In this post, I talk about the 30 day no contact rule for men. Does this really help to get women back after they’ve broken up with you? The answer may surprise you! Here’s what you need to know.

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today I'm here to answer a very specific question. I found this question on dating advice forum that I frequent sometimes and, and I, I wasn't even planning on doing a video about this. But this, this, this gentleman who posted this just seems to be in a really difficult spot. And I was driven to, to kind of answer it because I've been there. And I was hoping that I could help them a little bit with this. So I'm going to post this video is replying and so good, sir. Hope it helps you. And I hope it helps everyone else who might view it. This is about 30 day no contact. And I'm going to read you this question. He says it's been two weeks since the breakup. And it's been hell, I'm trying 30 days no contact to see if I can get her back. But the days feel like yours. All I do is think about her. I don't know how I'm gonna get through this. Okay, so this is a very difficult place to be. I've been there many, many times, heartbroken, you know, I assume it's a woman.

Get her back. So it's a woman, he is, you know, they broke up, he doesn't say if she left or he left, I'm assuming it's her left. But you know, I don't know, it doesn't actually matter, though. For the case of this, it doesn't matter. 

This post is for the ladies and gentlemen who suffer from social anxiety. I’m going to break down what exactly social anxiety is, and give you a strategy that you can use to overcome it so that you can succeed in the dating marketplace.

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Alright, today we're talking about a pretty important topic, this topic was actually brought up to me by a friend.

I've been struggling with a bit of congestion. So forgive me if I sound a bit congested. Um, I've been asking some of my friends and colleagues, what kind of challenges they face on the dating market. And I got this really interesting message back from one of my really, really good friends. And he basically says that, you know, for him a big challenge of dating is social anxiety. And this is not uncommon, a lot of people deal with social anxiety in dating. And so in this post, we're going to talk about that a little bit, we're going to talk about how you can overcome it.

This post is for the ladies and the gentlemen. Tribal dating is an important topic that I haven’t covered much. Today, I decided to define the term and talk about the basics.

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Alright, today we're gonna talk about something really important. Going football here, we're gonna talk about tribal dating. Now, I have not published any content on this, because this is kind of something that is kind of something that I've been waiting to talk about.

Until I was ready, I had my thoughts formulated for it. I've been thinking about this topic a lot, researching it a lot, and I'm ready to start doing some content on it. And so

let me just start off by saying that I think that of all the different types of dating out there. You know, there's many different ways to meet people. And that's really what I mean by the type of dating. So there's like online dating. There's cold approach where you just approach people you know, that you see on the street and you introduce yourself.

You know, this kind of like networking, dating repair much date in your, your social networks.

When you meet people, through like, friends of friends and stuff like that, you know, that's kind of what that is. But then we start to get into an area that I called tribal dating. And tribal dating is basically the idea that you meet potential partners or your potential partner pool exists within your current like tribe, slash community framework.

In this post, I talk to the ladies and the gentlemen of my audience about self loathing, low self confidence, and hopelessness. If you find yourself thinking "I hate myself, there's no hope for me," then this is the episode that you need to listen to. 

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And today, we're gonna be talking about a pretty important topic, which is what to do if you hate yourself. Okay, now, there's an epidemic of low self esteem and low confidence in our culture.

I'm not completely sure why that's the case, I guess there's a chance that it's always been that way. But I've only been alive for 33 years at this point, while 34 years now. And so I can only speak for you know, the later end of that.

But I have a feeling that it's probably always been like that to a point. And the reason being is because the vast majority of people, by default are a lot more self conscious than they are, like self aware. So you're, you know, you're judging yourself rather than evaluating yourself. And so that's kind of the main thing. And when you judge yourself, what you're doing is you're kind of looking at yourself through a lens, like a critical lens, you know, of criticism, and you're looking at all the flaws, you're trying to find all the flaws, right? And razz when you're self-aware, is trying to be aware of the processes that are going on and being honest about them.

