But for real... we unknowingly allow idealism to murder our motivation by keeping us frozen. Sometimes it appears saying we're waiting to show up with excellence before taking action, but when you peel back that layer- is it actually stealing from us or serving us.

How-to combat Idealism 
1) notice chronic feelings of  disappointment/failure
2) increase awareness that thats usually evidence of unrealistic expectations
 (aka-idealism)
3) examine your expectations

HABIT TO EXAMINE YOUR EXPECTATIONS.
Ask yourself the following questions

• What were my expectations here? (of myself or situation)  Take a few minutes to sit with yourself to flush out these answers. They're probably all subconscious & nothing you actually vocalized beforehand. 
• What did I actually do? (list what you did do/happened & notice the factors beyond your control at play & be aware of your own limits)
• Were my inital expectations realistic? (Honestly assess what you expected -vs- how long it took & the factors outside of your control.) 
• Did I spend my time well? (Consider the effort you put in with your current skills & those factors. Remember perfect isn't the standard here.) 
• Could I say I was successful even if I didn't hit my initial expectations? ( This will require you to redefine what success means. You might not have 100% fit your ideal outcome, but being "successful" is a wider/broader net.  
• Do you owe yourself an apology? I often do this when I realize I was shaming my efforts based on unattainable standards? 
• Can you give yourself gratitude for the effort you put in? Behavioral Scientist have found that we change more quickly when we choose to be proud of yourself even when we are only marginally better. If we embrace the learning curve, we arrive at mastery faster. 

Summer Enrollment now!- Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call. 

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK]. 

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

Registration for Aaron’s { 12-Week } Porn Recovery Small Group is open NOW. 

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 or here for the Friday Afternoon group [LINK].

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We all have habits we're looking to ditch, in this episode Jenna walks through the 4 steps she takes her coaching clients through to help them dismantle their unhelpful habits

If you'd like to chat with Jenna about booking a coaching session ...do it!
Email her at: [email protected] 

These are the 4 steps she refers to in this episode: 

1.  Increase awareness 
2.  Replace w/ another habit 
3. Get true comfort
4. Little bits of better

https://podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/sugar-is-my-porn-addiction-comfort-and-kindness-with/id1559373076?i=1000558712123

Summer Enrollment now!- Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call. 

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK]. 

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

Registration for Aaron’s { 12-Week } Porn Recovery Small Group is open NOW. 

Click here for the Saturday Morning group [LINK]

 or here for the Friday Afternoon group [LINK].

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It's possible to find creative childcare solution that feel like win-wins for you & your kids. If you don't have a big budget or family in town- there are other options that don't simply feel like childcare, but feel like community building.

In this episode Jenna breaks down:
1) Date Night Swap
2) Marriage Vacays (aka- kidless) 
3) Sitters doing light housework
4) Teenager Babysitters & having them bring over their younger siblings 

Summer Enrollment now!- Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call. 

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK]. 

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

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It feels like to basic to call this a letter habit. Jenna unpacks how this habit has become about sowing seeds of love; a way to express "with-ness" when friends when she can't physically be with them. 

It could feel easy to brush past the impact of this habit, but remember a large part of our Christian faith is built on a series of letters to believers.  Don't underestimate the ripple effect of taking time to write your prayers or sow words of identity.

We don't want to ever be too busy to show up "as love" for those around and this is a simple act that can change your focus from hyper aware of your own world to be more others oriented.

Categories of letters to send:
- prayers for those going through hard seasons
- words of identity for those you notice "running their race well"
- gratitude for those who've impacted you or those in your sphere

To join the Bible Habit sign-up here:
https://thehabitlab.myflodesk.com/biblehabit

Summer Enrollment now!- Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call. 

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK]. 

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

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Jenna talks through some of the mindset shifts that were helpful adjustments for her to give herself permission to experiment with various Jesus Habits for the kids.

