The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

If your husband isn't keeping his promises, like to love, honor and cherish you, or is drinking way too much or there's another woman who's too close or he's just become a loser pants, then how are you supposed to respect him?

What if he's abusive? What if he's distant or absent? What if he's walking away from the marriage? What if he conned you?

It's painful enough to be in that situation without feeling like now you should somehow just suck it up and be a respectful saint to him. How is that even humanly possible? Especially if all you feel is disgust because of his narcissism, meanness to the kids, or cruising along while you do everything. It's already more than you should be putting up with.

On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about how you're supposed to respect a husband who hasn't earned it.

• I'll share the key action—despite my great reluctance and resistance—that made it easy to respect my husband, who now does all the things that impressed me when I first fell in love with him.

• Plus, my guest Yuki felt like the victim of her abusive husband. She was too ashamed to tell anyone. Then she found a way to interrupt the familiar pattern at her house, and today she has a very respectful marriage. It not only includes joking but she truly feels her husband's love. She's going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

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If you've been struggling in your relationship for a while, you're probably exhausted. I remember how hopeless and scared I felt when we'd been struggling for years and nothing was working to make it better. Not marriage counseling, not books about relationships, not working on communication—none of that worked for us. It's such a disappointment to go from feeling like he's an amazing person you're excited to spend the rest of your life with, to wondering what happened to that guy and feeling lonely, neglected, and stupid for falling for him in the first place. Now that I'm back with that amazing guy I fell for, excited to get to spend every day with him again, here's what I wish I had known. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I'm revealing 3 ways to rebuild a relationship and stop struggling.

Plus, my guest Sharon felt starved for love and intimacy. So she flipped her part of the script and said some things she'd never said before. Today her marriage is pure bliss, and she loves the passion and how meaningful it feels. She's going to tell us what she did so you can do it too!

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

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I found myself doing all the housework not long after we were married because I thought it would be nice for him and I wanted to be a nice wife, plus I wanted a clean house, homemade meals, and neatly folded laundry. And I wanted those things done the right way. It wasn't long before I was overwhelmed, exhausted and mighty resentful! I was doing everything while he just skated along and watched TV, like I was the mom and he was a little boy. So I decided he HAD to help and told him that. But he didn't help. Looking back I can see why. But I didn't know I was making these outrageous mistakes that were preventing him from doing chores. And I'm not the only one! I hear from students that they were making the same mistakes until they learned what to do. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I'm revealing 3 mistakes with splitting chores and how to get more help with housework.

Plus, my guest Renee and her husband kept having big blow ups then cold wars then huge emotional hangovers over and over again. Renee took a long look at herself and saw some things she could improve. Today things are mostly peaceful, and he just wants to serve his wife and family. She's going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

This was one of the great mysteries of my life, so I want to share this with as many women as possible. I don't want anybody to suffer just because they don't know about these mistakes. Because before I knew them, I suffered. Just a few years into our marriage, my husband John refused to do housework. When I tried to tell him to wash the dishes, he just turned up the TV to drown me out. I begged, demanded, and repeated myself. I signed us up for marriage counseling, but it didn't help. He just didn't care about helping me, which made me question the whole marriage. Then I discovered a phrase that made him do chores willingly. The first time I tried it, John offered to clean the kitchen. And he did. That was over 20 years ago, and he's been cleaning it ever since. Thousands of my students have also used this cheat phrase with great success. But it won't work if you make these common mistakes that almost cost me my marriage. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I'm revealing 5 alarming mistakes that make him tune you out.

Plus, my guest Jamese had zero romance at her house because her husband was always on the computer. And they were newlyweds! But then Jamese "got herself some business" and got off of her husband's paper. Today, her marriage is fresh, loving, and fun! She's going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

If you're anything like I was, this isn't the first year you've resolved to improve your relationship. I said it year after year because I was so stuck and didn't know what to do to get my husband to pay attention to me, be more affectionate, and be more responsible. But this new year, your marriage can actually be different. And I don't mean because you're going to try harder, which never works but is very tiring (I'm tired just thinking about it). Or by going to counseling since many couples who get marriage counseling end up separated or divorced anyway. Or by being more giving and supportive to your man, even though I know you hear that everywhere.

Today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast is about the scary New Year's resolution that will actually save your marriage.

• I'll share 3 things that changed everything at my house and will make your relationship vibrant and shiny this new year.