This post is for the ladies and the gentlemen. Should you get back together with your ex? In this post, I explain why it is USUALLY a VERY BAD IDEA.

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This person says, I had been in a relationship with this guy for about two years. So this is a lady. This really is advice for ladies or gentlemen, but I'm the person posting this as a lady.

They said that he had a bad drinking habit. They couldn't tolerate it. She said she tried to help him quit. But he could not help himself. So her language literally she says I abandon him for two to three months, I guess. I mean, she just kind of took off and didn't say anything, right? Um, and then she said that after that, she called him out of the blue. He didn't answer the calls or the texts.

But then he ended up finally responding. I called him in the evening, he said he was going to tell me something. He told me he had met someone and didn't want to hurt her. He still asked me whether I wanted to spend a night with him one last time. He also said he is not sure whether it will work between him and this new girl. This person says she doesn't know why she feels bad losing him to this woman, Does he still have feelings for her? Okay?

Now, there's a lot of, there's a lot to unpack in this, but we're just going to go through it. And I'm just kind of going to give my opinion on this. I'm also going to post this in the forum. So hopefully this will help.

In this post, I talk about the importance of self honesty, self integrity, and being honest with other people. All of these things tie-in together. They are all alpha-traits, and they all empower us to have better, stronger, healthier relationships. They also make us happier!

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Today, I have a really powerful thought they need to talk to you about this one's for men and women. If you want to improve your dating life, improve the quality of relationships and improve your happiness. This is very important self honesty, self integrity. And being honest to other people, this is so important, and we're coming up on Thanksgiving. It is almost the holiday season. And this is very timely for the holidays. Because what happens around the holiday time is that a lot of people end up spending time around family. And not everyone has a super good experience with their family. And there is sometimes a lot of pressure to not be your genuine self, either to avoid conflict, or to avoid trouble. Or to avoid having people dislike you, whatever it is. All right. So today we're going to talk about this, I have noticed that I struggled with this a lot in my life before I really kind of embraced it. I had a difficult time being honest with myself and with other people, I had a difficult time figuring out what I really wanted. And then I had a really difficult time telling other people what I really wanted. The reason being is because I tend to be a little bit conflict averse by nature.

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“Instead of telling people that they have to love themselves before they can love someone else, tell them they need to be happy with who they are first before they can be happy with another. It's easier to understand the concept of being happy with one's self, and might be the right phrasing to get through the communication barriers. Happiness is easier to define than love, and easier to attain.

We're allowed to dislike ourselves from time to time; it gives us room to know we have things to work on. The pressure of having to love ourselves can become feeling like we're unlovable if we're not perfect. It leads us to accept partners who push us to change who we are, feeling the need for outside validation because we haven't allowed ourselves to be happy with who we are.  We chase their approval, trusting that they'll mold us into someone who is perfect, loveable, even if it's only their version of it. All the while, inside you're still feeling conflicted, because all that change won't make you comfortable with who you are. Feeling positive is fleeting, as you can only be happy as long as the other person is happy with who you've been for the day. You'll feel even worse, because you're further than ever from the person who you want to be, but that understanding isn't available to you in the confusion of needing to figure out why you're unlovable if you're being yourself.

By turning your focus to being happy, it creates little steps that are achievable. Take a moment to ask yourself what would honestly make you feel better, and explore those options. It can be anything: music, tea or coffee, a phone call, a shower, something to eat, 5 minutes of quiet, a movie, book, or podcast, a nap, a hobby, a walk, etc. Listen deep for what your mind or body is truly craving, and make time for it. When you start focusing on making time for your needs and wants, you'll slowly gain that footing to be happy, regardless of whatever is going on around you." - Amy Lance

This one is for the ladies and the gentlemen. Do you ever deal with anger over the past? Do you think about past relationships and struggle to get past the anger you feel about them? If so, this episode is for you. In this episode, I talk about the two different types of ‘past relationship anger,’ what they mean, and how to get past it.

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I have a quick couple of thoughts today about post-breakup anger.

All right, now, here's the thing.

A lot of times when we experience, you know, the end of a relationship, whether it be the end of a marriage, the end of a dating relationship, sometimes even the end of a friendship, we're going to go through a series of stages, you know, there's the stages of grief, you do grieve that relationship. And so you're going to be sad about it, you're going to be depressed about it a little bit.

And eventually, you know, you're probably going to settle into a sort of an angry space. And for some people, that lasts a long time for some people not as long, okay?

Now, if you're the type of person who tends to get, you know, who tends to get an angry spot, and stay there for a while? That's kind of what we're talking about today. So, I have some experience with this, because, because in my older life, you know, when I was kind of a beta, when I was a weak-minded man, when I was not embracing the alpha mentality,

I am, I would just get sad, right? I would just get sad about breakups. And I would cry, and I'd be depressed, you know, and No, there's nothing wrong with that everyone is going to feel depressed. Sometimes, everyone's going to cry sometimes. In fact, you should go through those things about your breakups, so you can move on with it, right? But here's the thing.

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Today, I answer a man’s questions about why he is having trouble with the ladies. He messaged me and shared some of his troubles, and in this video, I go through the message and offer some insight. Kudos to this gentleman for reaching out and starting the conversation. This is how we win! We level up… mind, body, spirit.

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All right, I have a pretty cool video today. And basically, I got messaged by a gentleman who's having some dating problems. And he was asking me for some advice. And basically, what I'm going to do is I'm going to read through just kind of vaguely the messages we talked about back in back and forth. And, and I'm going to kind of... we messaged back and forth a little bit. Basically, what I'm going to do is I'm going to film this video. This is pretty like, obviously, his situation is unique to him. But there are a lot of men who are dealing with kind of different versions of this situation. And so I felt like making this video be helpful for him. And then it might also help some other men who are going through similar things. So we're just going to jump into it here, he says, the basics, it's that he's been single for the most part for the last two years, he had a couple of heartbreaking relationships prior to that, that really destroyed him allowed, and then allowed him to let a major toxic person into his life is what it sounds like. He says, I went through a dark place in life and had enough became single found my spiritual path and accepted that I'm pagan. So you know, he's got some spiritual beliefs there. Since then, I'll dabble in the dating scene, but never with any success. Most women that have shown interest, they don't get to a first date due to different reasons. It just doesn't work. I've had maybe seven or eight women in the past year. Chase me showing interest but only two of them felt the connection and went with it. One lasted a week before there were issues on her end. And then you know, the others didn't work. I tends to fall fast, usually. Okay, now we're gonna, we're gonna stop here.

If you've ever failed at the dating game (and we all have), you may be tempted to feel discouraged. Here is some advice to help you through it.

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So failures happen, failures are not fun, they are a fact of life, they're going to happen to you. If they don't happen every day, you're very fortunate. But then again, you're not unfortunate it failures happen to you. The thing about failing, whether it's in dating, you know, getting rejected, whether it's, you know, getting broken up with, and thinking about that as a failure, or whether it is feeling like, you know, you can never succeed in looking as good as you want to, or, you know, you feel like you're terrible at flirting, or when you try to get a number, it doesn't work, or when you try to, you know, talk to that guy you like, he doesn't respond, well, you know, it doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman failure has happened to all of us. And so the thing that's important to keep in mind is not, you know, the goal is not to wish the failure didn't happen. The goal is to learn from our failures make them they're our greatest lessons, I have learned more about dating, and attraction and human mating behavior, from my failed experiences than from the successful ones. Because the successful ones, you know, you're just happy that they happened. And you're like, Oh, this is so nice. I'm glad this happened. But that's not the real meat of the experience, you know, the real stuff happens when you really fail. And that gives you a powerful metric to measure against. It's like, Well, why? Why didn't this go the way I wanted it to? Why did this end up so badly? Like, what could have been done to avoid this, you know, and that's how we turn failures into great lessons. This is very important.