The Dildorks

It’s our 200th episode! Join us as we discuss some other milestones in our lives – specifically our sex lives.

200!!! | Old Episodes | Sex Shop | Remote-Controlled Vibrators | Power Exchange | Fifty Shades of Kegel Balls | Wanting to Fuck Someone | Porn with Mom | Tasting Cum | First-Date Sex | “Pinch the Skin As Hard As You Can” | Sending Nudes | Strap-On Blowjobs | Oral Sex Party | Little Space & Alcohol | First Orgasm | Using Toys on Partners

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Conditions like ADHD can affect your whole life, including your sexuality and relationships, in really interesting ways! This week Kate interviews Bex about how his ADHD manifests and how he manages the difficulties that come with it.

Recognizing it | Definition | Doesn’t Everyone Have That? | Diagnosis | Make It Sparkly | Dating Another ADHDer | Sex & Kink | Impulsivity & Surprise | Gender & Testosterone | Hyperfocus | Distraction During Sex | Disclosing | Cheating | Planning Scenes | Supporting a Partner

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Chronic pain can make your sex life tricky, but it doesn't have to ruin it! This week Bex interviews Kate about her mysterious chronic pain disorder, how it manifests in her sex/kink, and what makes it easier to handle.

Pain History | BJ Interference | “Depression-Related Pain” | Disability Impostor Syndrome | Type of Pain | Impact on Sex Life | Intoxication | Hypnosis | Lucked Out | Caregiving | The Handy | Pillows | My Pain Diary | Liberator | Protocol | Topping | Sexy Accoutrements | Medications

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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This week we’re answering your conversational queries! We explain how to deduce someone’s openness to chatting, ask questions people actually want to answer, navigate discussions when you’re low on spoons, and more.

Intoxication | Want to Talk? | Yes, And | No Response Required | How Are You? | 50 Non-Pandemic-Related Questions to Ask | Social Skills | Stressful Questions | The Same Conversation | “What’s Up?” | Weird Questions | Low Energy

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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What does it mean to be good at conversation? We’re not claiming to be experts, but we have our preferences… This week, we’re discussing conversational skills: why they matter, how to develop them, and what to avoid.

ADHD & Neurodivergence | Why? | Pick-Up Artists | Monosyllabic Conversationalists | Follow-Up Questions | Displaying Knowledge | Answering Your Own Questions | Reading Emotions | Nonverbal Communication | Body Language | Offering Options | Enthusiasm | Digital Cues | Silence | Loveland Therapy Fund

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Why do we sometimes call kink “play”? How does it relate to the games we played as children? This episode is a meandering philosophical discussion of the role of play in our lives – including our sex lives!

Collarbone Play | Ass Play | Re-Watching | Recess | Play vs. Consuming Media | Critical Thinking | Childhood Sexuality | Capitalism | Repetition | Learning | Empathy | Non-Playful Play | Play Pretend | Vulnerability | Childhood Games | Healthy vs. Unhealthy Outlets | Needing Play | Roleplay | Challenges | Erotic D&D | Trans Justice Funding Project | Survived & Punished

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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It’s a weird time to be celebrating Pride, to say the least… This week we’re talking about some ways you can access a little Pride magic even in these stressful times.

Rocky Horror | Unorthodox “Churches” | #CelebratePrideQuietly | Going to Protests | Critical Resistance | You’re Wrong About Stonewall | Making Gay History | Two Headed Girl | The Offline Dating Method | Disclosure | How to Survive a Plague | Paris is Burning | Pose | Sense8 | An Unkindness of Ghosts | These Thems | Crafts | C. Murphy | Queer History | Desire Brainstorming | Finding Community | Media Audit | New York Toy Collective | Funkit Toys | Wet For Her | Queer Porn | How Can We Celebrate? | Non-Binary Inclusivity | “Looking Straight” | Center for Black Equity | The Okra Project | Chosen Family Law Center

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Hope y’all are doing okay in this very stressful time. This week we’re discussing how high stress levels affect sex and dating, from dissociation to guilt to trauma triggers.
 

Time Management | Escapism vs. Information | Baths | De-Stressing Sex Toys | Solo Quickie | Illness Flare-Ups | Communicating While Triggered | Trauma-Informed Polyamory Workshop | When to Manage Stress? | Dissociation | Libido Guilt | Dating Apps | SexyDorkyQuarantine | Black Coalition for AIDS Prevention | National Center for Transgender Equality | Are Prisons Obsolete? | History Teaches Us to Resist

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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This week, we’re joined by self-made porn queen Gwen Adora to discuss how her online sex work business has changed in light of the pandemic – and how the online porn landscape is shifting more generally in these trying times.
 

Sex Worker Label | Roleplay Videos | Slinky Porn | Work Week | Productivity | Customer Trends | Be Nice to Sex Workers | Pandemic Porn | Crews & Creativity | Caroline Calloway | Racism & Classism | Value | Skillsets | Normalization | Ashe’s BLM Products

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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This week we talked with sex educator, columnist, and stripper Andre Shakti about how she’s transitioned her sex work career onto the internet in the wake of COVID-19. Hopefully you’ll find this useful if you’re thinking about doing the same. Also: Black Lives Matter, ACAB, stay safe out there if you can, friends.
 

Pandemic Nudes | Pre-Pandemic Work Week | Government Assistance | Upkeep | Sanctuary Virtual Strip Club | Online Classes | Customer Etiquette | Patron’s Guide to Strip Clubs | Harm Reduction | Andre’s GoFundMe | Minnesota Freedom Fund | Brooklyn Bail Fund | North Star Health Collective | Black Lives Matter (US) | Black Lives Matter (Canada)

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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