Horniness | Chastity Journal | D/s Dynamic | Keyholding 101 | Long-Distance | Devices vs. None | Emotional Effects | Duration Goals | Helping & Supporting | Financial Domination | Writing Assignments | Chastity for Vulvas | Fancy Steel & Neosteel | Gender Feelings | Decentralizing Dicks | Health & Safety | Playing Solo | Chastikey App | Advice for First-Timers | Twitter Thread

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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We’re returning to the topics of subspace and topspace this week to answer some great questions from listeners about these phenomena!
 

Switch Drag | Star Trek | New Partner | How to Tell | Dissociation | Explaining to a Partner | Straight/Cis People | Serving While Spacey | Keeping Yourself Out | Assault Survivor | Safewording | Reassuring a Dom | Taking Care of a Sub | Crying Afterward

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Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Subspace and topspace are two highly sought-after types of experience in the kink world – but what are they, and how do you access them? This week we’re discussing kinky headspaces!
 

How Important Is It? | What Is It Like? | Topspace vs. Domspace | Surrender & Mastery | Spacey Interactions | Snapping Out of It | Aftercare | Continual Topspace | Hypnotic Triggers | Comedy Pacing | When It Hits You | Communication | Soothing Anxieties | Switching Within Scenes | Removing Distractions | Bondage

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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This week we’re discussing the intersections of sexuality and social media with Katrin Tildenberg, Ph.D., and Emily van der Nagel, Ph.D., two researchers and lecturers who just released a fascinating new book called Sex & Social Media!

Sex & Social Media: the Book | Long-Distance Collaborations | Tumblr Ethnography | Tumblr Porn Ban | GoneWild Subreddit | What is Sex? | Future of Sex Online

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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This week we’re talking to Aryn, an astrologer, podcaster, and sex and relationship coach. They fill us in the answers to our crucial sexual astrology questions, such as: Which planets govern your kink identities? Are all Pisceans bottoms? Is Capricorn the daddy dom sign?

Queer Shorthand | Alternate Spirituality | Love & Sex Signs | Switches | Aries | Body Parts | Virgo | Capricorn as Daddy | Other Signs’ Best Qualities | A Chart’s Influence | Asking For Their Birth Time | Saturn Return | Queers vs. Straights | Chani Nicholas | Chris Brennan | Erotic Renaissance Podcast

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Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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