Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan MD

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Men: you might be conditioning your partner’s body to fear you.

Alex Charfen is the founder of The Brotherhood, and he teaches masculine containment as a trainable discipline after his own wife told him she didn't feel seen, heard, or safe.

Almost every couple runs on a pattern they never name: trigger, escalation, rupture, withdrawal, repair. Alex became exceptionally good at repair, and it changed nothing. While his body told him they were making progress, her nervous system was still telling her she wasn't safe.

He asks the men he works with three questions. Are you stronger than your partner? More physically capable? More capable of violence? Every man answers yes to all three, and taken seriously, that answer changes what a man is responsible for in the room.

I believe women are the custodians of their own experience. Alex believes men have to self-initiate first. The most useful parts of this conversation live in that friction.

We also get into why the car is a diagnostic for polarity, why the calmest man in the room is the most dangerous, and why regulating your nervous system gives entrepreneurs more capacity than any biohack.

You’ll learn:

[0:00] Introduction
[6:36] How an ultimatum catalyzed Alex's reclamation as a man
[9:44] The hidden pattern in many heterosexual relationships
[14:57] The biological reality of a woman's nervous system under threat
[22:20] What shifted in his wife after he committed
[25:51] Micro choices a woman makes in every moment
[31:30] Whether Katie could have done anything to induce Alex's shift
[39:13] The nice guy versus the man in his dark masculine
[44:03] Dominance of oneself, not of her
[52:35] Why successful entrepreneurs so often fail at relationships
[1:00:28] Always putting out fires means you're probably the arsonist
[1:02:55] Contained masculine energy as a healing force in The Brotherhood

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Resources Mentioned:

Momentum Podcast - EP54: The CEO's Secret Weapon | Podcast
The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks | Book
Laura Doyle | Website

Learn more on Alex's upcoming men's groups here.

Find more from Alex:

Alex Charfen | Instagram | Facebook
The Brotherhood Society | Website
Momentum for the Entrepreneurial Personality Type (EPT) Podcast | Spotify or Apple

Find more from Kelly:

YouTube: Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan, MD
Instagram: @kellybroganmd
Website: kellybroganmd.com
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Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here.
Discover Kelly's Relaxed Woman System here.

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Reserve your free spot for Kelly’s Biological Marriage event here.

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How can you activate your true feminine energy?

My guest Nina Lombardo teaches conscious intimacy, polarity, and sacred feminine practice at Way of Devotion, and she's one of the few voices in this space who refuses to sell an outcome.

We start with her own arc from what she calls "puddleness" into a woman with a spine, and how that reshaped the way she now teaches women coming from the opposite direction: armored, ambitious, over-functioning.

Nina makes a distinction between a need and neediness that reorganized how I think about asking my partner for anything.

There's a piece on choosing partners who conveniently can't meet your depth, because staying hidden feels safer than being fully seen. She doesn't let anyone off the hook here, including herself.

Later, Nina walks through what it actually looks like to express anger through the body as an invitation instead of an accusation, and why a whimper in real time beats resentment every single time.

If you've done therapy, done the healing, and still can't figure out why intimacy feels stuck, the answer she offers is uncomfortable in the best way.

You’ll learn:

[0:00] Introduction

[5:24] The heroine's journey and a woman's maturational arc

[10:07] The needy woman is the entitled woman

[21:53] Relaxing into desire as its own animate force

[28:28] Having a witness exposes where we're performing and hiding vulnerability

[41:57] Expressing feelings through the body rather than words

[49:09] Responding to him in the moment, versus reacting to the past

[55:04] Exposing your fullness to see whether he meets you

[1:02:18] Shifting from masculine mode into your feminine center of gravity

[1:09:35] Relaxing into subtle realms without agenda

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Resources Mentioned:

Esther Perel | Website

David Deida | Website

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Find more from Nina:

Nina Lombardo - Way of Devotion | Website | Instagram

Find more from Kelly:

YouTube: Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan, MD
Instagram: @kellybroganmd
Website: kellybroganmd.com
Join Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.
Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here.
Discover Kelly's Relaxed Woman System here.

Reserve your free spot for Kelly’s Biological Marriage event here.

Learn more about how you can reclaim your financial sovereignty with Infinite Banking here.

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Should you take care of your parents, even when they decide to take the mainstream medicine route?

