On this week’s episode: Rebecca, Gabe, and Carvell answer listener questions on how to set rules for adults at a one-year old’s birthday party and what to do when parents project their childhood traumas onto to their kids. And as usual, we share our triumphs and fails and offer up some recommendations. On Slate Plus, Rebecca shares an update about that summer camp with racist practices.

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