May 09, 2025

The Hidden Reason You’re Addicted to “Doing” on Your TTC, Infertility & IVF Journey

23 minutes

Stillness isn’t stagnation. It’s integration.

Topics Discussed

The chaos addiction blocking your fertility

Nervous system dysregulation and fertility struggles

How trauma patterns show up after you get pregnant

Epigenetics, motherhood, and the cost of overdoing

Why your body can’t receive in a high-alert state

The energetic upgrade from hustle to healing

How to actually trust the pause without spiraling

You can chase in chaos, but you can’t receive in chaos.

Show Notes Summary

Hello Beautiful Souls, the voice of Monica here...

This one's raw, real, and honestly a little uncomfortable, in the best way. I skipped a podcast episode for the first time in five years. Not because I forgot. Not because I didn’t care. But because I’m practicing what I preach: stepping out of chaos and into calm.

This episode is a full-on permission slip to stop running yourself into the ground in the name of fertility. The endless doing, fixing, tweaking, chasing—it might feel productive, but it’s actually the very frequency that’s keeping your body in survival. Stillness, on the other hand, is scary because it’s unfamiliar. But that’s exactly where your intuition gets loud and your nervous system learns to receive.

I get into how these patterns don’t magically disappear once you get pregnant, and why so many mamas find themselves overwhelmed, triggered, and exhausted postpartum. If your chaos feels safer than peace, this episode is your invitation to shift.

Press play. Let it land. And ask yourself: what if letting go is what moves you forward?

You’re not falling behind. You’re finally tuning in.

Timestamps

00:00 Why chaos is more comfortable than calm

03:25 The illusion of productivity in your fertility journey

04:52 Pregnancy and motherhood don’t erase your patterns

07:50 The chaos comfort zone and your nervous system

08:51 Why peace can feel like panic and how to shift

12:54 Stillness as the gateway to intuition and coherence

14:50 How to gently rewire your frequency without overwhelm

16:18 Stillness doesn't mean failure. It means possibility

20:04 Preview of next week’s grounding and clearing practice

Read Mable's Truth # 10: Finding Comfort in Chaos During Infertility & IVF: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-10-finding-comfort-in-chaos-during-infertility-ivf

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-reason-you-re-addicted-to-doing-on-your-ttc-infertility-ivf-journey

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

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