Here is the link to get the resource page emailed to you for all the tools she referenced in this episode. https://thehabitlab.myflodesk.com/episode20

Resource page includes:
-our favorite bibles
- kids christian books
- kids christian podcast
- Jenna's playlists
- youtube channels

If you're an alumni with Jenna's Habit  Course & interested in more info
on the group coaching- add your name to the list & I'll reach out. https://thehabitlab.myflodesk.com/alumnicircle

Summer Enrollment now!- Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call. 

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK]. 

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

Registration for Aaron’s { 12-Week } Porn Recovery Small Group is open NOW. 

Click here for the Saturday Morning group [LINK]

 or here for the Friday Afternoon group [LINK].

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How to build the community you’re wanting requires overcoming rejection & not letting idealism thwart you.

-Deciding it’s valuable to have people in your life who fill different roles.

-Changing my mindset from entertaining TO >> hospitality. How hospitality overlaps more with our roles as being Christians to offer a safe place to be known for others. 

—referenced episodes from our other podcast—
•Adult Friendships (part 1)
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-lab/id1559373076?i=1000616022876

•Adult Friendships (part 2)
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-lab/id1559373076?i=1000616784970

Summer Enrollment now!- Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call. 

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK]. 

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

Registration for Aaron’s { 12-Week } Porn Recovery Small Group is open NOW. 

Click here for the Saturday Morning group [LINK]

 or here for the Friday Afternoon group [LINK].

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In this episode- I unpack how I went from walking 5 minutes a day to running half marathons.  

I talk about :
•mindset shifts that helped me find longevity 
•how I upgraded my habit
• ways I added layers of benefit to my daily fitness 

If you liked this episode; please share with a friend who you think would like to hear it!

To find this video on youtube:  
https://youtu.be/kj5uHNrjCys?si=6hH9MX-l5FykBnoz

For more info: linker.ee/jennazint

Summer Enrollment now!- Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call. 

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK]. 

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

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In this episode Jenna talks about how asking the wrong question can get you skewed results with your habits.  
She talks about how asking "Do I want to?" lends itself to a biased answers. 
Instead it's more helpful when your motivation is low to ask: 

• What's a my goal?
• What would be helpful for me to get there?
• What edits/variations could I give me habit to better fit today?

It's not all or nothing when it comes to consistency, but if we keep asking the same question, we will keep getting the same answer. Change your question & you will change your answer. 

Summer Enrollment now!- Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call. 

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK]. 

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

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Enroll in Jenna's 10 Week: Habit Mastery Course >>  
Classes start Jan 23/24

In this episode Jenna shares her progression of her Jesus Habits over the last 2 years and how even with starting so small that have generated so much fruit. 

Her current Jesus  Habits 
1) one worship song
2) communion 
3) 10 mins of Bible reading

Summer Enrollment now!- Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call. 

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK]. 

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

Registration for Aaron’s { 12-Week } Porn Recovery Small Group is open NOW. 

Click here for the Saturday Morning group [LINK]

 or here for the Friday Afternoon group [LINK].

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Enroll in Jenna's 10 Week: Habit Mastery Course >>   Classes start Jan 23/24

Jenna walks you through how to build a habit to hit your goals for 2024 in this episode. 
Grab a pen & paper and turn your new years resolution into a ridiculously small habit.
As you DIAL in consistency, with this starter step- you then can upgrade to more!
Most people's resolutions fail because they go too big too fast.

Here is the link to the free HABIT FORMULA
https://thehabitlab.myflodesk.com/habitformula

Summer Enrollment now!- Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call. 

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK]. 

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

Registration for Aaron’s { 12-Week } Porn Recovery Small Group is open NOW. 

Click here for the Saturday Morning group [LINK]

 or here for the Friday Afternoon group [LINK].

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Want to join Jenna's Bible Habit group- become a $9/month sponsor of our podcast & you get access to the Private Group, monthly calls & more -
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You can start at any point in the year!