The Happier Life Project

"What if I die before I have the chance to exist?"

An existential crisis can happen to anyone, leading many to question their existence, identity and purpose in life. Experiencing an existential crisis may cause you to feel angry, helpless, lost, panicked and is usually accompanied by dread, anxiety, stress and depression; often to such a degree that they disturb your normal functioning in everyday life.

But it doesn’t have to be a bad thing or something to fear. Experiencing an existential crisis forces you to examine your life and consider “how can I show up in the world that means something to me?”

Dr. Sara Kuburic is an existential psychotherapist, speaker, essayist, columnist, consultant, influencer and author of ‘It's On Me. Accept hard truths, discover your self, and change your life’.

IT’S ON ME is a guide to identifying self-loss, and discovering the freedom that comes from taking responsibility for how we live. It offers an enlightening blueprint to find your own answers to the questions “who am I?” and “why am I here?”

Known as the millennial therapist online (with over 1.7 million followers on Instagram), Dr. Sara believes that “in order to be who we truly are, we need to shelve who we are not.”

Dr. Sara is a passionate advocate for being the leading character of your own life. She believes we need to stop pretending and choose the truth.

*Note this episode is a repeat broadcast 

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Breakups can shake your world; emotionally, mentally, and even physically.

When it comes to our mental wellbeing, the ending of a relationship or the loss of someone we love can leave a profound impact. Going through a breakup often brings a wave of intense emotional pain, sometimes even physical pain,  that can leave us feeling vulnerable, deflated, anxious, and stuck on repeat. The mind races with memories, what-ifs, and alternate outcomes, as we struggle to come to terms with someone no longer being part of our life.

Feeling sadness, loneliness, low self-esteem, and a loss of motivation is completely normal during heartbreak. But if we isolate ourselves or get consumed by these feelings for too long, there’s a risk of falling into deeper mental health struggles, such as anxiety disorders or depression.

To help us make sense of this emotional rollercoaster, host Gabby Sanderson is joined by certified dating and relationship coach Adrienne Everheart. Adrienne is a feminine energy therapist, bestselling author of '500 Ways to Talk to a Man', and the creator of the “ABCs to Get Him Back” program. She’s helped countless women heal after heartbreak, rebuild their confidence, and move forward from relationships that were no longer serving them.

In this powerful conversation, Adrienne shares insight into why, after a breakup, people often obsess over what could have been, rather than what actually was. She explains how the grieving process is deeply personal, with no one-size-fits-all timeline for healing, and offers advice on navigating tricky dynamics with mutual friends when a breakup disrupts the social circle.

The episode also delves into the psychological science behind breakups, depression, and grief and how they can trigger deep wounds to come to the surface, such as abandonment issues. Adrienne highlights why every relationship carries valuable lessons and provides practical guidance on rebuilding self-worth, restoring confidence, and opening the heart again to call in the kind of love that truly aligns.

Whether you are moving on or holding onto hope, this episode offers support, perspective, and reassurance that healing is possible, no matter how deep the hurt.

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For more on Adrienne Everheart and her courses: https://everheartcoaching.com/

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When we explore the link between sex and mental health, it becomes clear that many complex factors are at play. A satisfying and healthy sex life can support emotional wellbeing and boost our mental health. But on the flip side, unenjoyable or painful sex can contribute to anxiety, low mood, and emotional distress.

In this episode of The Happier Life Project, as part of our mini-series examining romantic relationships and wellbeing, host Gabby Sanderson is joined by Kate Moyle, a psychosexual and relationship therapist who works with individuals and couples navigating difficulties in their sex lives or questions around sexuality.

Kate is the host of 'The Sexual Wellness Sessions Podcast', a regular media voice on sex and relationships, and the author of 'The Science of Sex'. In this open and eye-opening conversation, she and Gabby delve into why sex still feels so taboo, how suppression impacts wellbeing, and how performance anxiety shows up in the bedroom.

They also discuss why many women find it difficult to express their sexual needs, how self-pleasure and healthy communication can enhance mental and emotional health, and the common emotional fallout of “sex with an ex” or “friends with benefits” when expectations don’t align. Plus, Kate explains why we need to retire the word “clean” when talking about sexual health checks, and how the words we use, and the openness we bring, shape our experience of intimacy.

Let’s get comfortable with the uncomfortable, and start having healthier conversations about sex.

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🔗 For more on  Kate Moyle visit:

https://www.katemoyle.co.uk/

https://instagram.com/katemoyletherapy/

Buy the book The Science of Sex: https://amzn.eu/d/5LQTVYA

Continuing The Happier Life Project’s ‘relationship month’ series, this week’s episode takes a powerful look at narcissists, narcissistic abuse, and toxic relationships with Dr. Jaime Zuckerman, licensed clinical psychologist, media contributor, and global expert in narcissistic abuse.

Dr. Z is a three-time published author and host of the podcast Next Up: Narcissism. A leading relationship coach for those experiencing narcissistic abuse, she’s also the founder of The Z Group, a private therapy practice specializing in anxiety, depression, and complex relationship dynamics. With years of in-depth research into narcissistic behavior, Dr. Z has empowered people around the world to break free from emotionally abusive relationships.

In conversation with host Gabby, Dr. Z unpacks the traits and tactics commonly used by narcissists, revealing why platforms like social media and dating apps offer ideal conditions for manipulation. She also sheds light on the type of person narcissists often target, and clears up a widespread myth: a toxic relationship doesn’t always mean a narcissist is involved.

Dr. Z shares why it often takes several attempts to leave a narcissistic abuser, whilst outlining the essential steps to take when you’re ready to get out for good. Her insights offer hope, clarity, and a powerful reminder that healing is always possible.

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🔗 For more on Dr. Jaime Zuckerman: 

https://www.instagram.com/dr.z_psychologist/

Dating and communication, whether with a partner or potential partner, can feel overwhelming and confusing. But with the right tools, it can actually be empowering… and even fun!

Criticism, defensiveness, silence, or feeling misunderstood are all signs of a communication breakdown. When communication goes wrong, it can seriously impact your confidence and self-worth. In a relationship, healthy communication is essential for navigating stress, de-escalating conflict, and staying emotionally connected. To communicate well means expressing yourself in a clear, confident, constructive and respectful way. When you bring this mindset into your dating life, you can avoid unnecessary confusion and heartache.

This week’s guest is Hayley Quinn, one of the UK’s leading dating coaches for both men and women. She’s on a mission to make dating great again! In her conversation with host Gabby, Hayley shares practical advice on how to communicate when someone you’re dating goes quiet, and what to say when you want to address defining the relationship. Hayley also explains why that elusive “spark” isn’t always a reliable sign of compatibility, and how to spot when dating is being used to avoid uncomfortable emotions.

Plus, Hayley calls out the unrealistic fairy tale narratives we’ve inherited (yes, Disney, she means you) and reminds us that real love is built, not magically bestowed.

If you’re dating, thinking about dating, or simply want to become a better communicator in your relationship, this episode is packed with relatable insights and helpful advice.

To download the free My Possible Self app: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast

🔗 For more on Hayley Quinn:

https://www.instagram.com/hayleyquinnx

While the team at My Possible Self is busy behind the scenes working on a podcast revamp for the new season, we didn’t want to go too quiet on you until September! So The Happier Life Project is bringing you a handpicked selection of standout episodes from our archives, starting with a mini-series all about mental health and romantic relationships.

In the first of five episodes, Gabby welcomes Therapy Jeff, a licensed professional counselor based in Portland. With millions of followers on TikTok and over 1.2 million on Instagram, Jeff is known for his bite-sized, relatable relationship content that regularly goes viral. He’s also the author of the book 'Big Dating Energy' and host of the popular relationship podcast 'Problem Solved'.

Together, Gabby and Jeff dive into the joys and pitfalls of online dating; from finding your dream match to receiving an unsolicited 'dick pic' and everything in between. Jeff shares his expert advice on spotting the early red flags on dating apps, handling the dreaded ghosters, crafting an authentic and enticing profile, and offers his top five tips for attracting the right match. Jeff and Gabby also have some fun exploring the best (and worst) opening lines after a match.

So whether you're deep in the dating trenches or just dipping a toe into the app pool, this episode is packed with laughs, lessons, and everything you need to swipe smarter and navigate the world of online dating with more confidence.

To download the free My Possible Self app: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast

🔗 For more on Therapy Jeff:

https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff

https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff/

Congratulations on completing the Month of Mindfulness Challenge! 🌿

The Happier Life Project is taking a little break from broadcasting while we prepare for an exciting new season of the podcast; complete with a fresh look and format.

Stay tuned for updates on our Instagram page: @mypossibleself

Thank you for being part of our community, we can’t wait to share what’s next with you!

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Generosity is about turning away from self-focused actions and offering our time and attention to the needs of others.

It doesn’t have to be monetary or material, generosity can be as simple as giving someone your full, undivided attention in a conversation, offering a smile to a stranger, or helping someone with a task they’re struggling with.

Generosity is the last of the nine main attitudes of mindfulness, so what better way to close your month of mindfulness challenge than learning how we can implement more generosity into our lives. It reminds us how small, intentional acts of giving can make both our inner and outer worlds, better places to live in. 

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Contentment means feeling at peace with who you are, where you are, and what you have.

In today’s practice, try this simple mindfulness exercise to help shift your focus toward what you do have, rather than what you don’t.

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The practice of mindfulness includes nine key pillars or attitudes, these are: non judging, gratitude, patience, a beginner's mind, trust, non-striving, acceptance, letting go, and generosity. The attitudes support each other and are deeply interconnected. Throughout the month of mindfulness challenge we have been making our way through these pillars and today we are practicing letting go.

Letting go means releasing the emotional baggage that weighs us down; whether it’s past regrets, unresolved issues, or fears about the future. These burdens can prevent us from living fully and freely.

So there’s no time like the present to practice letting go of any stress, fears and negative emotions. Host Gabby will guide you through a meditation that uses visualization, breathwork, and relaxation techniques to help you let go and release what no longer serves you.

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