February 14, 2025

The Hidden Impact of Overworking & Stress on Your Fertility During Infertility & IVF

29 minutes

"If you've been in this fertility journey, you have probably had a spreadsheet for everything."

Topics Discussed

The addiction to busyness & why it keeps you stuck in your fertility journey

Why we equate doing more with progress (and why that’s a lie)

How avoiding stillness is actually avoiding healing

The subconscious patterns that drive over-researching and over-planning

How Mabel, Monica & Monique tackle the obsession with control

What happens when you finally slow down and listen to your intuition

The role of stress, cortisol, and burnout in fertility struggles

Why busyness is often a form of emotional avoidance

The mindset shifts needed to embrace trust and surrender

Practical steps to break free from the cycle of overdoing

"Busyness isn’t always about progress. Sometimes it’s just a fancy disguise for avoidance."

Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d

Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a

Hello, beautiful- Monica here, and today we are about to RUIN your addiction to busyness—in the best way possible. You see, I know you. You’re the type who has an ovulation tracking spreadsheet, a supplement rotation schedule, and a fertility research folder so detailed that even a NASA scientist would be impressed. And hey, I was that girl too. But let’s be real for a second—how’s that working out for you?

Monique is rolling her eyes SO HARD at Mabel today because, spoiler alert, Mabel thinks if she just does more, she’ll fixher fertility struggles. Sound familiar? But what if doing more is actually the problem? What if your obsession with figuring it all out is the very thing standing in your way?

Today, we’re diving into why busyness is often just a sneaky way to avoid the real emotional work. Why sitting still feels terrifying. Why slowing down might be your biggest act of healing yet. Oh, and if you think this episode is gonna be all soft and fluffy, don’t worry—Monique is here with some tough love (and a few hard truths you probably don’t want to hear but absolutely need to).

And because I love making things super practical, I’m giving you a little challenge at the end: Five minutes of stillness. No distractions, no research, no checking your fertility apps. Just you, sitting with yourself. Scary, right? That’s the point.

So grab your tea (or let’s be real, your third cup of coffee), and let’s get into it.

"If you don’t give yourself permission to slow down, your body will do it for you."

Timestamps

00:00 - Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast

00:10 - The real work of uncovering the hidden layers of your fertility journey

00:37 - Why radical responsibility is key to getting pregnant

00:51 - Disclaimer: Finding Fertility empowers, not diagnoses

01:15 - Recap: Did you listen to my episodes with Tally Miller?

01:44 - Grounding meditation: Releasing the addiction to busyness

07:19 - Are you addicted to busyness? Let’s talk about it

07:49 - The fertility journey spreadsheet life (yep, we’ve all been there)

08:17 - What happens when you STOP trying to fix everything?

10:38 - The illusion of control & why Mabel is struggling

11:05 - Monique calls out the hustle culture in fertility

12:27 - The subconscious patterns keeping you stuck in overdoing

14:54 - What happens when you finally slow down & listen to your body

17:05 - IVF as a bypass for deeper healing (let’s get real)

19:29 - Healing requires space, not just more action

21:25 - The hardest thing to surrender: The way you’ve been living

23:49 - My personal story: Quitting my job & shifting priorities

25:17 - Three journal prompts to help you break free from busyness

26:41 - Monique’s take: Stuffing down emotions isn’t a long-term strategy

27:40 - Your challenge: 5 minutes of stillness—no distractions

28:08 - Your default energy is running the show (not your yoga practice)

29:28 - Closing thoughts & next week’s deep dive into emotional baggage

"Repressed feelings don’t stay repressed. They just get passive-aggressive—like resentment toward your partner for breathing too loudly."

Full Transcript on the Blog:

https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-block-to-fertility-success-overcoming-suppressed-emotions-during-infertility-ivf

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

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