The Dildorks

How do you do kinky stuff if you don’t have (or don’t want) someone to do them with? This week we’re talking about solo kink: why it’s fun, how to do it safely, and (of course) how it’s relevant to the current global pandemic.

#StayTheFuckHome | What Is Solo Kink? | AFemmeCock Post | Reasons | Masturbation Comparison | Pain & Self-Harm | Dangers | Negotiation | Headspace | Fantasizing | Toys & Products | Mirrors | Internet Integration | Edging | Chastity | D/s | Self-Compassion | Aftercare

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Don’t listen to this episode while driving! This week Kate busted out her fledgling hypnosis skills and hypnotized Bex, after an extended scene negotiation. You’ll learn about communication, recreational hypnosis, and what Kate’s hypno top voice sounds like…!
 

Erotic? | Desires | Kinesthetic | Inductions & Deepeners | Fractionation | Sex & Touch | Intensity | Meta-Communication | Motivations | End | Risk Assessment | Pendant/Pendulum | Mini Scene | Debrief #1 | Taking Too Long? | Bondage Scene | Debrief #2 | Resolution | Debrief #3

Credits:

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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This week, we’re chatting with writer and mental health advocate JoEllen Notte about her incredibly helpful soon-to-launch book on sex and depression, The Monster Under the Bed!
 

Crying | Double Taboo | Introverts at Conferences | Sex Educator BFFs | Research | The Book You Need | Us vs. the Problem | Unqualified | Horny Depression | Kink | Self-Harm? | Caretaking Guilt | Desirability | Waning Libido | Sex-Positivity | Lube | Wand Vibes | The “Normal” Way | Doctors | Medications | Scaring the Public | One Takeaway

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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We’re talking about play parties again this week, and this time we’re focusing on what happens once you get to the party. Hear our best advice on approaching people, negotiating pickup play, saying “no” nicely, and more!
 

Nerves | Different Types of Party | Approaching People | Negotiation | SIMMER | Watching | Feeling Awkward | Expectations | Saying No | Self-Consciousness

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Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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This week Kate is joined by her partner Matt (they/them) to talk about collars: what they are, why people like them, and how to go about buying one, negotiating one, and wearing one!

What is a Collar? | Kate’s First Collar | Gifting Collars | L’Amour-Propre | Old Guard | Bringing It Up | Play Collars | Negotiating Rules | Flagging | Touching | Doms | Double Duty Cuff | Reactions in Public | Necklaces & Day Collars | Inappropriate Situations | Complimenting Strangers | Contextualizing | Buying One For Yourself | Radical Self-Love Totem | Old Collars | Ceremonies | Non-Monogamy | Breakups | Wear & Tear | Aslan Leather | Eternity Collars | Locks & Keys | Collarversary

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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This week we’re joined by Ashe, the photographer extraordinaire behind Rose Glass Photos, who also happens to be Bex’s partner! We discuss how photography interacts with gender expression, kink, personal branding, and more.

Butt Selfies | Marginalized Folks | Gender on Purpose | Perfection | Comfort vs. Awkwardness | Preparation | Shoot with Matt | Kinky Photographers | Giving Direction | Intoxication | Gendered Posing | Faces | Cameras | Social Media & Branding | Diversity | Sensitivity

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Play parties are so fun, but also confusing and scary at times! This week we’re demystifying the processes of finding play parties to attend, mentally preparing yourself to play, and putting together your party outfit.

Sex or No Sex? | Finding Parties | Vetting | Not Kinky? | Alone vs. With People | Mental Prep | Logistics | Dress Codes

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Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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This week we’re answering some of your big kink questions, including how to keep things casual in a kinky friendship-with-benefits and what to do when a top safewords!
 

Pervy Purview | D/s FWB | Slut Protocols | Hobbies | IRL Fanfiction | Aftercare | Sub Drop | Giving Feedback | Tops Safewording

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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Let’s be cool and heat things up: this week we’re discussing temperature play!

Weather | Sensation Play | Easy vs. Advanced | Ice | Topping | Risks | Wax | Toys | Enemas | Lube & Oil | Emotions | Safewording

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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What skills do bottoms develop that allow them to take more sensation, feel good about doing so, and make their tops happy? This week’s episode is all about bottoming skills, which are sometimes underacknowledged in the kink world.

iTunes Reviews | Switching | Subbing vs. Bottoming | Bottoming Skills Workshop | Underrecognized | Masochism | Subspace | What You Want | Negotiation | Providing Data | Building the Playground | Pain Processing | Safewording | Expressiveness | Feedback |

Credits:

Music by PROTODOME

Artwork by Addison Finch

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