The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

When your husband is there but not there, it's lonely. It's also stressful and exhausting. When you're reaching out trying to get reassurance and he doesn't respond, it only reinforces how disconnected you are, which hurts. A lot.

If this goes on for a long time, you feel a wave of hopelessness that it will never get better because that's just who he is. Then you feel disappointed that you didn't see it sooner, before you chose him.

But his emotional detachment doesn't have to be a life sentence of loneliness. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about two cures for an emotionally detached husband.

Plus, my guest Sarah was appalled by her man's health choices because of what he ate, drank and smoked. She felt that his views on raising children could be a dealbreaker. But then she read something that gave her some answers and there was a huge change. She now trusts him wholeheartedly. She's going to describe what she did so you can do it too.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

When my marriage was full of drama, it was incredibly taxing. I felt so overwhelmed and consumed by our problems. It was painful and exhausting to fight all the time and to feel so hopeless that it would ever get better. It robbed me of energy for other relationships, work, and having fun. What I know now is that anything that's sucking out a lot of energy and focus pulls you away from your true calling. With so many relationships falling apart, many people are losing vital energy on Needless Emotional Turmoil. The important things they're supposed to be contributing, things they're called to do and the world desperately needs them to do, are not getting the time and energy they deserve. If you're in survival mode in your relationship like I was, you may not even know what your calling is! On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about what happens when your marriage drama ends.

Plus, my guest Kathy and her husband had been sleeping in separate beds for six months. She didn't think he would ever change, but then she got the Six Intimacy Skills™. That was twenty years ago, and she gets tears in her eyes when she talks about how wonderful her marriage still is. She became a Certified Laura Doyle Relationship Coach then a Master Relationship Coach then a Master Coach for Relationship Coaches and the CEO of a multimillion-dollar coaching organization. She's going to talk with us about what happens when you end your relationship drama for good.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

When you fell in love with your husband, he made you feel beautiful, sexy and special. So it can be crushing to find out that he's looking at other women online. It can make you feel undesirable, disappointed and less-than, not to mention lowering your opinion of him. Why would he sink so low to sneak around and look at sleazy strangers? Is this really who you married? Naturally you just want him to stop looking—for good. Fortunately, you can restore your confidence, get the respect you deserve, and preserve the passion. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about three actions to take if your husband looks at other women online.

Plus, my guest Taylor was tired of her husband's heavy drinking and how controlling HE was. On their ten-year anniversary, she felt trapped and resentful, wishing she were with someone else. Then she started using a particular phrase and today her marriage is better than she ever thought possible. Plus her husband mostly stopped drinking. She's going to tell us what she did so you can do it too!

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

If he doesn't want you anymore, it does hurt—really bad. Whether his actions are speaking louder than words and he's too busy to spend time with you or he's saying he doesn't want you or making plans to leave or has already left, it can give you the excruciating impression that you're unlovable. And there's no lonelier feeling than that. Well-meaning friends can make it even worse by telling you to stop loving him or stop trying to make him love you. They might advise you to cut off all ties with him. Sure, you could do that. But what if that's not what your heart is telling you to do? Maybe there's a good reason you still love someone who doesn't seem to be loving you back right now. While you may wish that things could go back to the way they were before, maybe there's something even better waiting for you. At least, that's what I see happen with students of the Six Intimacy Skills™ who use the Connection Framework. They've gone through this crushing experience of feeling completely rejected and unloved, and they come out the other side saying their marriage is better than ever. How can you do that too? On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about what to do if he doesn't want you anymore and it hurts.

Plus, my guest Rachel and her husband were fighting, fighting, fighting. It had become the norm at their house. She couldn't understand why he wouldn't try to heal their marriage. Then Rachel decided to experiment with all of the Intimacy Skills and after a long winter, her husband said something he hadn't said in a very long time. Today, she says her 19-year marriage feels like a miracle and she is full of JOY! She's going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

When things were out of balance in my marriage, I was seething with resentment about my husband not doing enough chores or making enough money, which left me having to make up for him in both areas. I also had to control the finances since we were always so close to the edge and I knew he wouldn't be able to handle it. It was very stressful and lonely to be stuck carrying these heavy burdens, but I didn't see any way out. Maybe you've been there too.

Fortunately, I learned a practice that completely changed all that. Today my relationship feels much more balanced, and far from doing everything around here, I feel well taken care of and even spoiled! It may even be out of balance the other way, with him doing practically everything and me just coasting along.

And I'm married to the same guy, so go figure.

On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about 5 ways to maintain balance in a relationship while feeling taken care of.