This week's audacious ask comes from a listener watching her mother go further down a medical path that seems to be making things worse, and she wants to know how to navigate it without losing herself in the process.

Caring for an aging parent who keeps choosing conventional medicine you no longer trust is one of the most disorienting positions a holistic-minded woman can find herself in.

The cultural assumption that adult children should manage their parents' healthcare is backwards. Family constellation work shows that healing flows from child to parent, and that repair is very different from taking responsibility for another adult's medical choices.

I go over the three parts likely driving your caretaking, and why the moment you make those visible is the moment you stop over-functioning and start setting real limits. I also share the exact boundary I set with my own parents years ago, and how it broke a decades-long pattern of commiseration around pathology in my family.

Their body is their business. What you're willing to offer is yours. The freedom sits in making that contract conscious instead of assumed.

You’ll learn:

[0:00] Introduction

[2:10] Caring for a parent whose conventional treatment seems harmful

[3:42] Taking care of a parent may not be your role

[5:36] How conscious and clear the caregiving contract really is

[7:08] Admitting we never truly know what's best for someone

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Find more from Kelly:

YouTube: Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan, MD
Instagram: @kellybroganmd
Website: kellybroganmd.com
Join Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.
Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here.
Discover Kelly's Relaxed Woman System here.
Access Kelly's Beauty Backroom event here.
Save your seat for Kelly's Turn on Training here.

Drop a "my blast" comment sharing something you're excited about, proud of, or loving about yourself, for a chance to win a free Beauty Backroom Peptide Perfecting Complex Face Serum or Moisturizer, gifted weekly! 

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Your birth chart can help you navigate life transitions more than most people think.

Meli Neubek is an astrologer, co-host of Celestial Curiosities, and one of my closest friends, which means she has full permission to tell me when my two-hour-a-day YouTube astrology binge is starting to look like a coping strategy.

I recorded this a few weeks after March 3rd, when I woke up feeling like I'd been under anesthesia for six years inside a dynamic I'd been calling sovereignty. Both of our charts, apparently, had this written.

So we sit with the real question: what is astrology actually doing when it lands, and where does it turn into another way to outsource trusting yourself? Meli walks through the difference between predictive, psychological, and evolutionary work, why she practices tropical over sidereal, and what Saturn was doing to my second house the day everything cracked open.

She also names something rarely said out loud: how suicidal thoughts can show up as part of an identity death, and why that's not a sign something's gone wrong.

You’ll learn:

[0:00] Introduction

[4:05] Carrying on the Kelly Brogan chicken legacy

[6:58] Why free-ranging chickens survive when caged ones don't

[10:58] Falling down an astrology hole after an abrupt awakening

[15:09] When astrology becomes an addictive reality filter

[26:06] Choosing launch dates by the planets

[28:11] The season defines the archetype, not the stars

[36:43] The generational planets shifting from earth to fire

[45:02] Asking Mellie's mother to move out after a decade 

[55:54] Suicidal thoughts and raw sharing as part of the anatomy of transformation

[1:10:05] The Socratic paradox and admitting you know nothing

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Related Reclamation Radio Episodes:

Animal Telepath: The Hidden Messages Your Pet Sends That You Keep Missing | Podcast

Resources Mentioned:

Profit First by Mike Michalowicz | Book
Steven Forrest, Forrest Astrology | Website
Backyard Chickens | Facebook Group

Find more from Meli:

Meli Neubek | Website

Celestial Curiosities | Website

Find more from Kelly:

YouTube: Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan, MD
Instagram: @kellybroganmd
Website: kellybroganmd.com
Join Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.
Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here.
Discover Kelly's Relaxed Woman System here.

Access Kelly's Beauty Backroom event here.

Save your seat for Kelly's Turn on Training here.

Learn more about how you can reclaim your financial sovereignty with Infinite Banking here.

Drop a "my blast" comment sharing something you're excited about, proud of, or loving about yourself, for a chance to win a free Beauty Backroom Peptide Perfecting Complex Face Serum or Moisturizer, gifted weekly!

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Most people chase a state of calm and relief… but what if that’s the wrong goal?

Lindsey Lockett is a trauma integrator and relational weaver who woke up to her own healing hamster wheel inside a psych hospital.