• You'll also get to hear a true first coaching session with Brittany, who is so courageous to let me share this call with you from back when her husband was bent on divorce.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Every month the Certified Relationship Coaches and I get together and tell true stories about our relationships because having lots of stories to share is an important part of being a great relationship coach. Some of the best stories, those most valuable to the person you're coaching? They're embarrassing. They're not proud moments or good examples of how to be a model wife. More like horrible warnings of what NOT to do to have a healthy marriage. Those are the kinds of stories we tell at these meetings, which are exclusively for the certified coaches, no one else.

Hearing that I am NOT the only person who has these self-inflicted embarrassing moments is so comforting, such a relief, and so entertaining, at least for me. So this week I got permission to share a coaches' storytelling meeting with you, even though the stories were originally told in this sacred space of our coaches-only private call. The coaches decided to let you in on things you don't hear women admitting to very often. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I'm letting you in on mistakes that were made, where you get to eavesdrop as relationship coaches confess!

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

When you're going to trust someone with something as important as making your marriage last and thrive, it's scary. You want to make sure it's the right someone! Especially if you're trying to navigate a crisis, like a separation, the threat of divorce, or an affair, which feels so vulnerable and private. There's so much at stake, like your whole family's happiness and future! You shouldn't have to go through that alone, but you also need someone super safe who won't judge you. That's also true even if you're just disappointed that your marriage isn't what you thought it was going to be. Because your birthright as a woman is to feel desired, adored and cherished. If you're not feeling that way, it's so painful—I still remember. You'll want a guide to help you see what's in the way, what's in your blindspot, what's stopping you from having that. So on today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about how to find a relationship coach and the top 3 things to look for.

Plus, my guest Crystal's husband was set on getting divorced, then he moved out, which was heartbreaking. But even in her pain, Crystal decided to fight the good fight to save her marriage, and… it worked. Today her marriage is better than ever. She's going to share how she fixed her broken marriage so you can do it too.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

When your husband treats you like a roommate, it feels cold and lonely. You didn't get married to have a roommate! You got married to enjoy each other's company, to enjoy passion, and if you're anything like me, to feel desired. So getting the roommate treatment is a bait-and-switch that can make you feel rejected and abandoned as a wife. It's also embarrassing. At least it was for me, because I felt like it was proof that I wasn't desirable, which I wasn't, and that our marriage was falling apart, which it was. So I had lots of problems and no idea where to start because I had already tried the oft-repeated advice to share my deep concerns about his lack of affection, and let me tell you: That. Did. Not. Work. It did not make him pull me in for a kiss and whisk me away to the bedroom, which is what I secretly wanted. That was painful. So on today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about what to do when your husband treats you like a roommate.

Plus, my guest Deena's marriage felt cold and distant, like roommates who were either fighting or having a cold war most of the time. The threat of divorce was hanging over them. Then Deena decided to do a few things differently and instead of roommates she says they feel like soulmates. She's going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too!

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Okay, I don't have much to say about outlaws. I just love that joke, that the difference between outlaws and in-laws is that outlaws are wanted. That's because in-laws can be annoying and get on your very last nerve! They might be nosy, overbearing, or passive-aggressive, but you can't get rid of them, as much as you might like to sometimes. Or is that me I'm thinking of? Well, not anymore. Now I genuinely like all my in-laws. I used to find fault with them like it was buried treasure, but it turns out they're a great bunch. Maybe your in-laws are not so great though, and it's putting stress on your marriage. So on today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about how to make his family members more tolerable.

Plus, my guest Jessica was sure the only way her marriage would get fixed was if her husband would finally open his eyes and start treating her better! But she did some experiments herself, and her prayers were answered in an unexpected way. Now he writes her love notes that make her heart sing. She's going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

It feels really bad when the man who promised to love honor and cherish you sneers at you when you're talking, takes sides with the kids, doesn't bother to answer you when you're saying something important, makes demands or criticizes you. It's so hurtful and insulting. You start to feel like you're always on guard to protect yourself, which is tiring too. How is it ever going to improve if he's just getting ruder and more dismissive? It's scary to think about spending the rest of your life with someone so disrespectful! We talk a lot about how to be respectful on this podcast, but what about how to get respect? Here's a powerful way to break out of the cycle of feeling disrespected by your husband and create a new culture at your house. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're unpacking what to do when your husband doesn't respect you.

Plus, after big fights about parenting their blended family, Faith's husband started confiding in a female "friend." Faith decided to experiment with the 6 Intimacy Skills™ even though her friends told her that wouldn't work. Today she says her marriage is the best it's EVER been and they are both so in love. She's going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap