The Ella Ryder Show

The Ella Ryder Show

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The Ella Ryder Show episodes

  • E11: The underlying cause of all our suffering

    We’ve all been there. Getting triggered or annoyed by something small and insignificant in the grand scheme of things. Often we can look at these moments and realise how ‘silly’ we are being and move on quickly. But what about all the stories and beliefs you’ve had since childhood about the way the world works? When you realise that you are not your thoughts and don’t have to believe what you are thinking, you’ve got the key to everything.

    There is no ‘outside’ after all, there’s only ever our mental projection of what we perceive happening outside of us. It’s all relative and while it’s a hard concept to get our minds around, I try to break it down as best I can in this episode with real life examples. So enjoy my friends and I hope it gives you some peace and clarity today!

    In this episode you’ll learn:

    - That it’s the stories about your life that cause you the most pain, not your actual life

    - Confidence is a state of mind

    -Your perception about life is everything so choose wisely!

    - How to identify the triggers in your life and why they are important to recognise

    -How to rewrite a new story for yourself

    Resources mentioned:

    Byron Katie

    Join The Millennial Self-Love Club

    Find Ella:

    Instagram: @ella.ryder

    ellaryder.com

    20 min
  • Change Your Self-Image With The Millennial Self-Love Club

    Many people teach that you have to work hard at self-love and control your thoughts all the time to be a more positive person. I used to feel the same way until I learnt the power of accepting what is and becoming ok with life itself. When you let your thoughts control you, you suffer. However when you take the time to sit in awareness and be present with the stream of thoughts that pass in and out of your consciousness, in this state you can pick and choose the thoughts you want to think. What do you want to believe about yourself? What are the stories you are telling about the way reality is for you? I’ve created my new coaching programme, The Millennial Self-Love Club with the intention of guiding a small group of women through the practices that have truly changed my outlook on life, myself and the way I operate in the world. Not only will you learn to truly love and accept your core being, you’ll also come to understand other people in ways that you never could before. So let’s dive into the show!

    In this episode you’ll learn:

    - All about my new coaching programme, The Millennial Self-Love Club and why I created it.

    - That self-love isn’t really about learning anything, it’s about unlearning the stories we’ve been told about ourselves

    - The four modules TMSLC will focus on and how they’ll add value to your life

    - Where I am right now on my self-love journey

    -How our thoughts about ourselves are the only problem there ever is

    Resources mentioned:

    Byron Katie

    Join The Millennial Self-Love Club

    Eckhart Tolle

    Find Ella:

    Instagram: @ella.ryder

    ellaryder.com

    28 min
  • E10: Why you need to know the difference between fear and intuition

    I like to think that I’m generally very self-aware however I’d not been able to make the proper distinction between misalignment (maybe it’s just not right for me if it’s not coming easily?!) and fear until recently. Our minds can be very sneaky and make us think that we’re going in the wrong direction as soon as things get slightly uncomfortable. Are you afraid to be seen? Of what people might think of you? I discuss my tips on how to overcome fear in this episode, as well as differentiating between intuition and fear so you can tell which one is running the show!

    In this episode you’ll learn:

    - How to tell the difference between your intuitive knowing and fear

    - That fear can crop up in many forms

    - That the mind has sneaky tricks to get us to listen to it

    - Detaching yourself from the outcome can propel you forward

    -How to stop feeling ‘stuck’ in your life

    Resources mentioned:

    Byron Katie

    Loving What Is on Audible

    Book a coaching session with me

    Find Ella:

    Instagram: @ella.ryder

    ellaryder.com

    22 min
  • E9: Discovering And Applying Byron Katie's Life-Changing Teachings

    When you are feeling as if life isn’t the way it should be or you find it hard to accept the ‘reality’ of how things are, enter Byron Katie. If you are open and ready to approach your thinking using a life-changing yet simple series of questions then get ready to have your mind blown. I personally didn’t resonate with Byron Katie’s The Work, when I first heard about it over a year ago but now I’ve become obsessed with everything she embodies so I just had to do an episode dedicated to what I’ve learnt so far from her. It’s not been long and I’ve already felt the internal shifts and an inner peace like never before. So enjoy!

    In this episode you’ll learn:

    - Why I’ve become so obsessed with Byron Katie’s The Work

    - How to apply The Work to relatable situations

    - That what we think is true or real isn’t actually..

    - The key to happiness is not believing your thoughts

    Resources mentioned:

    Byron Katie

    Loving What Is on Audible

    Byron Katie’s podcast on Oprah

    Book a coaching session with me

    Find Ella:

    Instagram: @ella.ryder

    ellaryder.com

    25 min
  • E8: Exploring Human Design, perfectionism & anxiety

    Throughout life we are offered many tools to support us on our journey of growth. Ultimately, you decide what is most in alignment for you and your beliefs. I’ve found Human Design to be a very useful tool for myself through learning more about what makes us unique and how we relate to each other in the world. I’m sharing my key learnings from Human Design in today’s episode, as well as discussing some recent anxiety I’ve been experiencing and letting go of perfectionism.

    In this episode you’ll learn:

    - What Human Design is and how it’s a useful tool for rediscovering your most authentic self

    -My key takeaways from Human Design (as a Projector)

    - The different ways perfectionism may show up in your life

    - How I got rid of my recent anxiety

    -That all you need to do in a stressful situation is accept the present moment

    Resources mentioned:

    Find out your Human Design type

    Jenna Zoe

    Lacy Philips Expanded podcast episode on Human Design

    Book a clarity coaching session with me in June!

    Find Ella:

    Instagram: @ella.ryder

    ellaryder.com

    42 min
  • E7: What to do when you're in a funk and meditating is the last thing you want to do

    Sometimes we don’t feel as ‘high vibe’ as we want to and that’s ok. Often our bodies are sending us signals to pause and listen. How often do you listen to it though before the symptoms become more serious? As I’ve been experiencing some unexplained body misalignment this week, I’m discussing the ways I’ve been helping keep my vibe high, when the last thing I feel like doing is sitting and meditating!

    In this episode you’ll learn:

    - Meditation comes in many different forms

    -How often we should be using our mind on a daily basis

    -How to choose the tools that are best for you

    -That sometimes it’s good to turn off the podcasts/inspiring videos and just BE.

    Resources mentioned:

    Book a clarity coaching session with me in June!

    Find Ella:

    Instagram: @ella.ryder

    ellaryder.com

    17 min
  • E6: Becoming more confident and believing you are enough
    Confidence is a state of mind. You can make the choice to be a confident person in each moment. Don’t be limited by your past stories or how other people have judged you previously.
    There are some easy ways you can start to become a more confident and self-assured person right now. It’s not about being arrogant but instead feeling so innately worthy in yourself that the love you have inside of you pours outward and you give to the world around you. Remember that only hurting people hurt people. Take the time to invest in your personal growth and it will benefit everyone around you!
    23 min
  • E5: How to make healthy habits that work for you
    There are oh so many tools out there now to assist you on your personal development journey. Whether it’s meditation techniques, journalling prompts or affirmations, it would appear that there’s always more we can be doing. However, if it’s starting to feel like a spiritual to-do list and you’re feeling stressed by it all then you aren’t alone.
    Not being afraid to learn and grow as an individual is an amazing quality to have. Often change can be uncomfortable in its initial unfamiliarity but usually it’s so worth it in the end. Adopting any new healthy habit can take time and it’s not something that we’re ever taught how to do in school so in this episode I discuss what to consider before making any changes in your life.
    25 min
  • E4: How to work through emotional eating habits
    All of us have a unique relationship with food. Some of us eat when we’re stressed and others restrict. There’s no right or wrong way to eat, as long as you are feeling good. The issue comes when you start to get out of balance and are ignoring your body when it tells you it’s had too much or it needs a bit of variety. Do you take the time to tune in and listen?
    In this podcast episode I discuss my history with emotional eating patterns, how it’s shown up recently for me and the steps I take to get back into balance.I also discuss self-compassion, mindfulness and being healthy for you and no one else.
    Remember that no matter what level of eating problem you currently have, you can make a change any moment you choose to. Emotional eating happens to us all, no matter what size you are or how much you visit the gym. Apply the tips I share in this episode to your own life and I promise you’ll find more relief around food straight away.
    In this episode you’ll learn:
    - That emotional eating comes in many forms
    -How I knew I was emotionally eating
    -Why I think women are conditioned to be obsessed with body image
    -The biggest waste of your energy
    -What conscious eating looks and feels like
    -How to be more mindful when you eat
    -Why restriction can actually be a good thing
    Resources mentioned:
    Brooke Castillo’s podcast episode on restriction love - https://player.fm/series/the-life-coach-school-podcast/ep-254-restriction-love
    Find Ella:
    Instagram: @ella.ryder
    ellaryder.com
    26 min
  • E3: Dealing with uncertainty in life
    Throughout life there will be periods when it feels like everything is changing at once and times when things seem quiet or even too good to be true. Depending on where you are currently at, you might be coming from a place of lack and feel like you have to know the exact steps to get to where you want to be.
    34 min

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