Lindsey spent a decade chasing perfect gut health, perfect sleep, and perfect everything. Then her psych hospital stay following a suicide attempt in March 2019 showed her the bone broth, the supplements, and the perfect protocols were not what she actually needed. 

Lindsey names something most people skip: the pregnant pause after you tell the truth. It’s the moment the other person's face shifts and their trained instinct wants to soften what you said, so they do not have to feel it. She defines authenticity as embodied allegiance to yourself under pressure. She is clear that it is not a boundaries speech or an ego trip about not caring what anyone thinks.

She also explains why she’s moving away from polyvagal theory as the dominant framework, why calm is only one configuration of the nervous system, and how integrity has to sit underneath any expression of truth.

If you have felt more fractured after years of nervous system work, not less, Lindsey's take will land.

You’ll learn:

[0:00] Introduction

[7:08] The hamster wheel of healing that leaves women no more joyful

[12:45] How victim consciousness follows you into greenwashed medicine

[16:00] Making the shift into radical responsibility and real safety

[27:25] The pregnant pause after speaking a hard truth

[38:36] Female conditioning that made self-abandonment feel safest

[43:05] Building capacity through imagination and rehearsal

[46:11] Discernment as the place authenticity emerges from

[56:18] Weaponized authenticity and the pendulum swing to synthesis

[1:00:35] Why fewer nervous system tools means more resolution

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Related Reclamation Radio Episodes:

Conventional Mental Health is Fixing The Wrong Thing With Elisabeth McKay | Podcast

Resources Mentioned:

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. | Book or Audiobook
Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker | Book or Audiobook

Find more from Lindsey:

Lindsey Lockett | Website | Instagram
Animal Body: 10-Day Audio Immersion | Website

Feel Without Fear Workshop | Website
 
Use code kelly for 20% off Lindsey's offerings.

Find more from Kelly:

YouTube: Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan, MD
Instagram: @kellybroganmd
Website: kellybroganmd.com
Join Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.
Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here.
Discover Kelly's Relaxed Woman System here.

Access Kelly's Beauty Backroom event here.
Use code kelly for 20% off Lindsey's offering
Save your seat for Kelly's Turn on Training here.

Drop a "my blast" comment sharing something you're excited about, proud of, or loving about yourself, for a chance to win a free Beauty Backroom Peptide Perfecting Complex Face Serum or Moisturizer, gifted weekly!

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If you've done years of inner work and still feel stuck in the same patterns, you probably inherited your trauma.

Mark is the director of The Family Constellation Institute and the author of It Didn't Start with You, a book that has sold more than three million copies and reframed how we think about depression, anxiety, and chronic illness that seem to come out of nowhere.

I've been a family constellation zealot for years, and this conversation gets at the thing I've struggled to explain to people who assume this work is magical thinking.

Mark walks through the actual mechanics of how a grandmother's car accident can show up as a granddaughter's self-injury decades later, and why conventional psychiatry keeps missing it.

We talk about the Harvard Mastery of Stress study, the three unconscious ways we reproduce a broken bond with a parent, and the specific milestones (marriage, pregnancy, moving, rejection) that tend to trigger inherited patterns.

If you've ever wondered whether a fear, a symptom, or a relationship pattern is actually yours, this is the episode that gives you a way to tell.

Mark also shares why he rewrote his book after all these years, and what he's found about attachment breaks that changed how he works with almost everyone who walks in his door.

You’ll learn:

[0:00] Introduction

[7:21] The self-injurer whose cutting traced back to her grandmother's guilt

[15:02] How family constellations differ from psychodrama

[19:43] Whether anyone can stand as a representative in the field

[27:21] Three unconscious ways rejecting a parent shapes a life

[31:44] Telling inherited trauma apart from attachment trauma

[40:24] Reading the breadcrumb trail when the family history is lost

[45:58] Why 85 percent of his work turns out to be attachment

[54:44] Symptoms as the doorway and the meaning behind incarnation

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Resources Mentioned:

The Harvard Mastery of Stress Study 35-Year Follow-Up by Russek, L. G., et al. | Article

Bert Hellinger (Founder of Family Constellation Work) | Website

Find more from Mark:

Mark Wolynn | Website | Instagram
It Didn't Start with You | Book or Audiobook
The Official It Didn't Start with You Workbook | Book or Audiobook

Find more from Kelly:

YouTube: Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan, MD
Instagram: @kellybroganmd
Website: kellybroganmd.com
Join Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.
Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here.
Discover Kelly's Relaxed Woman System here.

Drop a "my blast" comment sharing something you're excited about, proud of, or loving about yourself, for a chance to win a free Beauty Backroom Peptide Perfecting Complex Face Serum or Moisturizer, gifted weekly! 

Access Kelly's Bio Marriage Live Stream here. 

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The day Mama Gena’s life was designed to collapse was the same day she chose to turn herself on instead.

Regena Thomashauer, known to most as Mama Gena, is the founder of the School of Womanly Arts and the author of five books, including the New York Times bestseller Pussy: A Reclamation. Her new book, On Our Knees, is the reason we had this conversation.

I have followed her work for years, and reading this book felt like being caught up on decades of her life in a single sitting. Our paths could not look more different on paper. Mine ran through psychiatric wards in New York with suicidal women coming off medications. Hers ran through living rooms filled with women in sequins and feathers. The conclusion we both landed on about what a woman's life is actually for turned out to be identical.

This conversation is about aliveness as a discipline. It is about what a woman does when she gets sued, taxed, divorced, and asked to deliver a career-defining event in the same 24 hours. Mama Gena calls the practice volitional heat.

If you have been told you are too much, this one is for you.

You’ll learn:

[0:00] Introduction

[7:17] A woman alive is the most dangerous force on this plane

[12:10] The permission field women grant each other in the dark

[14:13] Turn-on as a choice and the responsibility of volitional heat

[21:22] Getting sued the day her whole company hinged on one event

[23:23] Walking through the “On Our Knees Move” live on the podcast

[30:34] How pleasure floods the body with oxytocin and dopamine

[34:28] The regrettable impulse and loving your story unconditionally

[46:45] Why women celebrate bad news instead of their radiance

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Get Mama Gena’s new book, On Our Knees, out August 25th here.

Find more from Mama Gena:

Mama Gena | Website | Instagram | Facebook

Find more from Kelly:

YouTube: Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan, MD
Instagram: @kellybroganmd
Website: kellybroganmd.com
Join Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.
Get Kelly’s new book, The Reclaimed Woman here.
Discover Kelly's Relaxed Woman System here.

Access Kelly's Beauty Backroom event here.

Learn more about how you can reclaim your financial sovereignty with Infinite Banking here.

Learn more about how you can reclaim your financial sovereignty with Infinite Banking here.

Join Kelly's Bio Marriage Live Stream here. 

Save your seat for Kelly's Turn on Training here.

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Is it possible to have a relationship with a narcissist?

That question kicks off this episode, and the answer sits far outside the usual "set boundaries and move on" advice.

Boundaries aren't a personality trait. They're a container. Sometimes they mean blocking a number. Sometimes they mean a full blackout from your family of origin so you can step out of the trauma field long enough to hear yourself.

The relationship with your mother matters more than almost any other work you'll do. She's the anima imprint you project onto every woman, every doctor, every system of care. Resentment toward her chokes off creativity, vitality, and erotic energy in ways most women never trace back to the source.

Family constellation work changed my life on this exact issue, and I explain why I recommend it before any deeper trauma modality. Compassion, neutrality, and even harmony are on the table. None of it requires her to become the mother she couldn't be.

You’ll learn:

[0:00] Introduction

[2:10] Having a real relationship with a textbook narcissist while still keeping boundaries

[4:07] Why your mother owes you nothing, and how loosening that expectation frees you

[6:07] Family constellation is the low-hanging fruit with no downside

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Find more from Kelly:

YouTube: Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan, MD
Instagram: @kellybroganmd
Website: kellybroganmd.com
Join Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.
Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here.
Discover Kelly's Relaxed Woman System here.
Access Kelly's Beauty Backroom event here.

Learn more about how you can reclaim your financial sovereignty with Infinite Banking here.

Access Kelly's Beauty Backroom event here.

Access Kelly's Bio Marriage Live Stream here. 

Psychiatric medications only make you worse.

A Yale study found that 1 in 23 people prescribed an antidepressant go on to be diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and the field calls that "unmasking" rather than causation.

I trained as one of the first 300 reproductive psychiatrists in the world, and I stopped writing prescriptions in 2010 after research on long-term outcomes reframed everything I'd been taught about efficacy and safety.

The recent Lindsay Clancy case pulled me back into activist territory after years of stepping away from it.

This episode is my attempt to say what I thought I'd already said loudly enough. There's literature on treatment-emergent violence to self and others that most prescribers have never read. There's a phenomenon called tardive dysphoria. There's David Healy's work on stable volunteers becoming acutely suicidal after exposure to psychotropics.

If you've ever considered a psychiatric medication to get through a hard chapter, or if you love someone who has, this is the fuller picture I wish more people had access to before the prescription pad comes out.

You’ll learn:

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Related Reclamation Radio Episodes:

Uncovering the Truth About Anxiety, Depression & Meds | Podcast
Healing Beyond the Prescription Pad | Podcast
From Bipolar to Blissful with Lindsey Ridgeway | Podcast
The Hidden Dangers of Psychiatry & Medications (And What to Do Instead) with Laura Delano | Podcast

Resources Mentioned:

Published Scientific Findings and First-Hand Evidence of Dr. Kelly Brogan’s Vital Mind Reset Protocol | Outcomes
Treatment-Emergent Violence To Self And Others: A Literature Review of Neuropsychiatric Adverse Reactions For Antidepressant And Neuroleptic Psychiatric Drugs And General Medications by Brogan, K. et al. | Article
A Mind of Your Own by Kelly Brogan, MD | Book or Audiobook
The Reclaimed Woman by Kelly Brogan, MD | Book or Audiobook
Anatomy of an Epidemic by Robert Whitaker | Book or Audiobook

Dr. David Healy | Website

Laura Delano | Website

Find more from Kelly:

YouTube: Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan, MD
Instagram: @kellybroganmd
Website: kellybroganmd.com
Join Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.
Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here.
Discover Kelly's Relaxed Woman System here.
Access Kelly's Beauty Backroom event here.
Save your seat for Kelly's Turn on Training here.

Learn more about how you can reclaim your financial sovereignty with Infinite Banking here.

Drop a "my blast" comment sharing something you're excited about, proud of, or loving about yourself, for a chance to win a free Beauty Backroom Peptide Perfecting Complex Face Serum or Moisturizer, gifted weekly!

Learn more about how you can reclaim your financial sovereignty with Infinite Banking here.

Access Kelly's Bio Marriage Live Stream here. 

Save your seat for Kelly's Turn on Training here.

Everyone tells you that you need to be in a community, but what if that was one of the most dangerous things you could do?

This is a solo episode, and I am walking through the arc of my own relationship to community, from Francis Weller's work on the village we never had, to the small circle of Waldorf mamas in Miami, to the plandemic years when intentional community felt like a lifeline.

A lot of what I chased did not hold. Friend groups fractured over values. The sovereign communities collapsed under interpersonal conflict. Even the online spaces started to feel like surrogate families carrying weight they were never designed to carry.

The tension I keep returning to is this: Community asks for a fixed set of shared beliefs. I am someone who evolves, changes my mind, and drops ideologies when they stop resonating for me. Those two things do not fit cleanly together.

I also share what my friend Alyssa is doing that seems to be working, and why the ache I felt listening to her did not translate into wanting her life.

You’ll learn:

[0:00] Introduction

[2:23] The community wound and why Francis Weller says it haunts us all

[5:00] How I detonated a bomb in my holistic mom group over values

[8:49] Why conscious communities keep collapsing under their own projections

[11:03] The one friend whose thriving community makes me ache with longing

[12:58] The part of me that has zero interest in community at all

[18:33] Ideology-based communities become cults you can be punished for leaving

[21:37] An HOA with nothing in common is somehow even weirder

[23:16] Recurring revenue and digital membership sell community as a false cure

[26:37] The ideological prison distorting how women approach beauty and surgery

[30:33] Tom Cowan on why shared ideology fails without a shared project

Resources Mentioned:

Own Your Self by Kelly Brogan, MD | Book or Audiobook
The Wild Edge of Sorrow by Francis Weller | Book or Audiobook

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Find more from Kelly:

YouTube: Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan, MD
Instagram: @kellybroganmd
Website: kellybroganmd.com
Join Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.
Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here.
Discover Kelly's Relaxed Woman System here.

Learn more about how you can reclaim your financial sovereignty with Infinite Banking here. 

Learn more about how you can reclaim your financial sovereignty with Infinite Banking here.