This is part six of a seven-part series unpacking a very personal story of pain, trauma, redemption, and resurrection in Wayne and Sara's journey. How does a couple come back from such a horrible challenge to find joy and humor again? Relationships, like anything else that gets damaged, can be repaired with careful and compassionate attention by each to the wounds of the other, owning the pain each caused and forgiving the mistakes of the other. That's where love and trust find a fertile bed to flourish once again.

Podcast Notes:

Previous podcasts with Sara - Learning Love More Deeply (2012)  •  Finding Our Way to Us (2020)  •  Finding Our Way to Us Part 2 (2020)

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.

Try Softer by Aundi Kolber

Being Known Podcast with Curt Thompson, MD - Season 4 is about unpacking trauma

Helpful video:  How to Find a Therapist

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The next session of the Jake Colsen Book Club will be held Saturday, August 20 at 1:00 pm PDT.  You'll have to work that out in your own time zone. We will be covering Chapter 5 on Love with a Hook and how crooked twists that religion puts on love.  We will stream it live on my Facebook Author Page but if you want to be part of the conversation, you can get a link to the Zoom Room by emailing Wayne and asking for it,

This is part five of a seven-part series unpacking a very personal story of pain, trauma, redemption, and resurrection in Wayne and Sara's journey. Now that Sara is beginning to find a measure of safety in Wayne's affection, some lost and disturbing memories begin to emerge from Sara's past. Over the next few weeks, they increase in darkness and intensity as a new story emerges for her that makes sense of so much of Sara's journey and the trauma that lay hidden in her body.

Podcast Notes:

Previous podcasts with Sara - Learning Love More Deeply (2012)  •  Finding Our Way to Us (2020)  •  Finding Our Way to Us Part 2 (2020)

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.

Try Softer by Aundi Kolber

Being Known Podcast with Curt Thompson, MD - Season 4 is about unpacking trauma

Helpful video:  How to Find a Therapist

This is part four of a seven-part series unpacking a very personal story of pain, trauma, redemption, and resurrection in Wayne and Sara's journey. Last week, they were moving closer together but now meeting for the first time since Sara moved out unexpectedly. She wasn't wanting to test the waters on marriage again but to see if they could find a way to be friends, if not spouses, again. However, their re-connection opens a door not only to the love they have for each other but also to insight into the traumatic brain that Sara had been dealing with.

Podcast Notes:

Previous podcasts with Sara - Learning Love More Deeply (2012)  •  Finding Our Way to Us (2020)  •  Finding Our Way to Us Part 2 (2020)

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.

Try Softer by Aundi Kolber

Being Known Podcast with Curt Thompson, MD - Season 4 is about unpacking trauma

Helpful video:  How to Find a Therapist

This is part three of a seven-part series unpacking a very personal story of pain, trauma, redemption, and resurrection in Wayne and Sara's journey. How did Wayne and Sara survive their weeks apart? Both talk about what their life was like apart from each other and what they were dealing with. Not knowing yet about the trauma Sara had suffered, they dealt with so many misunderstandings that threatened to drive them apart. But even in the struggles, God was preparing a way in their hearts to give them a way back to each other.

Podcast Notes:

Previous podcasts with Sara - Learning Love More Deeply (2012)  •  Finding Our Way to Us (2020)  •  Finding Our Way to Us Part 2 (2020)

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.

Try Softer by Aundi Kolber

Being Known Podcast with Curt Thompson, MD - Season 4 is about unpacking trauma

Helpful video:  How to Find a Therapist

The next session of the Jake Colsen Book Club will be held Sunday, July 24 at 1:00 pm PDT.  You'll have to work that out in your own time zone. We will be covering Chapter 4 on why accountability will not transform you.  You can get a link to the Zoom Room by emailing Wayne and asking for it the week before.

For the past thirteen weeks, Wayne and Sara have been on the strangest of journeys, that put Sara's life and their marriage at risk. Fortunately, what the enemy intended for evil has turned into a marvelous story of redemption and healing. This week, Sara joins us to share what she was going through that led up to some painful decisions she felt forced to make. This podcast is intensely personal and could also trigger some pain for those who have suffered trauma. But in the end, it is a story of hope and healing and a testimony to God's unrelenting work to bind up the broken-hearted and lead them into his freedom.

Podcast Notes:

Previous podcasts with Sara - Learning Love More Deeply (2012)  •  Finding Our Way to Us (2020)  •  Finding Our Way to Us Part 2 (2020)

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.

Try Softer by Aundi Kolber

Being Known Podcast with Curt Thompson, MD - Season 4 is about unpacking trauma

Helpful video:  How to Find a Therapist

The next gathering of the Jake Colsen Book Club will be held Sunday, July 24 at 1:00 pm PDT.  You'll have to work that out in your own time zone. We will be covering Chapter 4 on why accountability will not transform you.  You can get a link to the Zoom Room by emailing Wayne and asking for it the week before.

On April 11, Wayne returned from an 11-day trip to the east coast to some "unforeseen circumstances" that he said would change the trajectory of his life. They have, and that story can now be told. Over the next few weeks, Wayne and Kyle, and eventually Sara will share a story that is intensely personal and perhaps not for everyone, but at the same time, it illustrates how God helps us navigate perilous waters, even if when we struggle to believe what he is revealing to us.

Podcast Notes:

Previous podcasts with Sara: Learning Love More Deeply (2012)  •  Finding Our Way to Us (2020)  •  Finding Our Way to Us Part 2 (2020)

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.

Try Softer by Aundi Kolber

Being Known Podcast with Curt Thompson, MD - Season 4 is about unpacking trauma

Repentance

Kyle and Wayne begin with a follow-up to last week's podcast through emails and blog comments from our listeners. They talk about safe places for vulnerability and the importance of relational repair when something goes wrong in relationships. Then they continue their conversation about Transformational Love, this time talking about how the process can go wrong and what relational repair we can do to get back on track with how we engage his love.

Podcast Notes:

The Jake Colsen Book Club will be held Saturday, July 2 at 1:00 pm PDT.  You'll have to work that out in your own time zone. We will be covering Chapter 3 on Christian education.  You can get a link to the Zoom Room by emailing Wayne and asking for it.

Following up on last week's conversation about The Divisiveness of Compassion, Kyle and Wayne interact with some of their listeners about the power of vulnerability. It can open doors to deep conversation and healing and it can also be misused to crush someone's heart. Be vulnerable with those who have demonstrated they will be a safe space for you and learn to recognize the characteristics of those who will use your vulnerability to control or manipulate you. The world needs more people who can incubate a place in their hearts that is safe for others to share their stories with us. Also, they talk a bit about the vulnerability before God that allows his will to unfold around us, meandering inside the chaos of brokenness rather than drawing a straight line to what we think is best.

Podcast Notes:

The Jake Colsen Book Club will be held Saturday, July 2 at 1:00 pm PDT.  You'll have to work that out in your own time zone. We will be covering Chapter 3 on Christian education.  The link will be available next week. Watch for the announcement on Wayne's blog at Lifestream.org.

Your Trauma Is Valid

Identifying Toxic People

If we could only be more loving, wouldn't the world would chase after the Jesus we know? One would think so. However, if that were true, how could the best demonstration of the Father's love be executed in his early 30s by the religious and political leaders of his day? In response to an article by David French, Wayne and Kyle talk about how genuinely loving people around us won't necessarily endear them to us or the Gospel. There are reasons why human pride and brokenness resist love, and we need not be surprised to learn that loving people doesn't always win friends and influence people.

Podcast Notes:

The Jake Colsen Book Club 

Regretting What I Believe by David Tensen

Why Compassion Is Divisive by David French

Believe

Knowing what's true is not enough to carry us into the winds of the Spirit-led life. It's not the knowing of truth that makes a difference, but us believing what's true enough to live by it. That takes us learning to believe his truth. In the fourth installment of this transformation series Kyle and Wayne talk about faith, trust, and belief, not in the religious definition of trying to convince ourselves something is true or by pretending but learning to wrap our hearts around what God is showing us so that we can live to what's true. A religious view of belief or faith is just another work we have to muster in our own strength. However, true faith, or trust, is something God wants to win us into as we grow in his love.

Podcast Notes:

The Jake Colsen Book Club  (Note: the time is wrong during the podcast. At that time it was 10:00 am PDT, but we have changed it to 10:30 for this Sunday.)