The Feminist Bar Podcast

In this episode of Conversations on Motherhood, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Ayanda, host of Actually Let’s Talk About It, as she opens up about the complexities of her relationship with her mother and the decision to go no-contact.

Ayanda’s story is tender and layered, reminding us how deeply childhood experiences shape our sense of self, our desires, and our choices. She reflects on mother wounds and the unspoken weight they carry, the longing for connection, and the courage it takes to choose distance in order to heal.

Together, we explore what it means to reimagine care when love and pain coexist, and how healing can unfold in many different ways — sometimes in closeness, and sometimes in letting go.

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In this episode of the Motherhood Series, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Tendayi, a mother of a 9-year-old, to reflect on what it means to be a feminist raising a feminist.

From going viral for taking her daughter to women’s marches to the quiet daily lessons of care, Tendayi shares the joys and uncertainties of preparing a child for a world that does not always reflect her values. She speaks about the influence of her own mother wounds, the weight of expectation, and the ongoing negotiation of what it means to “get it right.”

This is a conversation about reimagining motherhood, about raising children with consciousness and courage, and about the vulnerability of wondering whether love and politics are enough to prepare them for the future.

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In this episode of the Love Series, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Dean to hear their story of love and self-discovery.

Dean opens up about navigating identity while in a relationship, from uncovering their gender identity to grappling with self-worth, and how these shifts ultimately led them to pull away. This is a tender, honest conversation about the ways we change, how relationships sometimes stretch or break under that change, and the lifelong work of coming into yourself.

It’s a story about growth, endings, and the courage to choose authenticity over comfort.

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In this episode of The Love Series, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits down with Anon to explore her love story: Falling in Love with Potential.

Anon opens up about what it means to fall for the idea of someone rather than who they really are, and the lessons that come with heartbreak. From the pitfalls of seeing only potential, to the journey of self-love, redefining dating with intention, and learning to seek an equally-yoked partnership — this conversation offers both tenderness and tough truths about love.

✨ This episode invites listeners to reflect on how we love, why we love, and what we deserve in return.

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In this episode of the Love Series, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Tawana — known to many as Tiniwana Talks — to explore a love story that is less about romance with another, and more about choosing herself.

Tawana shares her journey of being in a long-term relationship and engagement that didn’t feel right, and the brave decision to walk away. Through her reflections, she opens up about sexuality, self-love, and the quiet work of honoring your truth even when it unsettles others.

This is a story of endings and beginnings, of reimagining love beyond societal expectations, and of learning that the most important relationship we ever have is the one we build with ourselves.

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In this episode of The Love Series, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with content creator and creative Warimi, as she reflects on a relationship in her youth — one that was big, bold, and full of firsts.

It was the kind of love that made everything feel heightened — the joy, the jealousy, the intimacy, and the intensity. But beneath it all were patterns neither of them knew how to break, spiraling into toxic cycles and messy attempts at revenge.

Through Warimi’s story, we explore the complicated beauty and the quiet dangers of our early loves: how they shape our boundaries, our self-worth, and the ways we choose (or refuse) to show up for love later in life.

This episode asks us to consider: How do we unlearn unhealthy patterns we mistake for passion? And when we finally walk away, how do we make peace with the versions of ourselves we were inside that love?

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In this episode of The Love Series, we sit with Lebo as she tells us a story she didn’t expect to live — a story of meeting someone who shifted the course of her life, and having to make a choice between staying rooted in her rising career or leaping across continents for love.

It's a story about connection, timing, and the quiet but complex decisions we make when love doesn’t arrive in the neat packaging we imagined.

Lebo’s journey asks us to reflect: What does it mean to choose love? What are we willing to risk, leave behind, or carry for it? And is every love story the one worth that leap?

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In this episode of The Love Series, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Chi to explore a story of love, loss of self, and survival.

Chi takes us through what it meant to fall quickly and deeply — to love someone she couldn’t fully recognise until it was too late. From saying yes to love, to marriage, to motherhood — and then slowly waking up to a version of herself that was no longer whole.

This is a conversation about learning the difference between infatuation and care, navigating emotional manipulation and narcissism, and eventually choosing to leave — gently, powerfully, and for herself.

It’s a soft, honest reflection on memory, clarity, and coming home to yourself after loving someone who couldn’t love you back without harm.

Listen now to Chi’s Story: Prefrontal Lobe Love, Infatuation & Narcissist Survival — part of our Love Series.

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In this episode, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Dorothy, a queer Zimbabwean woman, to talk about what it means to love deeply in a world that makes no room for that love. Dorothy shares her story of finding intimacy, connection, and care with someone whose family could not accept the relationship because of her sexuality.

This conversation explores what it feels like to be loved, but not welcomed. What it means to lose a relationship because of homophobia and family pressure. And how we carry love after it ends — not as something broken, but as something we can still honour and learn from.

Together, Tinatswe and Dorothy reflect on grief, longing, survival, and the quiet power of choosing to live openly in the aftermath of loss.

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In this episode of The Feminist Bar: Love Series, we’re joined by storyteller and creative Shantae, who takes us through a love story that came back around — and didn’t end the way she hoped.

It’s a tender, honest reflection on trying again, believing again, and the courage it takes to walk away (again), even when you wanted it to work.

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This isn’t a story about a “failed” relationship — it’s about what it means to honour your intuition, to love deeply while staying rooted in self-worth, and to carry softness forward even when it hurts.

If you’ve ever gone back, tried again, or stayed too long — this one’s for you.