My guest Steph's husband was distant, and she was resentful, lonely and tired of feeling rejected. Then she ran headfirst into a new process, and today he does things she's wanted him to do for forever. She's going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Everybody has doubts about their relationship from time to time. It's painful when you feel like your values don't match, or your husband is engaging in behavior that you never would have condoned, or his parenting is not at all what you see your children needing to thrive. What if such doubts make you question your own judgment about having said "I do"? It's an exhausting and scary place to be. What if your marriage is a big mistake—then you should leave, right? But what if you devastate your husband and kids and end up breaking your own heart too? It's a terrible quandary not knowing what the right decision is. It's tempting to jump on the fence and stay there. But doubt is the devil. It eats away at the joy and connection you could otherwise be having if you could find your faith, and it pretends that you have no choice but to suffer or leave. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about 3 tips to deal with relationship doubts.

With no physical intimacy for two years, my guest Irena and her husband were both miserable. The marriage counselor told them they had no chance of survival and fired them as clients. But things got a lot better when Irena made a discovery and ran with it. Today she says her marriage is exactly where she wants it to be—and getting better every day.

Plus, the Worst Relationship Advice of the Week Award goes to a T-shirt that a student was too embarrassed to take a picture of in front of her husband and kids.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

A student named Gigi told me she wanted intimacy in her marriage but didn't really know what it looked like. "I've been married for over 20 years," she confessed, "and I feel like I just don't even know what intimacy is." I knew what she meant because I was similarly baffled early in my marriage. Was intimacy purely physical–just another way to say "sex"? What did emotional intimacy look like? Whatever it was, I knew I wanted it. And although I knew I had experienced it at times, I had no idea why or how to create more of it. I didn't realize I was unwittingly crushing the emotional and physical connection in my marriage. I didn't know that intimacy was a matter of expertise and that there were Six Intimacy Skills™ that would help me feel lovable and loved every single day. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about the roadmap that will give you these Skills.

My guest Charlie was angry and confronted her husband about his lack of help with their financial life and lack of activity in the bedroom. Then they separated. But Charlie had an epiphany about how to solve the problems in her marriage and today they are back together, the physical intimacy is frequent, and he compliments her all the time. She's going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.

Plus, the Worst Relationship Advice of the Week Award goes to a bumper sticker about what to expect when you're married. But it's got it all wrong!

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

When your marriage is in trouble, you know it because you're worried. And you're scared something bad will happen to your family, like getting broken beyond repair. But how do you know whether your relationship is really in trouble or just going through a phase that everybody goes through? On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about three signs your marriage is in trouble.

My guest Atesh and her husband fought constantly, even fighting about the fight, and she felt so unloved. They separated and it seemed hopeless. But then she took a completely different approach, and today her marriage is peaceful, light, safe and warm. She'll tell us how she did it so you can do it too.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week Award goes to an unoriginal yet harmful suggestion about how to stop feeling dismissed and ignored. Wait until you hear this claptrap!

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

When you first say the words "I do," the idea that your marriage will last forever feels like a given. Of course it will! That's why you're committing for life in front of God and everybody! You met the right person, who miraculously felt all melty with you just like you did with him. Your marriage will definitely last forever and ever–the end. But then life kicks in, there's a misunderstanding, and you notice he has a strange way of doing things, or he hurts your feelings or gets very angry. Oooh! Maybe he has an anger problem and you notice that the "forever" part seems longer than it did during that "I do" session. It's a big accomplishment to stay married forever. I used to think it was just luck, but now I know that there are powerful habits that contribute to marriage longevity. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about what makes a marriage last forever.

My guest Dina felt like she was drowning because she had to do everything to take care of their small kids while her unsupportive husband was at his leisure. But she had an insight that changed how she looked at things, and today her husband spoils her, taking care of the kids so she has time for herself. She's going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too!

Plus, the Worst Relationship Advice of the Week Award goes to an Instagram post from a coach–but definitely NOT one of our coaches–who gives examples of how you should talk to your partner that will definitely make you very, very resistible.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

If you're anything like me, you love feeling desired. When the physical passion is missing or rare in your relationship, it makes you feel undesirable, which is an awful feeling. You wonder if the extra pounds or wrinkles are turning him off or if there's something wrong with him. Either way, it's lonely, painful and confusing. But it doesn't have to stay that way. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I'll reveal 5 ways to fix a sexless marriage.

My guest Sofia's husband said he wanted a divorce then moved out two days a week, and he was having an affair. Her marriage felt like a mess. But Sofia made some big changes, and today her husband is back home and they snuggle and are so close. She's going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week award goes to a pithy quote about what strong women do, but it's actually the opposite of what I see truly strong women doing every day.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap